Articles Book III - Pg 1-117 (Adoptees) - triadoption

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'We ask tor it in strange w~,%and are that you've InvesflRold thought 

rarely dlrect. We otlon play gomes." It Wl carefuliv, olhers Qef a clf~rer 

One of tho most comrnon games is Idea 01 your wlshos loo. And Vw ralso 

the "8vy ~c/~ove ~ 8 Qome, " Many fho odds of havtng them fulfilled. NO 

people, adults ond teens allke, thlnk games, just Iho SlralQht facts and an 

that objects trom mrneor)e are o stgn assertive apprwch. 

of lwe. fmd somellme$ they can be. 

But not whon they're needed or domonded 

as proof that someone 

cares. "My talheh gone on buslness KEEPING YOUR 

ttlps all tho tlrne." relates one TEEN 

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reader, "I hardly ever have any time SELF-ESTEEM 

with hlm. But he ahWs brlnos me a 01 course, knavlng your wants doesn't 

great gllt when he cornos home. larl ~ l w guarantee ~ ~ s you'll gel them.You 

may be stuck the '*I Did you have 0 pedect r~ghto ark" counsels 

Buy Me?" syndrome-not able 10 ark DI, Gonibtlll. "But the olhor potmn has 

lo1 or show a#eclton and uilno cb- ,-, @,ftrc) ,lg),) lo refuse." m refusal . 

lecfs as easy but Inadequate rub- Is a IIQ~~, not a s~~gt~t. In other words. I 

stltules. 

you aren't betno personoliv rejected 

Another Ploy people use 10 061 men yo,l receive a NO. 

. tlme It was gold earrln0sl"hls tamliv have lo know your rights too. 'YOU 

atfecllon or other serious needs met Is However, 11 your selt-tnteern sutlers 

Ihe "Pwr Me" Oame. Young Olrls In every time you hear a "Sorry." You 1 

. ' part~cu~ar are taught various plays in b e to start rebulldlng your personal- 

, thls dishonest, emollonal maneuver, worlh quoflent, YOU con do that In 

, By tooklng cute and helplebc they get -. 

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otfentlon. By looking sod and weepy FOI one. b prepared tot rejectton. 

they get oflecflon. BY lwklng sweet Remlnd yoursell 01 others' ~Ighls to Say ! 

and Innocent they get the11 wW. N-119 NO. fmd rernombor, lhat glvos you 

Is all at Ihe ev- 01 their om sense the =me right when ofhen ask favors 

of strength and 10lf-eSf8em. "I just vou comfortable ogreelng to. 

haw to pout a lltlle 10 081 what I Tell younell, "They're not saving NO lo , 

wont." confldes a Calltomla reader. me as a pelson, only to my request." 

Such rnethodr ore all too frequent 

a Second, make a " ~eox~u Whf Ilst. 

but not alvmv heolthy. For example. And start by putflng yourself In olhers' 

suqgesls Dr. Gambrlll. "Glrls cOmm0nl~ shoes, such as the next Nme you have 

tend to mlle when maWn9 serl0Us re- 10 soy NO to a favor. A gllltrlend asks 

quests, but that can dllule thelr mes- If you can help her fhk weekend lo 

soge:'Do you fd you~lf mlllng shy. study for her algebra f~nc~ dnce you're. 

ty when asWw a favor'? In an attempt in her wmds, an "Einsteh" Well. you 

to ease you dlscomtort, you may may have the qualltlcatfons, but you 

really be mow thlnos more UIfflcult. don't have the time. After 011, you 

For one ihlng. w're subtly tmlnlng h c 011 ~ your f~na~s to study fw and 

yourself to undervalue your own your parents' annivenocy dlnner thts 

wlshes. And you're lncreosln0 the . weekend. Should your Mend lee1 reodds 

that othen won't take them sect- . jected when yw tell her. "Sory. I can't 

ously elther. 

help you"? The slmple answer Is "No." 

Belng faken seriously not only re- "There's danger in ossurntng that 

qulros more honesty and undersfand- eve^/ NO IS a rejection." wys Dr. Mar- 

Ing about vow wonts. but a more dl- chant. "MOS~ have good, mkal rea- 

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rect apprwch as well. Know aons bettlnd them." That's easy tosee 

your needs are-whelher theV~e for a when you're the one soylng NO. but 

lltfle reassurance. ftme with Wneone mt alwaysvrhen you're on the recelvof 

some collng. And know what Your tng end. Start lwklng at the reasons 

wants ore-whether they're small athen refuse you. 

fovors, new pctvlleges or specla1 Po+ your mother can't toke you shopsssslons. 

plng rlght riow for that nevr wMt she 

Part of knowing your own wishes Is promised you. The 1-9 cwld be 

dolng your homework. Not the 6Ch00l i that she's: 0.) low on funds, b.) planyarlety. 

but wry slmllor. Let's W' Yw nlng It as a surprlse lor Mer, c.] meel- 

, wont a spedal (and expendve) Pre+ Ing with your brother's teacher today 

ent tor gradwtlm, tor InStanCe. Would Instead, d.) feollng oveworked and 

you have a boner chance Of OefflnCl needs a rest. The llst could 00 on and 

It It you just asked your parents or It on, depedlng on the hdbldwl clryou 

researched It thoroughh' before cumstances. 

asklng? Knowing u~hat make Is the NO^ c- tor a voicaty ot reasons. 

best, Wmre the lowest prlces In town but they usuol~y hove one thlng In 

are, whon It's tplw on sale and what common. They hove more to do wilh 

the forms of payment are-all could the perm,, who's mng the NO thon 

maxlmlze you chances of oettlng 11. lhe pem who's askh the favor. In 

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hhdted. Mh tl iwims rwo haws eod: 

week at the Y, but It's just to keep ha 

weight c rw. Dod hod never wen c 

hlgh xhod boslcetbdl gome untll ( 

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'.. I forced mwlf to rertiew? the letter 

ond read on. 

"I wont to see you. If you ond Vwr 

. porents agree to o meefhg, you con' 

contoct me ot the number glven.. 

Whotwerpdecide.Ibveyou." ' 

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,There wos no slgnotwe, onty the, 

, number. It w s our area code, but I ' 

don't thlnk cur row. 1 

I'm not we how brig I mr thete, 

,storing or the letter. How mony times 

hod I dreorned of meetlng my reol 

porentd ILe ohvoys wondered obout 

~hern-fmtdzed obwr them. Now, I 

' wm't sure how I feh. Excited, we, 

but olso xored. ReoUy xored. 

y foce muw hove mirrored my 

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confaJM Vhen I went to the 

ldtchen with the letter. Rle mlnute 

Mom sow me she stopped peeling 

the corrots ond wiped her hods on o 

dish towel. 

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"MoMI, wt~ot's vmng? Dod newS 

from Rob?" .-- 

I shdc mv heod, ofmM to trust my -- - .. 

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! kce ond hbded her the envelope. . . ., ; 

Whcn she fmished reading she folded 

the letter ve, prw, I;ur in (he ONE, not even ywr other porents, con and I d~dn't wont to wol~ lhot long. R. 

sot do.+ , the em tolce you owq hM us. Yw're nolty. Mom suggested FrMoy. khool 

our little girl for ohvoys." 

wos W! 01 1 :30 tlmt day for teochen' 

"Well. I olwoys thwghr we'd molce "Wwld hhr fw me)" I 04~4. meetlngs ond I didn't hove o gome or 

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the firs move. And roiunrl you were 

proctke. 

21." When she lodced ot me, her . "YW lvww we,wovld." "I'M tole off work or noon," Mom 

eps were brimmhg WAI~ lean. "out. . "If I ew go to see my olher pot... :mid."Wth both of us free, we con get 

we'w toUwxi oobour . . .her." win, will and Dad 90 with me 'Ihe house cleaned UD ond food 

"Yes." My ace wos'o whlsper. It 

hod been yeon since we'd tollced 

much obour my other porents-yeon 

slnce we'd needed to. I muu hove 

bm7or81henwdIrememberbe 

comlng frlghtened thot they mlght 

find me ond tolee me owoy from 

Mom ond Dod. I didn't tdl onyone, but 

I storted hoving horrible, rerrlfylng 

nightmares. 

T 

he theme wos olwoys the 

some. I wos coprured by o 

mean, wroog wornon and lkpt on 

top of o mountoln. In o deep well or 

In o buiMmng sunwnded by fire. Mom 

ond Dod lepr twng to texue me but 

lhey weren't wrong mough. I'd wolce 

up xreomlng, drendred wlth swwt. 

After four or f~e of these dreoms. 

MMn Ilgured out whot WOS wroog. 

"Monnl, I wont you to lmw tho1 NO 

and hold my hods?" : 

"I promise." ; 

I shut my eyes, remembering how 

Mom hod crodled me, wrdhg my 

hair ond telling me how much she 

loved me. When I opened them, I sow 

her row, os ofrold of Mng me as I'd 

, been of logng her oU those yeon 090. 

I'd olwy, loved Mom In the sense 

rho1 ldds ore supposed to "W their 

porents, but wddenty I feh love for her 

as on oYecwhelming emotlon. I put 

my orms orwnd her ond buried my 

foce In her holr. 

"Whot ore we gang to do?" 

She wiped her eyes ond potled my 

hond. "Do? I gues we should 04s her 

to d~nner." ' I 

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eclding wos ~ s cwnpored y to 

doing It. Toduy wos Wedndoy. 

Dod wouldn't. be home for o wcek 

rqody." 

She thought I should relephone wlfh 

the Im4rorion. I thought of 20 reoms 

why I cot~ldn't. She mode the call ond 

as she ddiled. I olmow pafed ro one 

wwM answer. 

Someone did. 

"Thn is Deverty Mosoner." Mwn soid. 

Her Mlw wos YW and fcimol. "My 

dwghter ... Monk0 .. . rec* your 

letter this ohernoon. 9~'s odous to 

meet you. Could you Joh us for dim 

FrMq nlght?" 

Dy the doclc, there wos o 15.secd 

.pause. Dy llie bearing of my hMn, it 

wos holf o l~fetlpt. Then Mwn said. 

"Vcv good. Shol we my 7 p.m.?" 

Another pause, shorter, before 

Mom osleed. "Will you be comlng 

alone?" SUence, rlen. "I understand. 

Yes. we'll expect you then." 

Wheri Mom hung up I hibalded 

her wllli qtrestlons. "Wliot's her

1 I nome, Whot did she sov? Is he morrled? Is 

he comingY 

Mom's lips were tigtir. "Her nome now is h r I Wcwon. 

I I A'S comliQ 

marled, bur will be alone, l dcdr Inow onV 

thlng else." 

1 I "Whor did she swnd Llte?" - 

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"011, pleosonr." 

I I I do voti thinlc she loolcs Lice?" 

Mom sighed, lhot leryout~breoth~out~ln~exosperotlon 

type of Jgh. "Monko. I couldn'r see her over rhe rde 

phone. I'm hungv. Ww!d you pleose xr the tobk vb!e 

I rilsh this so~od?" 

"Mom! Is food oil you con ~lilnlc obour? How do you 

ihlnlc I feel?" 

Mom rurncd on rne with o fury. " 'How do you thidc I 

I feel?' mbht be o folrer questhil" she exploded. "Wr 

g"es thaiwomon ony nghr lo borge lnro our lm offer 18 

wars, And sneoldm orwnd mino on wut Does she thinlc 

i roirerl you to rum ku over ro'he now oher on the wwlc 

b done?" 

"Wak!" I screomed We. "Is thor on I meon to you? 

You'd pobobb be delighted if she corrled me owoyl" 

Mom benr over the Jnlc ond whodeed fwlovsly or a mr. 

rot. I opened the cupboard, grabbed a cwple of plores 

ood bonged the dwr shut. We evldentty turned toword ' 

the robk or the =me rlme; the plores In my hond hlr the 

~lod bowl in hen ond everylhiq cmshed ro the iloor. As 

I word or the mess. the words "potrety W' flashed 

through my mind. It wos fumy ond I wmed to lough. 

Mom Wed of me like I'd low my mhd, then she sforted 

loughlng with me. We wood there together-dmer N. 

lned. the ldrchen a shambles, our l i turned upride 

down-ond I'dmwer been hoppler h my hfe. 

the nes two dq. Frldoy nlghr wovl'r wl of 

D" my mind for more thon ftve mlnutes. I coM ibb 

ond,d coup, he wonted to come home. I told him no. 

I'm nor sure why, other thon feeling this wos somethrng I 

hod to do alone. 

Mom wos home ohwd of me Frldw ofremoon. I 

wolced h ond wrprlsed her befcie she hdd o &once ro 

yell "MmIm? Is tho1 MU?' She wos or the tobk ond vhen 

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.he sow me. *e trleb to hlde xrmethlng I'm yovngcr ond 

audcer. ond I oarbbed iir 11 wos mv dd hbv W c . which 

he us;d ro r&d to me unrll I woned schd. 

Mom roolc It bode and we turned lhe pager iogether. 

"Penember how you used to pour over tliis," she oJced. 

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"Yeoh." When I wos little. I often wonted "nv" We for 

J o bedrkne story. Mom ohvoys stdned rhe soine wq? 

"Once upon o time there were o mommy ond a doddy 

wtw wonred a lirtle girl bur dldn't hove one." My bbth cer. 

rificote wos there ond o pkture of the three of us when 

they broughr me home. And me srondng in my alb 

wt~en I wos eighr months dd. And me uneorlng bowlog 

h my hdr on my first blnhdoy. 

Mom pdnted to a plcture ralcen when I wos 3 ond Jy. 

"Thot's my favotite," she sou. "I'll never forget how you 

tried to hide from the phorogropher behind my Jun." 

She lw o new ond I stoned to q. "I wish I could hide 

now1 Whor If she's honible? I wish Dod were here!" 

"50 do I, Monnl." Mom squeezed my hond. "Dur he 

olled t k mrnlng to gk you Ns love and he'll coil ogoh 

lote tonlghr." Her mice wos soh. "l'm sure.. . Diono ... . b 

o h t y person. She'd hove to be, to have hod you." . - 

5he Jwr the bods, gulped her coffee and wood up. 

'We'd berrer ger busy Do you wont to code or deon?" 

I love coddng and hole deoning. Dut I could deon ond 

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tlloughr 

ny ot the ' vrme time, so "I caught the losr flight In ond toole 

I chose thot. Actually, the o to~I bwn the olrport. Mdn't figure 

house wornst on tlmr d~rry. I wcwmed &her of you gMr wouM hove time to 

ond dusted the lMng room ond dlning meet me." 

oreo, then x~bbed the bothrooms. I. "Whot about the meellngs?" Mom 

1 to lceep myself busy, Even w,,l wos oslced. 

, done by 430. "I told everycx\e sarnethlng more 

I Jiowered and dried my hoir. I ImpatfOflf hod come up. l moy lose o 

pideed ot the ultor I dld stretching ex. I~ttle business, bur It won't breolc us." 

ercises. I coll J' Rob, : he wos out.1 vied He lcissed hbn, then me. "Did either 

on three poln of Mns, two pm of of you thlnlc I'd leave you olone to 

sloclu and holf o dozen tops before foce ronlght?" 

dedding on on eonh-fond He mode It sound Ll(e we were 

ond my second.best Jeom. both golng to be thrown to the lions, 

11 still only 625, I wnlc Into my bur I didn't core. I felt more confident 

bwn.bog cholr d trled my favodte 0k-d~. jug becmse he was home. 

"exopew rridc: th~djng of Rob. mv. While he put owoy hls thlngs ond 

I con spend forever rememhi-q the W J h K J n I set the to& 

thlngs I lilce oht him-hls funny holf. fhkhed the wlods. 

mile. the woy he bdcs in blue, how we woted. 

he NN hls nngw through my holr, exoak 7 P.m, the dmfbell roo9 

then hdds my foce to 14s me. Tonlght 09M. I 9lonced 01 then Dad. 

I con horcty remember whot he lode was biting her lower @ ).H 

lilce. 

eyes were enormous clrcles. Dod 

I got uiond wondered into Mom's lodeed fine. when he Wte hb 

room to agr dk she dressed. Nor.. dce WOS forced ond unnontrol. 

molty. she liles to be done. "A i i prC ''Do you woof to answer 1. -1: 

MCY, PLWE, Mami." She'l my. or hl I?" 

Not tw\lght. fhe was st~tng, go* "I will." I todc o deep breoth ond 

ing into her doset JUSI l~lce I'd done. A wked 10 the dm. MY bond touched 

clue thor she wos nervous too.. the Mcnob, but I didn't hove the 

"Whot:s opproprlote?': she odced. streogrh 10 f ~ & It open. Then I 0 

"Jeons seemtoo cowol for m e tcwh 0-1 W M*, 0 hod on W 

my oge ond o dm 

15 too formd." w~&. and bod were right b? 

"How obour the chorcool slochs hL-d jug 0s they'd promW dl 

with tho1 blouse Dod gave you for thm? years ogo. CD 

Christmas?" I wggewed. 

"W os ~ M n g I , gum." Me 

pun& our the hong~.. 

I'm not %re why-pride, onogaxe, 

moybe-bur I wonted Mom to b d c 

her verv best. Funnv. I've - never - 

&f her or behg'any oge or on. 

Me's Mwn ond mothen ore dd. She's 

o Qaod 10 veon dder thon rnv other 

mother, Dioho. Out her hok & &I clod(. 

her Jdn st111 unlmed. her hure - mn. PJI 

in oll, he's beouti~. 

he got Into her dothes vmRe I xlt 

S cross-legged on the bed. She'd 

just glven her holr o flnol b~shlng 

when the dm&U rong. 

"Nor olrwdyl" she exdolrned, lodc 

Ing ot her wotch. "It's vlll 20 rrWtes 

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The beU rong ogdn. 

"Answer lr, Mom. rJeoseI" l begged. 

"I Juw con'r." 

The bell d~dn'r rhg o lhird rime. As 

Mom stoned down the holl. o forrvllor 

wlce colled out, "Anyone home?" 

"Doddyl" I screwned. I ron ofter 

Mom ond Dod swept us both lrvo h& 

orms. 

"How did you get bode?" I aJded. 

COMING 

NEXT 

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Bad News: How To 

Break It To Parents, 

.: . Friends And Boys 

All About Aerobic 

Exercise 

What Does Your 

Rising Sign Say About 

You? 

Home-Sewn Fashion

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THE NEW YORK TIMES, TUESDAY, MAY 11, 1962 

Those Forbidden to Know Their Heritage 

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mls.'! The panol concluded: "The 

dull ad lea Is most upnbleol delln- 

G, whal "P a In hlaown wellare." 

The bad news Is that under orunus 

from conservattve scnitord. 

Rlchrrd Schwcikcr, the prpenl 5- 

mary (of Health and Humm Sew. 

Ices) chose lo Innore the advlce 01 the 

~doptlon aulhorltle8 and turned back 

theclackby deletlng this vltal section 

lmm the llnal Model Slnle Adoptlon 

Act whleh wmt art to state ledsla. - 

lures Ln 1081. 

Balcty mbt tmgln asking. 81 did 

Cbs mdap(lon sapem, whom d m tho 

8ulH record sene? 

Cerulnly not the natural mothers, 

who bad "mlldentlalily" forced on 

,Umn ~d 1hU, M 8UWW long 

IrY Who im up to learn (hat they let to lmow what happened0 the bable 

thelr hudr 8lappcd when the vy to they relinquished. Certllnly not the 

put~leminto~anu~ed mmb;ar. rdopuw prrenfa,whoam llndlng that 

These "Cbo~n" bblw milk md they bus i better mlatlauhlp wllh 

~ N a p, 

d IOU of rplmch to make their chlldren when them .re M "sr- 

(hclr bmtr im ilmng, but mlortu. crcrr" dlvldlng lhem. And least of all 

nately lhay do not el the vlU lalor. the chlldm, who untll the mnla am 

maurn about ~bdr Rerttage they may 

need lo rn Inla pychol~cally 

+~rrbettlq both better ud 

mrw oradoplea. 

On the alde of the Ied~er: an 

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Amulw AdopUm C mgm 

W.ahln@on. May 7. Im

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num s rocmod mord tlroii 

clrc(mslantlsl, a plcturn of 

Darl. Sania's mlrmr lmngo. conllnued tholr grecllnga 

convinced tho womnn lo . and happy loam In parson. 

llnd Sorrla's tolophone Rnunlon 14. August 4: 

number. After a low da I Tho same news aper story 

Ilrls 2J.vnar-old . . slrlorcalh ...- gave blrill losno&cr dlscovand 

ma[ bsrnow famlly. ory. A woman who had 

Rcunlun 13, July 30: A worked at tho adonllon 

suburban Delmll nowspa- anoncv raw tho ~leci and 

pcr ran an arllcla chmnl- cillad Carrlo wllh lho cur. 

cllna ~" lhosa 

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mlrnculous 

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ra roc1 apollln of Mary's ununlonr 

and lharoby pro. usual adonl~ve namo. Nnd- ~.. . 

ducod analher, That avo- Inn lrcr wis as oaav as look- 

number. Alihounh tarrla 

usually rsfcnodio uso an Ing If lhoy wore bllva and 

lnlormoflsry to cualilonlhe how Uroy warn dolng. When 

shock. lira tomnlsllon ----. 

of 

- pnle callod. I blurled oul, 

i.piiki~~g to 11111 one ramem. Whore do vou IIvo? I'm 

bomd rlalor drove her lo iho wmlng rlgh~bvor.' " - 

to!q hone: 

Reunlon 19. Sanlcmber 

Pll. la tlilr Slrarry?" 11: In )a10 Augusi, Corrla 

"Yos!' 

rccalved yot onollior phono 

"Docs tho name Carlor call. lhla Ilmo lrom rhn 

rllr oholll" 

17or11at1on. "~0s.~ 

"Dona lhu namo Carrlo 

rlnu s ball7" 

A ou my alslcr? I've 

kon looh foryoul" 

~omenla4ator llie rlrlarr 

sho had solno llho io digobi 

hor now famlly lrw. Tcrry 

mot wllh Cnrrlo and wm- 

, a nurse who 

pany. lves oul olslslc, sllII eager. 

ly awallslrarchnnmto mcot 

her past. 

Raunlon Io.. Septcmbor 

23: Anothor nawspa er arllclo 

~rom~led onotffer call 

when tho' adopflvs mother 

of Kanny. agod 22. go1 in 

touch wllh Cartla. Con- 

Ilon. l a callod kcnny in 

Coornla. Ha declded that hlr 

new lob couldn'l compelc 

wllh a now lamll He 

pulled up atator snd'~me 

up lor a raunlon. On Sep 

lomlmr 23, Ute Carter brood 

weswm loto. 

Afler fl years 01 repera 

Iton. tho Carlcr fnrnUv. for- 

mombrler, has bluuoGod 

lnlo s real. lovfng unll. 

And . .- Chr!alrnas -. . -.. -. 1081 . wat 

a Joyous ond evenllul own. 

rlon for ilra Carlrr Udr-tl 

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yaors. 

Eva rlhling from Ccnl 

lo 082 hnr oxprrsrcd da- 

llghl wllh last summcr'r 

events, bul Sherry is l ~ l p 

hapey. "Tho o ,lul at for 

mu, she oxJolna. '11 roe. 

Ing all of us kids. knaalng 

that we lraro nll had our 

rougli roods lo go hul wo 

haveallcamolhrougliil. \Ye 

aro all wondorlul sop10 

who havagood llvoslr our. 

rolvos." 

Part of lhls loy comes 

Imm o aenso of erronal 

ldonllty comonlof by the 

knowledgo of tholr roo~s. 

Canlo cxplnlns: "Not knoa- 

Ing your ant ovonluallg be. 

comos inPblerablc. You leol 

iu If you'ro Incomplete. You 

wondor who you aro, who 

you lookllko.' 

And h4ory wnllnues: "I 

hove bad s good IIfo wllh mg 

adopllvo nrnnlr, but II has 

had a vol$ln I!. Scolng eo 

. 

PIC loo); 11);~ 

lho snmo.sha ~od nose, 1110 

sams bloorl. 110s mado me 

fwl llkoo wliolo pcrron." 

me, lnqe 

Noxl IVaak: Mom's Rock 

Nl&t wllh tho Slonu

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'; Sealed data ,.. . I 

1 

! 

keep adoptee- 1 

I 

I 

from her past 1 

A h.ycar.old llacke~latown irl, who was lhrec , 

days old when she was adopted, & I 

m ~hlng for her 

mnfhor~ ...--.-.. 

"I wish lhat my birth molhcr would search for me 

and 1 hope shc sham the same feellnp 1 do," sald $ q ~ . 

Guslavson, an eighth.gradcr at Long Valley Mlddle 

EliEw1- 

Hcr search so far has bccn fulllc. becaue of Ule I 

flon mrds should kopi;n:'the youngsler~ld ', ,:, 1 

Sue Isn't aloneln herfrustratlo~. ' " 

Hundreds ~~. of ~. New . - Jemv , adonlea-mmt ~~.~ of them adulls-fnlr compulalvenced to find (helrnatural par- 

I 

' enb.% light lo o ado Uon rmrds, which hash 

going on for more E n 8 hcrde, is more up lmnt tlua 

&before. : 

Adoptive parcolt are spllt In their viels. Some, 

llke Sue's parents, belleve ado tees and lhelr birth r. 

cnls have a rich1 to search. 0t!cn feel Ulc ~... hlra mogr 

sigoedaway aTlrl hkcphcnshegavo~~herbaby. , 

The blrthmo 'i her'aslo~~ usunllpmmlhemme~he 

It 1 young, unmarried lrl who cla pngmnt, and ber 

embarrassed famil shfpl her ofi somewhere until Ule 

baby b born. The taby Ulen is laced with sdopllvc 

psrenls. And lheshte pemancnt!y ban her fmmnu 

bin hcrchllda aln. ' 

Ifuelaoneof!hosobabla. - ' : '' 

And she #greed to tell hcr slory beeruse she h 

backedln hersearch by heradopllvc arm&. 

"I fml il's necessary so 1 can lid oul my medical 

backtround, and keause you wonder where you epme 

from. . ..'sheaald. 

. -.- . 

"hfmt of all. I ~ cr itb out of a real curiodl I 

think I have e rlghtt know who brought me into &lt 

world:'ahesald 

. . . 

Thenced lo know began In lhlrd gradc,shesald. 

"My teachers used to give me r hard tlms Uke 

when a clw project camo up, llke wrilln an auloblog. 

ra~hv or drawlnlr a famllv Ire. I'd have fo wrltc doan 

mj' idoptive paGnls' background and lhat didn't feel 

right for me. 1 knew wmelhlng wasmLuln "shesald. 

"When I'd lell the teech~rs I was s&pted, lbey'd 

announce Il toU~e classand I'd fecl embamssed." 

Slncc then, she learncd,"Thcre'a nolhln lo be 

embarrassed ahul. But it's bccause wolc . . don$ underaLand 

whatadopllon baboul. . . 

"llr really silly to have everything boml. Bchf 

adoplcdlsn't snslrangc. You'rea normal human be@ 

sbesald. -~ ~- 

Suc'a favoritc s rb am horseback tldlng and 

I 

skllng, rnd her favorg subject b smhl studla Sbe'a 

nolsurc, however, whalcnreerahewanlatopumuc. 

"I'm not sure yeL..a8 long as It's r good-pagbg 

lob,"shesald. . . 

I- - . , -. . - I 

. - . 

"I don'l undcnland wh ado llon a~cnrla have lo 

knpcvcrylhin~lwkcd uo.lYhw t&nkwhencchl!d fin& 1' 

a blrthpaienl,thtre iul'lhnodih love tospre.~damund." 

Sucstrcuedshe wassearchlnglor her blrthmw 

bccause of her needs Lo know. 

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Ym.'Gu!tavson Is a board member of Concerned 

Unllcd Blrlhpannls (CUB b nallonal or anltnlion 

B I 

bad In Mlllord. Mass. CU vrovldcs SUDW i wrvlm 

for Dannh who have had la"su~nder"'lhelr ehlldnn I 

' fwido~llon. 

i . Shela alson member of ORlGlNS. a newly formed. 

'group of New Jcrsc blrlh molhcn who rld blologlcal 

prmlalntracklng80anlhcir children. 

: Dccaule of her work wlth CUB and ORIGINS and 

:. hcr own lnvolvcmcnt In relslng lhm, rdopllvechlldren, 

she knows Nmt.hmd lhe "paln and concern and the 

, love"ol blrlhmothcmaceklng loflnd thclr chlldren. 

r ' She also knows Ule nmlr ol teenage adoptees going 

through an"[denllty crlsls." 

' ' hfany of thncchlldrcnhavenol becnableloem~ 

. llonally survlve unlll 18 wlth lhal Identity crisis," she 

: uld, notlng It Is not uncommon for many to require 

~ychologlcaI . . counscllngor sulfcr breakdowns. 

1 . ~0th of Mrs. ~ wtPm*s sons, who are u~rcl~lcd. 

.'were adooled In Pcnnsvlvanla and when thev bepan I 

. oucslloniri~ her about abut lhelr nalural narh ind I 

.. . 

moiher and lhcptaceoiblrlh. - 

It look lhc family more than I8 months lo locale 

Jell's natural molhcrand two vcars lo llnd Carv'sblrlhparenls,shesald 

: "It Is byuse I love my children sn very much and 

.I 

;, care about ihclr f&llngs and dEvclopmml lhat 1 have. 

. devoted many carslo hcl Ingthcmsearch,"shcsald. 

And she ddsn.1 fcel &reatcned by the speclre of a, 

wand . .. rnoUler. . . -. . !. Mn. Curlawn mld she b in "close personal : 

section one! Pogo 46 

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THE SUNDAY 

STAR-LEOGER 

October 25, 1981 

She Is lhc ido llve dsu hlcr 01 Carol and Rwll 

Guslavsnn, who unIerabnd /uc'a nad la tych la bu 

roola. 

The F~lZla~sont have lwo olhcr adopUve ehlldnn 

- Gary. 21, and JclL ID, who haw found Lhelr blrlh 

. . . 

molhcrawllhlhehelpof Ihclrrdoplircparcnlr. . . 

I

New-Found Mother, Daughter 

Find 2nd Meeting More Serene 

Mn. bn.ll eormmd. 

rap bopd ibe'd wrnt Lo lea me," Mn. 

'?be only Ume we b d plate twelher Rud uld. "But then wben I knew she 

out lbm wu urly in (bc modng U wdd be In kr Oa, and 1U11 brdn't 

Ibs m d Ume amund for Elrk hte al rJ@t," Mn. Cqmell uld. 

f d me. I Jwl lhoulh\ she dldn't wrnt 

Cornell and her new-found mxher Plus, It look a pod whlle In over- In we me." 

Xii%d%ul Lo be a lo1 lm (nunuUc come tbe awkwardnen of lbelr flnl Mn. Comell, tbougb, thought Mrs. 

Lbra lbe flnC 

ellmunler. 

Rud dldn't wan1 Lo IM her. 

Bolb had ken more than I Iltlle "I'm jmt now bednnlng to qult ibak- '7bm wu r Iol of fur from bolb 

wary about Lhelr llnl tneellng over he in&" Mn. Camcll uld lul week. dda:' Mn.Comell uM. 

Tbrnkrglvln~ weekend In In llllnolr "I thlnk we're sUll Jwl a Ultle bll la That fur kume even mom acule 

hrmhow. Nellber knew quite whl In awe of ucb olber," Mn. Rud uld. Ocl. 1s. That:, Ule day Mn. Conlell 

expect from lhe other. 

Both. however, bra uleared they flnl fmd her bmlher, Robert, In &nd. 

"~ll I wanted lo do wu shm at ber," faradcjcbolher. . 

wlcb. At (be Ume, amund noon, Mn. 

uld Uelm Rud, who lr Mn. Cornell'* 'Thlr ha been 1 load lhlng ever Rud wu at wmt In a clunlngrlme. 

blolwlcal tnolber. "But erw Ume I rlnn &at flnt telephone call," Mn. Mn. Ccmcll'r brother arranged for 

looked over at ber. she wu alrudf Rcad uld. "LUe Elaine bu uld. I lot Mn. Rcad Lo ull6L Albnr when she 

rtuing at me!' 

of Uma when a molber lad a daughter gol off work. 

Mn. Cornell, 14, had bm dven up gel Lglber Uke U. Lbe hlde lblnp Nellber wmn wu rum whal klnd 

for adopllon in September 1941 In M* from ucb oaer. BUI we I; vm't ~d a of mpllon - hmUIIIy or happlnar - 

h. .~ ~. nl. -~~~ Mn. - Read. bad not km mu. lblng." 

she'd let from lbe olber. 

~~~ 

rled 11 the Ume. 

Mn Comell uld many Uma wben "But 1 knew lbem wu only one Ullnp 

After ky'nnlng I lurch on Cbrhl- NC~ a rculllon oecun, lbe molber wlll Lo do," Mrs. Rud uld. "I bad lo rrll 

w Day IDlD, Mn. Comll needed 1. od tell her hwhnd or my olber chlld- her u lan u I got home. I lbmw off 

ma1 two uh lo find Mn. Rud, who m rbe'r had about IL 'lbcy'll alwap my colt, went slralght lo lbe kdmom 

wu sUll Yvlna - in tcr bomebm. &nd. met la ml," BIM uld. 

md picked up lbc phone. 

wlch, Ill. 

Aboot 10 yern ayo, Mn. RIP^ h d "I wu Jwl chaklng 111 over," Mn. 

Lut Oct. 38, Mn. Cornell, who Uva Lrled In llnd her daughter. Ad~pllOn re Read mid. "I wu nard In dealh of 

lq 61. Alhm,linally Iocrlrd Mn. Rud mrdr are wAed evevwbere, but are her!' 

over the telmhow lad the vhll lo nll. prtldrrly 41fflcull lo open in wme But Uut phone call, Uke everything 

pab was arr~ged shortly. 

strla, hludlng Illlnolr. 

the a h , worked out floe. 

Durlnp Ulsl trl , Mn. Cornell me1 "I went ts lbe bm ltrl in Mollne," Mn. Cornell's blologlcal blber and 

for lbe llnl tlme 1 er two bmlben and Mn. Rud uld, "md (E e). looted at me Mrs. Read's flrrl busband,..R~&t 

ball slrter. 11 wu a h lben lhat Mn, like I wu an idlot!' 

Drowning, dled in 1966. Mn. Cornell 

.Read avud to come lo 61. Albanr. 61111, for many years, M~I. nerd wu ralsd by Mr. and Mn.Jul.Ah: 

Lul week. she made It. 

thoughl oflcn aboul the baby ahe'd -. renp!of Albmc. Ohlo. 

.I 

S11Unr on the Cornellr' mucb wllh 

rurrrrdtred. 

"I used lo drum," Mn. Rerd uld, 

Allbough she knowa all reunlons 

two uaidcblldren she never knew she 

wm'l work out 

"lbat I'd Inheriled I lot of money, UI I 

u well u bm. Mn. 

b d unUl lut fall, Mn. nerd uld lhb 

Camll b now lrylng lo slrrt m orgml. 

had enough Lo lake c m of her. And 

vhll wu appmlably mom vrew lhrn 

uUon for adopled rhlldmn. 

&en 1 bad snrlched her up and ran 

Lbe flnl otk .P."" 

"I'm no1 pusblng for adoplees to 

"Thlr lr a mucb nicer trip for me," Bul for lhe lul flve yean or IO, Mn. rtrrch U lbey don'l wan1 In," Mn. Cor. 

Mn. llerd uld, "becrurs I've go1 much ' 

Rud uld she had rarely (bou~~hl about nell uld. "ll would be vlmelhlng where 

mom llme In rwnd wllh her. At home. her flnl babr. 

adonleu muld trlk lo olber adoplm 

lhe rrhole family was lhere. and I wu "One of [he msln resroru I never and. adopled parenlr could lalkwllh 

rookan[ and cleanlng all dry." . pwhed looklng for her wu lhal I'd 11. olbrr adopted prrenlr." 

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Jo-Ann Sears ond Colifornio reunion photo with brother 

John, center, and early photographr of John and Dovid. 

-4- ~wml&b bl L Roper run+, 

her lost brothers are found 

lamy Ileq lmowlllg lhal m- 

h wem mls Of bv own mcd 

lbsl~nfGT*~adnl.amo 

. . . 

-lhe I-UI 

&web of 

.dOP(edbythern whuerfrwuIn Umep~yicdhcrloherhrmb. . ..... 

~ ~ . l ? a w h m s b o u t l M ha 

~oycs, tmubltd by brr buhd'l 

11 h a dory mppd In dm@u bo~barrnl~her+orhutmy &~ofev=mrwInanl~t~s dnp melMcholy 11 not lmans Ur 

~~N lad lu&y a w , R&amv,lm. 

bVmrR)chhdCwnm.-n~br vhrrcabouu nl hu ma .n6bmW. 

of 8 farnlly putd rob aIler SI JM "~flcrfwiaa&rd.l~u~ng amup1e*hoMi~d;161o~i' bcgm &g mryont lottn could 

of fllv lead8 md NmlK -.. 

&XI& lo ra my bmVm." ahc moYcd .dame mnU. ?hey ukol her lo rsmemhcr ............. lmm hll auL he of the 

J0Lnldl~ . , '?harWwrkmfmmMamPb.n w&Urm.andlbclakValob a~wenllo Roy ~bo;c~~cllmdk 

w ~ ~ ~ ~ l n ' ~ f t ~ ~ b 

fonnrdkUulhahtdl~lkrdnlha 

frknlof IPANU rnlhle" *hCm %Id 

Umaladfn~dnUonlhal~~mrs~ 

blng a m In Lbl worn mwo~l 

of Irr cNldhood and wu I- &ch n;cp( away ~ le 

. ~ " . 

lvmh ;I i ~lchhml ~cntcraum'i &I&&" 

avt df U. orphiruic." JDAM 

IUIUP~L"~~IY~YI~.VC~C~~L)OOC..' ..I dm1 LMw. 11 wu a dale or. .Lib -1 )Ud Uvrd wtW rndu of ha 

w u my Uxn calk4 Rub acd tot 

lo.~nn~snumk. .. ..... 

lohn. wm wu WOW on r m& 

lVvNon Job In Otrlh Y&y, W L 

W o l nMt W Mil* MU10 hl( (U. 

tar MUI ~bl n m dry, rbm hb We 

6rove lo Dralh V&ymd Inld Nm . 

A week UW, 1o.h MI lo Cab 

lornla md melbrr yowr bUxS 

IOC iiw f m Ume. s~h wu dULng on 

her lugg~ge wkn hu bmlkr md W 

nranamxcMhrlaLhe- -----..--- + 

-1 got up &I .nd lo mmjbmlkr 

rnl mo. 'l'vo nvp hugtd a mwr 

mhfom. but m 'm mYbmVrrVrrVrr" 

~ m a ~ ~ a n & d ~ h a k e y f o 

John. 1111 wnvcrnUm wtth Jo.AM 

valDeM memilei of 1wualnLc 

llCr ea(1IUL rncmMn M M Ux c&naar.ad. 11 Wre wuacmcrol for veln It took kr ontub lo a* 

ti# rlcpl In front of U. uau orfh pu be"~addplrdVay ~lU(la.1' 

me, but abe nMUy d!d and lo& 

rg In Splr(l. She knew .h. N brn , me Lnlcrvenlng )nn prad mlh me I looLLd familw. She low me who mnr long f0Wllra rn week 

In tdUwa~#k~. md .hs kw Uul lhc m wont .ad Ullle haps. l*Ml mu. .ha ww. uul I dercfibca U. pbce a m more tclcphonc aU. John dbwu 

ucn awry flnm Lbl a-pbwe tied at I& w her hubud George, where&wh.dgmmup. Ihdn'tbcrn mvercd Dl* Ma O M ~Uxr, uw 

loNov~rnberl~.~wm~lahfon who o m a ~~~IIIR bmm in ~hcmlinnlu~ab~b~:' In MbmJ. Azd DM Lnw Ule w k y 

her WhWldny. RlcMn6 Ccnur. breine her RmUy. m wamm. nu ilari. wu the twtl of theu mother. 

SM wan Wen by oh. . I ~ H ~ J ~nplia wlr cloancn, .hs onpn p ~ll Mrr 01 my SIGJW "4. 

-. 

'nuby niW 

S(a*wcU End Uved wilbk lor a feu alone ud yearned lo know mom Roy rkm he wu Uhg In Chlugo. A reunion L, 9I1aned UIU IU 

mnnlh in ~lchhrd Cmlrr. It nrcbblr 

h l e ldlkar VkUty, CMowl)., ha of her NMen pl. ller h&d de md IDAM wu closer Uun ak mr 

bmlhrn John lad Dan rar ULm &bdhrrualoncr. 

hut been lo llndlnn her bmUVFk Bul 

fmm Ma OrphPruse by Roz--*ell. 

She dmuned of her bmUmn. She ~a(~~cnded.~lhofthehoylh.d 

~ohn'a bmlhr. Md Uved W y m I& dreamed 01 !h farm wlvm rlrs Uvcd kft Ma Slockwcllr wNle In VrirwIy 

......... 

ume area. Out Iwn afIemud. Roy unbrbYudIMlMwUrn kern Roy and hU wlle hul no &a Out 11 rtU b lu from 8n onlhu~ 

md hU fadly moved aray. md 16 mrisLru wen temrylnp dream# wlmVaymlghlbe. 

reu~aI1~htheendol~vtrch 

AM never uw hcr b r o t h s of a funen4 whero she W y nlel one "I h.0 nowg to do bul go bad: ih; end of many bnd and u n w 

When aha wu 8, I)r WI We Slodr. of her brolh~m only lo learn Ule olhcr md wall for Ufe lo UXs 1U r o ~ ,)earn 

~nllb.rrwoaolUlrca~n 

far ]*AM ad hcr bmVm I1 

wrUI and Uvtd lor Vim mmUu MIA lmlher wu in Lbe crrttl at Ule lmnl JoAm Wb 

mwr couple ouW WcWud Crn. of lhcmom. 'l7am wrpu ago, J0.h rcc~ivcd Who. acma IIlMY Y C M md mm)l 

Ur, She lhcn moved U, mb P>'r_ul rn6 Rue. n law monUu qo. aftcr a caU tam Ruby. fluby saM 1h.l ID milan, cnd row olthenuelvca one m r Uxy md once& ~LUW. 

ncnna.cornlr. a h of M ce5. yem of unrrmty. a srdcs af AM would malve s from cuden 

Wr. She rcnu!nei WUb Vrm during rvenla ltd IwAnn to ceverRI~VcI' Grove, W1(.. UU( nigh(. Th clU Uevtd burled fWCr In Ur Pill :

Out of a vast mutual yearning, Florence Fisller has 

created an organization tli'at is llclpillg tllousands of 

adoptces in the search for their roots.111 the proccss it 

Iias also stirred pait~ful conflicts and cotrtrovcrsial 

court action 

The Fight to 

O~en UD 

~do~tidn Records 

A 

T TIIF. rtrca slic placed tllis ad, 

I:lorciicc 1:isltcr had just SUCccssfully 

coiitl~letcd a lo-ycar 

scarcl~ for licr nalural niotl~cr. Ilccause 

atlol~tion rccorch arc CI~IS~II 

to 

atlol~lecs in all states cxcc 11 Alnl~niila 

and Kauras, rllosc two dccatlcs 1,ad 

bccn lillcd wit11 frostn~iotl and 

lic:~rtacl~c. Ijcr at1 \\*as ail attcrnl>t to 

rcacll oll~cr adol~tccs sccking to fill 

tlic void ll~at sclmr;itcs tl~cni fro111 

Illcir 11as1 and an cllort to 11cll1 tl~ciu 

avoid tllc soul-cvrc~tcl~i~tg agony sltc 

had suflcrcd. 

"l.cttcrs pourcd in froill all over 

, cxlir~si~~g tlic sailic 

tllc 11111tgcr coorlrrl: to ilo\rr rllal at oilc tinlc I 

111ottgIt1 was titii~c alone," I:lorcncc 

1:isltcr recalls. Aillong tlic reslloilscs: 

"1 311164 years uld, plcasc l1cl11 IIIC 

bcfc~rc I die." "'l'l~irty-six ycan of 

scarclling, and I l~avc ultco\~erctl 

notliiitg." "'l'l~crc is no liclp 

aiiyrr~l~crc." 

0111 of tllis vast nlutunl ycariiit~g, 

I:isltcrcrcatctl all organi7.atioit tllat is 

licllri~~g tltoumnds of ndal>~ccs in IIIC 

scarcli for tl~cir roots. 'lbtlay, ller 

Atlrrl~tccs' 1,ibcrty Movcntcnt Association 

(~l.ht~) is I~IC largcst orgn- 

~~izalion of its k i l v i io,ouo 

itici~~l~ers scaltcrecl ll~r~~ugli~~c~t ll~e 

5o smes. "..MA'S slog at^: "'l'llc lr~ltli 

of l~isorigin is llic birtl~rigl~t of every 

innu." Mciilbcrs iiicct niontlilp, 1tt)liI

moral support and 1cg:tl a d vicc for a 

strtrggle th:tt ir now in thc courts. 

Tlrc outcomc of rl~is battle will alfcct 

up to five n~illion adoptecs in 

tltis country 1)lus tr~illio~~s more of 

tl~cir n:~tural and atloprive p:trcnts. 

.. 

llrc issuc is r:tisit~g [~assior~s on 

both sides. 

U1',11101'7'10N RI~l.'ORI).S 

scarclt tvorksltops, traclc exl)cricnccs. Pro: ,\t.af,\at~tl ~~~ostotl~cr:~~lc~~rtee IICS, and wl~atcvcr hoq~ital and 

and discuss IIIC problems, adjust- groups c~~rtccde tlt:n records sho~lld 

adoption-agency filcs are available. 

nlents and internal conllicts tltat be- rcmain closcd to tninors bcc:~ure of Tl~i> tncans cndlcss pl~o~ic calls, Iep 

set tl~e atlol)tcc wl~o starts looking the emotional rtraitls :lrtd pitfalls tltat 

work and lcttcr writing. 

for his or her natural parents. uftct~ conte tvitlr a search. Where 

Hospitals and agcncics usually 

I-low, for instancc, docs an ad00- adultsare concerned, l~owcvcr,,~~.st~ turn a dcaf car. Wllcn adol~tion 

tcc dcal with :tdoptivc parcnts who nrgucs t11:1t scalcd rc~-crrtls infringe 

sourccs do leak information, tltcy 

understandably resent the searcl~l U~IOII basic civil and l~umao rights- 

sornctimcs dcccivc. "Even nuns have 

What is tl~c best way of gctting including thosc promising equal 

licd to adoptccs," says ALMA mcmbcr 

through to social agcncics and bu. protection under tlte law for a11 

Karl Zimlncr, who had a succcssful 

rcaucrats WIIO often trcat searchers citizens, and guarantees against loss 

reunion ;il his natural parents 

with wllous disdain? if tlle scarcl~ of rcligious frccdom. 

aftcr a scarch lasting a year and 

succccdr, what docs IIIC adoptcc say Con: Opponents-mostly adop- 

a half. Tllc adoption agcncy gave 

to a natural parent? 

tive parents as wcll assotnc adoption 

ALVA'S nabcttc Dalsl~rinlcr tllc first 

I3y providing :tnswcrs, cncouragc- agencies and social workers-insist 

names of hcr natural parcnts and 

mcnt and hope, ALMA is hclpinq: that adoptccs alrcady llavc legal ac- 

told hcr both wcrc dcad. Sltc ltircd a 

adoptccs ~nin what cvcryonc clsc ccss for "good cause." 'rl~is broadly 

dctcctivc wlto turncd up two glaring 

takcs for gr;lntcd: tl~c scnsc of lteri- includes special nccds for tncdical or 

discrcpancics: her fatllcr's namc was 

tagc tl~at ansV,vcrs tlrc most basic and psychiatric I~irtorics. Bcyond sucll 

incorrect and lter motl~cr was, in 

l~auntitig of l~uman questions. "Who instances, up )otlcnts claim that 

fact, alivc. 

am I?" 

adoptccs sllou 1 d lcnvc wcll enougl~ 

After all tl~c searching, dcad ends 

Witltout it, adoptce I ' u y ~ g alone-if only out of lovc for tllcir 

and dirappoirttmcntr, tl~c final rc- 

2 . . I-tasry?t~, ..., . . an ~l.atA n~ru~bcr, claints adoptivc parcnts. "Your rcal parcnts 

union can bc exhilarating-or hcartshc 

is likean island. 

E 

"I wattt to touch arc the pcoplc wl~o raised you," 

breaking. Florcncc Fishcr's was 

\ tltc n~ainlat~d-to ask 'Who? Why?' " columrrisr Ann Landers advised onc 

both. Whrn first confronted, her 

sl~c rays. Anita .--- .McCartl~ . .- - another adolxcc. "Don't go poking around. 

motltcr dcnicd all. Sl~c eventually 

2 .+t.stA trtcmlcr, adils: '7' ---? IC rcal me You may regret if." 

admitted tl~c relationship, but thc 

V, 

lies frlrzcn inside. My children have lgrtorirtg suc11 argultlents. Inany 

gulf bctwccn motlter and daughter 

Y 

b only l~alf of tl~cir lteritag-thcir fa- adopters do start tltc searcl~-and 

proved too witlc to bridge. Latcr, 

thcr's. Is ntine any less importal~r arc itntncdiately faccd with ntyriad 

though, Fisl~cr did forn~ a lovirtg 

-. C bccausc I was adopted?' 

problentr. First, wltcrc to bcgin? 

rclationsltip with l~cr natural fathcr, 

0 

;c, 

Ikyond its supportive role, Al.rlA I-low does onc takc that first step 

a Hollywood stuntman. 

is also ic:tdirlg a nationwiclc crusade across tl~c bleak, blank ycars that 

Yct, wl~etl~er good or bad, tltc 

for t11c rigl~tsof adoptccs- xoviding 

new rclationsltip is ala~ost secondary 

cluud tllc adoptce's past? Most adoptccs 

don't wen know their placc of 

birtlt: and adoptive parents, the 

printe starti~~g point, oftcr~ rcfusc 

tltcn~ tl~c infor~natiut~, 

lic about it 

(JS i:lurence. Fis11w:s rtlotlter did). 

Armed wit11 2 few clues, tllc adop- 

tcc's next step is rumlnagiog tl~raugl~ 

city-hall recortls, telelrlto~~e tlirccto- 

to the scnsc of fulfillment tl~c adoptcr: 

gains by simply cornplcting tltc 

scarclt. "It is the truth of tl~c past one 

is searcl~ing for, not :I relationship 

wit11 anutl~er sct of parents," strcsrcs 

I~~t~y.Jc~rr~Liftort.irt 'liuicr ilont, an 

~CCOUIII of Iter SIICCC~S~UI 

attempt to 

tracc llrr natural parcots. 

Dcspitc tllc sytnl~arhic sucl~ stories 

cvokc, the struggle for adolrtccr' 

rigl~ts will not bc wort overnight. 

Opposition is strong and makes a 

poignant casc for the rights of ado()- 

rive parents thcmsclvcs. Tbcy Itavc 

raiscd cl~ildrcn.v,tl~eirowt~, with thc 

understanding that thc vcil of sccrccy 

would ttcvcr be liftcd. Now rltat 

may changr. And many of them fecl 

betrayed and l~urt by a child-theirs 

by cvcrything but blood-who sccms 

to nccd a grcatcr scnsc of family than 

tlicy provided. 

Yet, little by littlc. lcgal opinion is 

swinging toward the adoptcc. In 

Fcbruary 1977, in the most significant 

court decision so far, a New 

jcrscy superior court forccd an adop. 

tion agency to scarclt for the natural 

oarcrtts: if unsucccssful, the agency 

must give thc'rccords to thc adop. 

tee, unlcss the statc sltows "good 

uusc" wily be sltould not have 

them. 

A sccondCor~stitutional chal!engc 

will bc dccidcd in New York federal 

court this summer. Thcrc, tg ALMA 

rncmbcrs have brought a class-action 

suit, dcmandir~g acccss to thcir rccords. 

If tltcy win, the prcccdent will 

invalidate tlie laws that scal rccords. 

'ilpart fron~ davcry," the ALhth 

membcrs argue in tl~eir court corrtplaint, 

"thcrc is no orhcr instancc in 

our law in wl~iclt 3 contract made 

among adults on bind thc cltild oncc 

hc rcachcr ltis majority." 

Florence Fisl~cr ~nakcs another 

point: The original ptlrpclscs of sealing 

adopriorr rccortis wcrc not only 

to protcct but11 scts of parents but

U11AlJf)l'17f)N H1i:'GOHI)S 

. 

nlsi~ t c ~ lrrtltcct lllc illcgitittintc clliltl rclusutl trr nicct tl~eir cl~iltlru~~. SIII). 

1rc111t tlic clisgrncc c~f l)ci~~g Isrrn o ~ ~ sccl~~ct~t t stt~tlics sliocvecl tllnt 811 to 

11f \c~ccllt~ck. Si~lcc 111~11, sl~e 

nrytlcs, 

srrci:rl.:~ttitutlcs l~nvc cl~nrigecl, nrltl 

90 ~icrce~rt of tlic rctl~ritrr~s cvcrc 

"s11cccssf111." 

illcgitilllacy IO Iol~gGr c;lrrics tllc U~icl~~cstirr~t:~l~ly, dcclnrc ALMA 

sarnc rtig111:i; sti tl~crc is no lo~~gcr t 11e 

~icetl for scnling rccortls o~icc nclolitccs 

rcncl~ ntl~~ltlwotl. 

nntl its stlpllurtcrs, it is ti~lic tcl 

clinrigc tllc state In\vs. Atlt11t ntlr~lr. 

tccs sl~ot~ltl 11nve Itrll ncccss to tl~cir 

Sollie stloptiu~~ nnd cl~iltl-wclfnrc birth nntl ndr~lltior~ rccurds-1101 t)llly 

ngcl~cics arc nlrcntly rcconsidcring as 7 Ct~nstit~~tior~al rig111, bttt for IIIC 

tlicir iiositiuns. Must nyc~~cies liavc snkc of sinllrlc IIIIIII~I~ cligr~ity. 

cvc~i Iicgon wnrriifig jrnrcrils tlrnt Ul~til tllc laws arc cl~nngctl, ~t.htA 

confitlcntinlity call II~ lo~igcr l)e is lirrt al)orrt to lct 11 i. S:~ys UIIC 

I,. . 

gt~;~rn~~tccd. A survcy conductetl by dctcrt~ii~icd n~ctiibcr, l llc adt~li. 

tl~c Cl~iltl Wcllnre 1,cnuuc crl Alilcr. tee's scnrcl~ lor ir~fc~r~nntiuri l~nr tllc 

ica slro\t'ed tlint ~rlurc tlinn 3000 enrrllnr s o , 111t for lifc." AII~ 

aclult adtrlrtccs and nbuut 150ti 11:ltu- tl~nt figlit, vows llfi) 1.' orcncc FisI~cr, lin~ 

ral IWCIS rcttlr~~cd to S~IIIC 150 only hcgun. 

ngcncics ill 1975, scckil~jj i~ifirr~in. 

tion. lSvcn wltcrc rccords arc scnlctl, ALhlA lrns brnncllcs it1 cvcry stntc. 

ngcrici~s will 11sun11y co~isr~lt 111c rcc- Ibt i~~lorl~ration wrirc to: Achq~~ccs' 

rrrtls and get rlicdicnl liirtorics and I.il)crty Movc~r~cr~t Arsn., l!O. Ik)x 154, 

t c r iuiidcitif I ink~r~~intioti LVnsl~i~~gto~~ llridgc Station, New York, 

for a~ol)tccs. 11 b or11 IC 11atural N.Y, 11x133. 

111ot11cr and ndoptcc cvnrtt it, sorr~c 

ngc~icics will set lllr rcu~iio~is. 

.. 

I IIC rcs~~lts llavc beeti cacoorngil~g. 

01 162 l)wclltr ltrcatcd ill 246 

agency scnrcllcs irr 1975, only 24 

REPnlNlED FROM THE JUNE ID18 IGSUE OF REAOER'S DIOEST 

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KANSAS CITY TIllES 9/4/81 

,Many uncertainties, no guarantees 

-- 

/ in effort to . opes adop 

I I, tion record I-. I 

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I 

by opcnlng n canfldcnlld ad6$lonrccord hcre, hll hUssou. , 

. - . 

Ily Rdrert P. SIgmnn .' 

AMsmMdNEdnuIrdSlan 

If the IUe olJamy&anl Gcwr&couId be roved mcrcly : 

' rl couri cn3c {night be resolvcd rnlhcr erslly. The %.year- i 

: old vlcllm o! myclocytlc leukcmla would bc rovlrlcd wllh : 

the ldcntily his natural mulhcr, hls hnl1.s 

I 

f stcr nnd per. 

hops otller rclntivcs from uhom he could seek a bonc mar. 

i 

row bansplant. 7h1s tec)~n[que, for more lik~!ly to ruccced 

upIth marrow ol close relallvc$, wol)ld hc uscd in whnt 

doctors conddcr to bc the 5llnnll com ulcr systems mn. 

sultnnt'sodvchanccto~~lvo thls lna P IR~lnnldlscose. 

( - 0hlahkg;hc key lob 

ado tlonllle wiuld not nccessar.: 

r ily assure fiirge'8 recovery, towever. 

- "'t 

f 

The mother lnslrts on remnlnlng anonymous though she 

1 and lhc half.alslcr have Indicated o wllllngnrss lo underno ' 

blood lcsls lo determine whether thcy might be suitnble 

donors. llndcr the offer George would have had lo sgreb 

not lo pursue further UH ldcnllty of my othcr blood rcbi 

lives 01 the mothcr. Ccorgc rejected that proposal md, 

j 

)! 

, mnlhrr ..., cnnlcn& Lbc - . nolurnl ~~. fntl~cr did not know of IhC 

yrcgnnncy. 11 is no. hllcly knownuhelhcrhlsnamelnon 

lhe ndopllcn rccox whether hc !s sllve and could be 

found. whether he hm other chlldrcn whether any bf 

lb,em. II avnllal~le, uould submlt to terl, or to the bane 

murow opcratlon. Ccnlnct ulth lhc lalhcr could osslbly 

revenl the IdenUW d the mother but the appca L courl 

uyes it h no1 llkd lhe fnlhcr would make nn lmmedlnts 

dlxlosure. Both si X cs in lhe lo~lull hare lndlcntcd they 

objeel to~dec~on. ., 

I' , By thclr rullngs it In obvlous that tla courts ore ntlcmpt- 

Ing to avold tho preeedcnl.brenklng step of opcnlng m 

rdopllon llle. 7he appeals courl malnblns thnl tho con. 

I lidentlnllly 

' 

rovisioru are nccusnry lo preserve tho 

state's ndoptfon system. Anonymity, which lhc law ram 

Ises. Is dcsigncd to enmurngc pnrcnls of unwnlltct chll: 

&en to put them up for ndopllon. It 0160 protccL9 lhcndop 

tivc pnrenb from pslble inbuslon hy Lhe naturnl par. 

cnls. Furllkr. the rlatulc rcqultcs ll~nt n tccord of all 

parllcs inan adoptlon bc mode. IILhcro ore cvcr cxlruordl. 

nary rcncons that inlormallon from It is nndcd, ns Deorge 

now clai~ns. It isavallnblc. In Kansar, oneof lhcfewstalu 

ullhoul slrlct conlid~ntlnllly rules, odult ndoptccs ore al. 

lord to inspect lhclr llltlh rccord and shtsln olllcr 

lnlormnllon such u pnrenlal mcdlcnl,clhnlc and rcllglour 

bnckgroundr. 

No1 everyone sgre- with the closcd:record, system, In. 

cluding many 01 lhe estlmnled 6 mllllon ndnptces In tho 

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EDITORIAL NOTEBOOK reclplcnt. In fact, It la t~ point d w rclunc. The l&cctcd 

bonc marrow 1s ellmlnntcd by rsdlntlon nnd I1 lhc trans. 

plnnl laih, death lollowa. The proccduro hns becn dcvel. 

opcd In lhc last four or llvc yern and slUl la consldcrcd 

cxpcrlm Id. ttlhclhcr It lsacurel~lhatcrmlnnl nllmcnt 

lrnsyct t8edctcrmi11cd. ;:. - ' . . 

Thoodds far Gmrgc. lhcn, arc M( pron~lalnn, About hull 

ol tho vicllms of lhla dl~canc llvc leu lhnn 43 months. 111s 

cue hu been dla nwed aboul a )ear.Thou~h currcnlly In 

rrmlulon, thc leu fi emlacould become aculc any tImc.lhe 

laller mndlllon would bc grave ud a trnnsplnnt probably1 

uould ba atkmplcd. In some lJ't~t)ucalcnln,q coccs 

matched but welaled donors have bccn used on hnvc 

cvcn partly matchcddonom. 

George's legal allock Is olmcd at n hlls~ourl low tho1 

scnls odoption files. They can be wned by court order 

only lor reptons consld~red by a Judge 10 be compclllng. 

!Us request was rejcctd In Jackma County Circull Court 

In June. George look hla case to the hUuourl Courl of 

Appeals, uhlch has iulcd In men( da a. 'The apprllntr 

court dlncled thc clrcult court to rtnrci lor Warws In. 

ther for psrlblc luc ol hla bone murow or lhnl or hls 

... 

continues inl~lslcgal ntumpt toopen lhe record. >. 

Evm If both blologlcal pnrenls nnd other slhllngs could' 

bc lound, a marrow mstch h not ccrlnln, Medlcalevldenca; 

prcrented In lhc e m lndlcat~ that a match between 

parent nnd chUd 1s rue. Whole blood albllnga provlde r 

one.in.lourchmccmdhrlf.slbllngsless. 

*. cNdrtn.~ 

Thc~ransptmt opernuan hextremcly dangcroua for the:. Thh lr not an overly pramlsing d:unatlve, cilhet. The 

.. t . 

~dtnl Sates. Tho Knnsas Cily Adult Adoplms Orgnnlzo. 

tlon, whlch supparla thc ellmu of Ocorge lo open lhe file. 

Is among groups thnl are tr)ing to end the praclicc. Its 

leader, Tom Alllngion, who Is also nn olllccr of n nnliorlnl 

ado lm org~lratlon. says mryr show obbut 9n percent 

C( tic adoptcca and 90 pemntnf the nolural parents who 

were queried favor opcn remrds. .\bout W pcrccnt or the 

rdopllve pwenb support closed lilcs. 

I 

Legfrlatlon that would ofin hflnsourl ndopllon records 

has bccn ln~uced 

In thc l~lourscaslonsoltl~c Cencral 

Assembly. Only in loat was it granlcd a hcnrtng. It dld not 

advance bcyond that. Sen. Henry Pnnclhiere 01 Konsns 

Cll . the sponsor, bcllcvcs the rliRmo oltnched lol~nvl~~g n 

chid out ol ucdloek, whlch bpromplcd many ndopllotls, 

ha bkn blunlcd by changlng soclnl nttlludes III reccnl 

yew. 7he eced for closcd mords, in hls vlew, may nol he 

rocruclnlnow In tho ndopllonprwws. 

Wrgc rnnb hls rccord opcnnl so he cnn l~nvc dlrccl 

accas to his nolurnl molhcr and olhcr rclntlvos. In lhsl 

way hc could mnkc n permd ol~peulor help lnstrad ol 

hnving thc murl ocl m an lnlcrmr~llnry. Hcyund Ihnl. 

Cmrge, who was born and pul up lor odnpllon here 181 1l1c 

late IW. uanb tocl~nnpc Ws%ourl's closed record lnw. 

Ihe cou* NC atlcmpllng to bnl~nce hlr nccdr n~ol~rsl 

what the judges vlcw nr p ~~~lble hlum to lhc sdopllon 

syalem and lhe brcaklngd lkcanlldenllnllty nl the moth. 

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. ~ 

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~~0'1'~Wnf llmworrlr 

Infont sorne~vhcro In tho Bronx scctton 

of NciV Sork Clly. 

nshinplotl-It n.a$ rf~attrrl~~ AII~ lnlcr lhcro wcrc icnrs, 

tt~nr d a\ , III IDTI wlwn LIII& 

IIIC u~pci. 

111g ol (crrlhlc loss." thc nccv fnntasics 

Jlascln irnrnr~l the lrig limlly nbout l~crcnl mothcr ('Ws shc 

scrrct front hrr 

nu. 

ntrr~l. 

r4crrlflc or. (hc loweat of the low? 

Yct, somchn\\t. ..It c.ns llke I nlrcndy 

kllcw. I kind ol nlcvnys surprclcd, I 

Ens she ropcd?") 

(;'tress, becnl~sr I dldn'l lnok like ally. 

ts buried by couas. laws 

hlrs. Alnson S~l(~11l the ycnrs lonklrrn 

111 cm\vdcd burcs nt~d lrn111s for SOIC. 

MI And IIO\V I Ilnd lcnrnd that nly 

fnn&sy wns Ln~r." 

one who lookcil Ilke hcr, scnrchi~~g for 

hcr roots 

Shc rt!nlo~ll~crs UIC !lllnibn+!sr. IIIO 

In ilbrnrlcs, votlng records 

\retrca~nl{ srnte ol rcnlity s ~ clorc. ~ d 

nlld Il~ecourts. 

ncss, oflcr ilc:lrinl( Ihul her r~~olher IIII~ I1 all cntled reccntl in n roullnc four. 

fntllcr wcrc no1 her nntur~ll parenls nl. 

IIIIC order frnrn lllr! i uprrnlo Cnurt. A 

nubslo~~llnl Ir!~lcrnl issuu wnc lnckl~~g. 

Icr all, lhal sl~c lmd Irrcnndonred nsnn 

1110 ~US~~CCS snltl. Cnsc tllsn~t~scd, hlra. 

1.0 ~rolcclllc ~rl\.ncy or IIIIIII lhc 

. . . . . . . . . _...,.- 

.%c Atlol~lrcs, l:f:. 

(it\. col. I

~~~~~ .-~.. 

nnlurnl&er and fnmllles wltlr 

adopted children, ncnrly nll 

stalcs scnl the birth records of 

those children unlesv "good 

cause* justUlcs dlsclosure. 

Courts - flnd .-"awd cause" onlv 

) In rare clrcumslnnc& of psycbi. 

lo leal diclress or medical need. 

I P lowever, they have not found 

owl cause in the case of Jmes 

firant Ceorg of MJaml, Flu. hfFY 

CGrgc ti3 cancer and hopes to 

locnto a blood relalive for purposes 

of a bone marrow Irons. 

plant. ills efforts lo dale In Jack. 

son Countv. Mo.. Juvenile Court 

I 

for acccsi 'to his b i records ~ 

hnvo failed. The Missourl Supreme 

Court also haa refused hls 

marrla e broke up. She remcm~ 

bered, foo, that her fear of Incest 

was so Intense lhnt she once 

asked her husband, "How do,I 

kno\vyou'renot my bmther?" 

But perhaps lhe ldenlily crlsls 

common among adoptees was 

best summed up In her tesllmony 

in a New York courtroom: 

''I feel cut oft from the rest of 

humanltv. I was fllven blrlh lo In 

the sum; say ni'cveryone else. 

but everyone else can send awn 

$3 and net a copy of their bitti 

1 have no nncestry. Nnlhing.*' 

Thls was translaled b her at. 

Iorneys Lnto a claim tlra f she hnd 

a fun~amenlnl human rlght under 

Urc . First ~ ~ Amendment - to ~- receive 

~~~ 

information about herself, about 

her own backgmul~d. 

Hut Uuce New York courts re. 

iecled Mrs. Mason's clalms. One 

blthcm observed thai"coun~icss 

cillzc~~s drink the ce of llberly to 

the fullest cxtenl w f thou1 any In. 

formallon as lo their forebcais." 

, Chief Judge Lnwrcnce H. Cooke 

. .- 

of the ~ew'~ork~ourtof ~p~enls, 

lho highest lrlbunnl In tho atnle snid Ulnt oni- io'srccn'i of resystem, 

acknowledged the truth united nnturarporcnlsshowed nd. 

In Mrs. Mason's ~gumenl thnl verse rencllons. Furthermore. Ire 

some nrenls would wclcome the sald, three states-Alnhnma, 

chlld hey put up,for ndoptldn so Florldn and Kansas-hnve ... . hnd . ~ 

long a$. 

.'no dlscernlble problems" wilh 

But n other cases, Mr. Cooko lnws making records avnilahle lo 

snld, the sudden reappearance of adult adoptees, . . , 

lhe chlld "mi' be a dcslrucllvo But the Illinois Str remo Court, 

lnlruslon Into 

(1: 

e llfe that thepnr. 

ent has bull1 In the years slnco the 

ado tlon . . , ; '. . . 

"& may ev,en open the way for 

the chlld or others to blnckmail 

the natural parent by threatening 

to dlsclose embarrassin clrcum- 

stancessurroundin the lrlh." 

To sum It up, M!. Cook@ sald, 

"mere desire to learrl lhe ldentlly 

of one's natural parents cannol 

alone constilute 'good cause.' " 

Main- -Cgqyee&, a New 

Yoik Unlvers y law professor 

who ar ed Mrs. Mason's case 

before ge Supreme Court, &aid 

Urestatesecre'cy laws are 11% rlg. 

Id, that they ought lo make allowances 

for reunions by mulual con. 

scnl. 

"Tho slate could asslen a 

guardlan to contact the parent 

and say, 'Your chlld wanls to 

meet you. Do you object7,' There 

are a substantial number who 

would wnnt a reunion.:' Mr. Guggcnheim 

seld. 

Testimony a~rpporllng that 

clalm was resented recently in 

f 

% 

R I~S. 

the case o a Chlcago ado lee, 

npger~nr. 32. who. II~C 

Muon, reached the end of a 

search for hls history In he Su. 

preme Court. 

Edward Wrlzk, a "cnnfldentlal 

Ini&dlF%r a trlnl court In 

Scnltle, tes$fled for Mr. Bartb 

lhal, In adopteo cases there, he 

had conlaclrd 66 birth parents- 

and 65 of U~cm wanted reunlons. 

Another wltness. DPnn%Cul. 

Ipm, president of Yesler oy's 

ChUdren, lesllfied tho1 her orgnnlzatlon 

of 12,000 adult adoptces 

hnd made 900 successful searches 

for missing arenls, only 10 of 

whom refuse A' to meet their chlldren. 

Mr. Rsrth's nltorney nlso cllcd 

ti 1976sludy reported In the Amer- 

Uke ILs counlcroarl /' a New York. 

cii~~h;~j~ci;~~-~;&C~fnt 

1" re: 

cctln Mr. Borl/'s clnlm: "We 

lave found no caso holdinn that 

the riaht of an ndoatee to 'ilelermlnc 

Kin gencalogichl origin is ex. 

glicitly or lmpllcltly guarontetd 

-,- .- --. -.. 

--- . v the Pnnslll~~llon." 

For thelr art, thousnnds of 

nalural oarcn!s haveorl(nnlzed lo 

seek re'cognlllon for Ghhl they 

wrceive to be lhelr bulc human 

ilghG lo find-tjlclr losl chlldrcn, 

and lo ellmlnate the secrecy as. 

pctsol adoption. 

"There are dec!n osvcholo~lcnl 

needs on both sld6sidknow zaclr 

other," sald lloward Cnssldy of 

Red Dank, N.J~iitlorney for Orlnins. 

a new nrouo - . of blrlh nnr. 

Gnk; 

"The chUdren have ldcntlly 

crises," he sald. "For the moth. 

ers, there's a need to know lhnl 

lhechlldren are bein cnrcd lor." 

Mr. Gu gcnheim elleves the 

law thou11 foster, not hidc, the 

truth In ndopllons. But he says 

change Is far off because most soclal 

egencles, lcgislntors and 

ud es are "of the old school- 

/h a t! confldenllnllly is tho llnchpln 

of adoption." 

All of which Is dlshenrlening to 

IJndn Mwon, a word procesror 

aad typesetter who lives In an 

apnrlment with her cnl, her son 

and her recurrent fanlasles about 

her hidden past. 

"I'm not looking for a mommy 

and dnddy." she sald sadly. "My 

memorlcs wlll alwnys be of Uro 

o le who rnlsed me. And I know 

G f 

a many of those who have 

found lhclr molhera do not form a 

relallonshlp. 

laBul they do have pence of 

mlnd." 

4,

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THE KANSAS CITY STAR 

June 3, 1981 

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.I* ..' 'I ' ' ' ',.s 

d: Wrge, r Mlrml computm system, vmla court agreed wlth Studeny and 

...... .. 

:;::'dl:tloi&libtf7fF:,,, "7 thCm: tq -: even U It means that . fuae lo be donors. In lofa. a PC~MY!: 

~:.!~~~~mk~~mt*.?~~.rl"';" 

Omrne's lUc hlnncs on mom . mnsullant.~dlcofcannr. . hla cUent was #pared an operallon 10 

~ 

/Ulari+i$i~, d , hls adopUon - rec. c In,cucs mund the counlry,iourta . rcmovebonemirrow. .. i 

ords..;+,!j ." . W . ' ' .'(1* hlv. rcfurcd lo order donors lo slve i . "An lndlvldull has a conall~ullon~ 

The dvcar*ld adontee wlll IIY (o . un ....... bdv asr(l ............................. 

far transalmt. unlrss li~~httn dcclde for hlmctlf whethcror 

asve him iue dglln today by lrylnj to, Lhs donor I ellher Inromplent 6rtab . n5 hi) wUI give bonc marmw."Studct 

convlnce I Jnclwan County judgc lo, youns lo mllre an Informed decblon. ny Bald. "lhh Is not the IOmC 11 1 

$reak$rrdlUon ?nd open George's In those Instmcea, COW say they, ,blood lest or laklng a flngcrprlnt; 

Ido l on rcco.rds. IIe needs them lo: ' sub~~ltute thelr jud~mcnt for that d , lhercbaconslderoblcl~vaslonofth~ 

!lnthb,n\other and hllf nlslcc, so he the donor and order.tha traasplmt lo, wy. paln, and a rlak of serlous *pd 

'em ack UlEm for the ban6 harrow maven . llfr. ' , ' , wrmmht damaaetolhedon0t.Ot ' i 

....... ........................ '. . ',The fact that in lndlvldunl may .,' M Csplnn of he llmllnga Center. 

A court vlclory lalay, however, dle is pmbably jug1 not enough," srld lns~il~ii: a-klcty, Uhlcs and LUC 

! could bc short.~~urd. II mrge meeb Dr. Snlvalorc F. Flsclnm, a physlclm- Sctcnccs In Hastlng~~n.Iludcon, New 

hls molhrr scd hall sIIlcr. the person8 allorney and a WasNn#ion.ba#od nu-. York, 18ld1 "If a compsllble donor b 

who pmbably wdd be most compaU. lhor of a text on law and medlclne. "1 uked lo ~lve up a trawplnnt. lheconble 

lor a Irsnsplant, he could face yet don't sw how a court could enforce I atnl mny really be carced. Although 

analher legal problem. .. ..... tr8~plsntrgdtuladonor'~arlll." ' a pcnon mlghl wan1 lo rrfw, thq 

1 If both relatlvc~ rcfusc lo bedonon. Attorney John Sludeny ol Mtb- may feel ahamedln(odo1nglL 

I It Is unllkcly that any court w1U lor- byh salh pople have rn-rlyt to re. . DaveGhlmp. a4.%year~ldcran8op 

. ._-.-.- -_. --.. - . ..- .---_....__.----...... -.--,--.---- 

. . . 

crhor from Fllhburgh, could not cal roccdum." 

be carecd in July 1918. When he wac d~tln three web. McFIU was 

found to be the only computlble bone dead. ..-.. 

marrow donor for hb dylng cousln, Tommy 6tmnk of ~~lllamilown. ~ ~ I L R- UUUL~\IP L 

. Robert -- AlcFdl. Shl~rcfumd tq W1.' . ~z-5d iTidIXiick in fwo. Nthou@~. 

dcrgoanopratK : .. a. I '1 tulfcrlng from a Ialal lddney dlscaas;'; 

*'We all loved Robert.:;,'.##ld he llved becausc a court ruled he 

could #el a needed kldney from hla 

w 

Shtmp's mother, Ruth. "But my son 

ha, allergies and wss undcr hat. mcnWly lncompclenlbrolhcr, Jerry. 

men1 for back prublema. We thought 

an, opraUon wonld hurt !dm even 

?h(hcco"riasld It was substituUn(i lb 

.......,I,. 

.), more." 

., Judbment for that of Jerry, who had a 

mcntdageofabmtd. , ' ' ' 

SO MCF''. a ~.jcar.o~d former as. 

beslos worker, asked UM Allegheny Judge Tom Osbornc of the Kc? a 

Common Pleas Court for help - md . 

losl. . , 

Forclng Shlmp to donate bonc mar. 

row lo hlcFal1 "woulddefent the tmc. 

Uty of Ule Indlvldual." snld Judge 

-- --... 

John P. Fllhcrty Jr. "It would re. 

qulre f~relble ~bmlulon lo lhe medl. , 

----. 

tucky Court of Appeals mote lhal 

'-becauac Jerry was greally dependent 

upon Tommy, emollonally and 

psychologically ... hh wd.klng 

would be Jm ardlrcd more severely 

by the loas ofhh bmthv thm by the, 

Bn TlUNSPLANT, I'a[e Bd. Cd. 1 

. . 

~ I t~urt C snld the patnu had 

be. 

were im ywns 10 Ie. 

I~ consent. . the npcrrllon l1nd only 

10 I110 D~CID~IW

34 Years Of Questior~s

.- - , I%iL.. 

~ollll8, ~nllforo~l* ut~t~.llrr! 

A~IIII~~~, ,l ,r, 

ears Vt Kesear- .. 

ter 57 Years Son Is 

SMn pn an% hl.wdl mldmt far the Idmllly of her blrlh. .w -2s lu~uty tm h r IUI lm 

Mawm mp *la lnun re, RrnNlmMhn. .W fell tho llmc nl ~.)rn)udln~~.m.nnl.thlln in 

. t ~b~Ed,~.h'rn a111cI1 . on rlnhl Qr -8, *rWw hr vm~l inn M. NIM~, irr mnw .cn14 nt 

hnlllhn.Shhdllmnlnl-YPM #nnbnolh-lwI~~l~~.n~l blrnvt In 

' uamh lm .n(;e mrlln whm sk .t.hrolnsy. 1clr.s nl 111. and 

j diuol~dhlh.ram*l~~r*~dmdh 

uMd * Nmr Smllll lor M W 

11mn pliwy. ralra,rosory am1 Ixdb haw rrrctplloa. nl~rmrly 

yron.Lu(drl-Wlk 

Ikhdm*inud 

dolnlak- ~I.~lr~t.I~nl~.r~lrl~hl~h~~rmply 

Imnhkl k I,l,ll, p,.nlf.lln .h, 

IlnBlh'nUnhm*hnr.~ nnrly .as a lull-lbrdnl Sl.~nutJ. hrn 181 

74 ran CM hd hnn i d h a n d cbu~lndsluti~hpm~. 

' dbrm u6mtd by mny htla I" 7. dllr blarnart4'm warrb lur 

,.hO Iamll Mataarrl wam(rd dzd in 110) h.rlnA ml hl. ~rlh 

r#dulb dm r a l 111. ~ . a n mk and Ih ywmnl hll il.1~. 

Qrwd mrdry.llplnldmnnr. Maw,.( mndlwr slstn hasralsn8~1 

aallm lofm 

k lk kaII( Iomlal~lhh lhd&r dllr 1%" il.lnx and n &If. 

1rr~ll.r drrrnl and klnd WM , lrnm dm tm~ )r# knr -MI hn 

h l ~ r m ~ c r l ~ ~ n d ~ ~ ~ l.\mwn. ~ m l h l l k 

' ~'blnh~rardmolh" rMe dwn ih ddPr ihlrr *n. laW I* In.' 

nunlk. In nv W rm d m - jnnlnalln rlm .h .a. 17 nlrul( 

ncrlcda* nn hp(mr1rn. khln. Ixcrhrhmlrfm%l~rll 

m ( ~ l n e h t ~ d ~ l ~ r t ~ ~ I l+d ) m . ~Isln 1C)r.n ILauI 11s' 

mrlntnn~~~~dC..II(~lrbir~h drm.tutw~ kw11m1xn lhlr moth' 

lrlndmah hd -pny. rrrla~ . .-,u I.,.IC w #by mndr m 

1h.1 ~rmqburhm~ Irsurn. 

I .n,ndIorrllhrrk lk wd I*,. A rap. Slans8~l'm llnd 84 1,Cr IJUWf'q lpfcll* 

~r~~n~WtMklvmhlarprv1 nahr mrclr I>I~ ~h dl-1 h-ll 

and the bltth ~rant1moth.r ..I awn I" Nnnlrlll C.Itl-1. AI.'lA 

I m~ahl~M and a lwrha blr t ~ ~ ~ ~ o l l ~ ~ l h l ~ ~ 

nlabltdvd 

1.....rt~l rmnplrlnl. hlnrflrtrl 

mw~~l,~rd~~~~w.ICCC .,,,,, A I ~ MI", m b in ltncl ll*.lr 

,,ll~dt.' uarprd uld "lhqh binhpmnlrirclllldrrn llnl If Q*kc*a 

my I.IM. 1. was I- Nnvrnzkr I b.uy IUIIP~I 014 u*mt-dlnl 

I~I I, u* n m h llulmiin7an rplsrami~nm~ly 1usurvl~*t1*.1v111n 

i mm *D... .-III. yn,e wss 11.1 .,d .(I flmn lru~lr#llon nl-~'m: 

, NIUIU. h UYI mNn *.Ih6$ hl ll S l~*~ll!llll OW1 * at '"" 

%:iGa$ a pdd d bIlnm and lh rdnin#rr(rrl~rrr 

I&dyuld"m". &lp.lhanhalfd ~I~I~IWIIIIIIR~~I' 

~ . ..~ala~l ~ ~ louy ~ wmard ~ d lakmhrr fa11~~r'1111~. RmII* 

#&b). .h )k ~tmmlrd la Say " d ~ t l ~ ~ . lN30~hC~8W~cr 

~ l ~ ~ h l 

.-lln..n.Wd'. .dd ih.1 IW lnl~~rnsllm lr Lo* 

~ l ~ ~

,~ 

~~ ...,. 

h I I I ' llrlrt lw~t,* l~.~~Itm*Ithlo allr msnttd b a t& lted ibt)r 

rirb18 maormnlb .him# htmrlln tnrlnttd prtnvl*. latl dnt so, thrr would hlrr di!

S~I~C \\ri(cr . 

0 (Thlr Is lhr Ilrd In n ncrlrs 01 nrilclrl 

on lbc rlforlr ol ndull n~l~~plrcm In ~nfn 

nrcrw In ljlrll~ nnd nllnpllnn rccorilr.1 

"Scnlcd rccorils hnvc bccomo the 

prlrrmry vlllnlt~ In whnl I cnll lllc 

nl)ll~olqy of ndoptlon: lhc ldrn Ulnl oncr 

n rurrendcr is slpncd. IIle nnlarnl [mrcnIs 

me lorcvcr drnd lo lhc chlld glven up for ' 

ndnpuon, and Ulnl UIC ndopllng pnrcnb 

NC hl chlld's only ~. prcnls. nul is 

sln~ply a llc." . 

111Lt oplnlon 11 cxprcsscd Ityac1n 

tlnscpaaa of hlorristonn, ~~.ycnr-orb 

'-T1lo7~molhcrof two chlldrcn, rife 018 

physicist allh Allled Carp., nnd Ncw 

Jrrwv ...~. 

roardl~tor lor Ulc ~r!optCen' 

Uberty Movcmcnl A&?oclnlion. 

.The Adoplces' 1,lberly Movcmcnt 

r\s,dotlon Is a non.proIll, inx.ercmnpl 

orgnntrallon chnrlcrcd In lhc shle of 

Ncw York allh locnl chnpkrn lhrougho~t 

the Uni(cdSlntcs.Cnnndn, ~uslralinnd 

Europe. nKrc nrc npproxlmnlcly 16,000 

memlrra Uvoughoul Ule US., whom Uve In .New Jcrmy, Including WO of 

' 

\ 

Morris. Warren nnd Susscx cnunllcs. 

AlAU was founded in Mnrch lDfl 

when n smnlindnppenrcdin the personnl 

column of nn Ncw York Tlmcs. Tllc ad 

ms ploccd by Florcnce %hc_r nflcr she 

hod complclcd n mycnr scnrch for hcr 

nnlurnl porcnIs. She wondcrcd I1 she 

acre islntcd In lmr leclin 3 nnd experlcnces, 

but lhe hundrdq 07 rcslmrwes 

. pouring into the post offlcc box lndlcnlcd 

:UwtLhere mas a lol golng on In UIC mlnds 

of nwnc Ilmn 5 rnilllon odoplcd people 

-Ulnf hod no1 ye1 bccn lnppcd. 

: .'oOltr mmc is dcrlvcd lrom UIC Spnnlsh 

.word "nlrnn," wlllclt ,mcnna 'sou),"' 

'ncmrding lo hlrs. Finlar. "The dcnlnl 01 ' 

::hn ndult humnn bclng'a rlfiht lo lhc kulh 

'..of. hh orlgln crenlcs n scnr nlllch Is 

'Imbedded in Ills soul lorevcr. 56 AlAU 

:hs a qmlnl hennlng lonU 01 us, for we 

.hnre each been hurt In Ulo mmc any.". 

.'. A lrnlance phologrnphcr and lornlcr, 

'English tcncher, Mrs. Hascgnws EtlarCA 

' 

cousln's home In Gcorgla, whcrc she (the 

cousln) loend n bnx 01 pholournplu lcfl 

by llcr mother nt hcr dcndt In 1967 nnd 

she slmrcd one lcllcr lrom tllnl lmx with 

me," nlrs. Ifnscgnwn mnunucd. 

n~clcllcr, wrlltcn by Mrs. llnsrgnl~o's 1 

ndopllvc moulcr, -Id, In pnrl, "After I 

' 

four yrnrs ol lrylng lo ndopl n baby, 

wc'vc nl lnst lound onc Ulnl wc bcllcvc Is 

aura, bul LC bnl>yy's molllcr cnll't nlnke 

up hcr mind...It In n snd but inlcrcsllng 

case. n c chlld'a mothcr and lnthcr rrtcl 

'." , -. .v-. --, 

J n ~E@+~FTC Y 3 

-were 

-.pl: s d, ing mqie 

and wcre.nmrrl t l r s ~ x )cars ago. 

nlry llnd irnvclcd nll ovcr lhc world nnd 

hcr husbnnd wns klUcd In Cl~lnn in nn 

slrplnnc .nccldcnl and she rclurncd lo 

Arncrlcn drnUluk. 'NclU~cr alrc nor hcr 

husbnnd hod nny ncnrrclnllvcs and llvcd 

:. nbrond so long tho1 she hod lost (rock of 

her old frlcnds~pho mlghl cnre for lhc 

UH senUmcnIs of Mrn. Fisllcr. . .. ; bnbv!' 

. . n m In Ncw York Clly on Fcb. 7,1W2, 

- .- . . , 

.Mrs. Hnscgnwn wns ndopkd 12 days. Mrs. Ilnscgnwn wns cr~t~Fn~~y III nnd 

:Inter. Slue snld ala oflcn wondered abnul "brlcfly lcnlllcd Uul I n~lclrl not see nly 

.her orlgl~l molhcr nnd UIC deslre lo chlldrcn grow up ns my nlothcr Imd kcin 

.knm more kame 

Intense when her om! : unnblc to see nit grow up!' 

dnughlcr ans born. ' ' . ' 

I 

Deeply rellplolls. Mrb. IInsc~~wn &old I -- ---.-- 

oC "\\%en lhcy pul my Infnnl dnuglrkr in . 

DEAR Allnl': I hgrcr mmp e7E7FGllli.' 

sllc rrlllcd out lo Owl. 

my arnts. I 

"I wlll no1 t!lvr up 

was ovcnvhcl~ncd wlUl urlcf 

' MMHIEI OF TWO 1 '1~~9 ON&. I.m 

anlll ).oa bit-ss IC." Smn nfl~~rrvnt~l. rllc 

lhnl I hnd ncvcr 11nd n chnncc lo know tny 

, the pnrrnls allo snvc up.t~~c~r CIIII~ for 

ori~i~l moll~rr ntld llml slrc hnd lo glvc 

nlcl sllltlelrnr nl n conrcrl In Nrs York ndoplfo~~ u'undcr wllnl 11nl8nencd lo Llrnl 

,me up:' hlrs. llnrcenwn rccnllcd. 

who know n r~~uslcl~~n wlll~ her ,ll~>tl~r.r's cl~lfrl. 1'111 nlso slim lllnl cl~ll~lrrn wl~o 

' ~ hc nlorrbtnnn rnoll~cr Jolncd Al.hlA 

Ilrsl IC. nbIc11 wns WIIISU~I~. ulln 11:,11 hnw t**cn nilnPled.woadcr nboul IIIclr 

alalllrd In I'nrl* "nl Ill? I l1:11' tltrl,. ".I I.. rlnlurnl parcnln. 

In 1975 nnd rncl oU~cr ndoplrcn llkc 

larwlf, nswrll 11s tl~otllcrs \vl~ohnd gfvrll 

trlu!:l~~lnr: (!rove Mrn Iln,,.!.;. 1 nnl 13 nrltl .do IIP~!. I lr~vc my mollrcr 

8 !?, 

who ndovtcd inc. /lei 011 nfou~cr.~ any i 

up llwlr cl~lldrcrt lor tldoptlon nnd wrtc 

ui~111:lll'sl:l!:l 11:11111.. 1~111~~11 K.1: 1.. . :, ; 

w'ullrlcr II nly nnturnl mofhrr 

scartMnR lor thrln. 

Ni-rv Yurk ICIC~IIIOIII! hk. 

hnr nrlyonc 

Rlvlng ltcr n cnrd or flowcm, or 

. "~dop1ct.s lire inn fnnhny world Urn1 1 hlrs. Ilnsl~pnrll cnll~l i)lr warlltlrl I11 

~lcnls in cxlrc~~~rs," nnld Mrs. Ilnscgnwn. ' IDifl, Fnrc llcr her nnrtlc, cli~tc- an11 I,'.. ,: rmlllem or nlslew nnd If I I~nvc. wllcrr 

nlry rhlrtk llml IhcIr tnoU~er wns clUlcr ofllll n11l1ll I I I .! 

!Itry nrc and wltat l)rcy lmlc llkc. 

I 

n b ~fi lpllp or n princess. At AIMA, I 

wonder why my lrnrrnls jinvr mr up. 

l~cr IIIIIII~III 111i1111cr fnr Iltrci! >IV: 5 

fount1 lhnt ~volllrn rlle hnrl plvcn 1111 thdr 

.Somcdny I would llkc lo nlert (tlrt~l. 11111 

"TIII. anlt!:ln sns vrrg c~~l~l. 5. 1.1 

In LIB* nlrnnllm*. I woltld IIIIC to ~IIOW 

elrilrlrra Ior'ndiq~llon wcrr wonlcn Ju$l drflvalrr 11111l snld sllr IIIII~ 110111111): 1,0 mmcll~lrrg nboltt ll~rrn. 

Ilkr my Irld. nnil nlc." 

!!It11 t~~r," ~II!:. I~:ISCI;IIWO 

snld, ,,I.,I;!: 

I'nl sllrs mnny cllllllrr~~ nlltl ndlllts n.llo 

Mrs. llnrel~ns.;t anld nhc wrolc hutl. alllnnnl nnrl n~itnb. I nrotr'l~or ~I

-- 

/' .... . - 

. . 

ields dues 

Junc 29.1944 

ll you unly kncw how very IIIII~~I I wan1 lo 

scc yo11 and hold yo!^ clnsc. Swccll~cort you nrc 

cvcrylhln~ lo lnc. I am working nlghl and day so 

lhal I can pay lbc moncy I owe and hnvc you my 

loo lorever. I hopc you arc wcll. 

1 drcamcd an awlul drcaln aho~ll you. Don'l IcI 

anything happen in you. You and I arc all each 

olhcr havc. 

hlomce loves you dorllng, wllhoul you lllc 

could no1 go on, You and I havc had a prclty 

ruggcd llfc ynur 2 rhorl ycars. Dul we wlll 

havc somc hrcaks. 

I havc prayed cvcry nllc lor Cod lo help 

us and b my dolng lhc rlghl lhlng llc Is go1 :g to 

help us: ram eohllng lor go,I as soon as I gcl pahl. 

I gcl pald on thc 5111. 

Darllng don'l have Iorgellcn mc. You will sonn 

be hnvlng a 2nd hlrthday. 

It rnms lhal ou know Ion huw nnbohy wanlcd 

you, and how armor1 alone wc wcre except lor 

Elltabc~b, md rcmcmbcr how my slslcr (your 

aunllel came I*CBII~C I was hcr only slslcr ond 

that I had dlsgraccd thc la~nlly and had lo bc told 

every day. 

The long wall bclorc you wcre born was hard. I 

' was slayln(l wlth Aunl Evelyn and rcmcmlrr how 

ashamcd shc was lor her lrlcnds to see mc. 

2 I talkcd lo you thcn us I am lalklng now and I 

lhlnk you havc l~ndcrsloo~l lrotn lhc bcglnning. Dy 

I-d 

Ihe gracc of Csd aud by your slanding by, we arc 

going lo havc u lltllc homc .%IC day. 

Slncc the day I knew or lhc day Dad knew 

X' I havc no1 had a honw and, slnce you came; 

r- 

ncill~cr have YOU. 

C, 

Rcmcmbcr, uur slaying In lhc hospilal 15 days 

hccausc wc had no onc lo lake us ho~r~c wllh 

Ihrm, and lhm dcor Aunt Evelyn lwk us bul sald 

2 

rr: 

she would nul wall on us an11 that I would havc lo 

gel oul as sonn us I was ablc III work. 

b I never wcnl to bed when I come lt.on~ the 

P 

hospllal. I sluycd up all day cvcry day, washrd 

yours and nly clolhcs, hcllwd mop, clcan yards, 

anylhlng, unlll you wcrc llvc wrel:s old and we - 

rl 

yuu and I - renlcd a iwo.rtn~t~~ upslnlrr aparl- 

., 

mcnl. No jast lwo rootns and wllh lhc lllllc plcces 

ol lurnllurc wc col~ld gcl logclher slarltd llvlng 

$ lhcrc. 

k I got a lllllc eolorcd girl 141 lurk allcr you .and I 

8 wcnl lo work. You wcrc only live wccks (,Id. I 

rc~nc~nlxr how lhal I worhc~l all day and vamc 

.C, 

hutnc and yn11 an11 I slaycd leg~'lh~r a1 nlght. 

fa 

Wc wcrr Lupgy. Tl~cn you wcrc slck wllh mld 

rl 

and you sccmcd lo alt~osl chokc aI llmcs and I 

would sll up 1111 nlphl olrald lo go lu slccp, nu1 

wanting to go lo slccp because darllng wr! wcrc 

0 one and arc sllll onc. 

And lhcn ramc Col. neverc all lhc way lrutr~ 

Eglln Ficl~l wlll~ Ca l Nautnan Thc Col., lhcn a 

Major, lclllng ltlr [dw m!la.h ho low~d as and 

wanlcd us wllh hltn, not lclllng IC he was still 

C1 

'u 

a 

+ marrlcd. 

I wnnlcd lhc best lor you "ll~~!rh" SI wc wcnl. 

llc was stlll ~r~arrlcd un~l hls wllu and son 

llvlng with hl111 I wcnl lo wurk lcavlng you 

5 $ wllh the lady 11s gol lor us is llvr wllh. Lzvcry 

0 a Ihlng was gsb~g all rl~lhl llnlil LC l~cgan lclllnfi 

peoplc lwhllc ilrisklng) Illat you wrrl! 111s and that 

' 

3 8 he lovcd us. Then whcn bc war sober ond kncw 

.o IhaI hc hall lalkctl loo much. 

f4 '79 

Ilc and 01ls ~ atr~c CavI. Nau111an sald thal 

$3 $ you irnd I wcrc (he ones to lcavr YO Ihoy pilck~d 

O'Q us up and l~ak as III Cr~!slviuw and put 11s nn a 

' * train. 

.. From III~I day 1111 ILls, wr havc l~cen ~IISIIFII 

.+1 

around. We wrrc haplly just 111~. two of qs at111 the 

o 

lllllc Negro girl who cried wl1r.11 u~! left and lhey 

91 

.v 

~H."uo~IcII Ill away. 

n 

tlarllt~g, IIIIII'I I~trgt-I your t~~~nlhcr IIIIUIIICC). I 

0 

0 

lovc you. Yea tl

.----- .-" 

: Decades-old letter is adoptee's 

only. link to his Birth nlothcr 

1 ' 

,By Jeanie Blake 

nanlc tclorc 11e was n~lopled was lully sarrcndcrcd all my parcnlal wnrry that he mlghl havc inherill' 

Ilcrl~rl. w~tntlcrs why. rights lo him." gcnclic prohlcms lhal wlll h 

"What ilrlcnlllicallonl dl11 I ISC nelly has a gat lccling 111:tt \Ylrk passed on lo 111s rhlldrcn. 

he lcllcr. dated Junc 20, prior to (hat lime lor such lhings as holt's niolhcr was told lllal lirr son Ilc whcn hk lirsl child iva 

1944, 11 hls only llnk lo thc schoal,clc.?" hc asks. had dlcd. "Thal has happcncd horn, he loakcd al her with nwc. 

t: 

moihcr be ncvcr knew. Wlrkboll dncx know Illat he was bclorc." allc says. "For lhc lirsl IImc. I saw somc ,* 

It Wac wrltl~n whcn hnpllzed al hlalcr Dolorota Church "Wc havc a lrlcnd, who also war one who had my hlmd," he rays. 

Y',&(li~~k~_Il,~k_aa l!pert was In Nca Orlcan~. - adrq~ted la New Orlcans. Shr! discov- "Dclorc my lirsl child was hnrn 

1 morbJw?noycars old, anddls a Ills l~apllsrnal crrtillcalr, whlch crcd that her hlrlh molhcr, who had wouldaclaally lay awakc at nl~hl 

I 

kad,~ldura~?ous rlory ol n yollnR 113s hls surname misspcllcd as lemporarlly placed her in a home, tear that my chlld would hc hor 

rd&$~g gave Wrlh lo an illcgill Habcrl, cnrrics handwritlcn not. was told lhat sh~ 

had dlcd. If II Lop dciormcd Or not hcdllhy hcc~lllc 

mntc.vqh'ind, bmu3e ol lhal, was (Inn: "@aptlz& In dan~cr 01 dcalh." pcncd oncc. 11 could hnvc happenEd had no lden ol my ~cnclle hack 

ostraclredlrom hcr lomlly. Ills parenls arc lisled os again." ground. 

Wickbolt we3 no! qufle two ycars "unknnvn." F.e and ilobcrt Wlckholl. Wick "This lrar is probaby incomprr 

old when hls muthcr arolc 111111 IIIC ~icklr~ell, likc 11lt1;i "dopic&,' 116ll.s n1111plsd pnrcnls, r~cupy ll~c henslhlc lo inc propic 1vltl1 lamil 

lellcr, and yet shc nnhurdcned 11rr- always hod a curloslly ahoul his thlrd sldc 01 the "ndnptlnn lrlnnglc" lrccs, but I had new seen nnsnn 

sell to hlm as I1 he wrre hcr only past. Ih 1070, hc wrolc a soclal and arc Ihc oncs lhal gnvc their lhnl was rclnled lo me by hlocrl. a 

conlldnnl and lrlc~d. And perhaits, worker In New Orlcans sceklng adoplcdmn thc leller. least no1 lhal I muld renrcmb!r." 

a1 lhe Ilmc. hc was: Inlormlllon, b111 reached a dead Whllc many parrnls In their psi- Like olhcr odoptcl who arc try 

From her lellcr, Wlckholt aar- end. lion mlght feel thrcnlcned. thc lng lo lnvcsllgalr lhelr hcredil) 

mlrcd Lhal his molhtr was cducalcd Then. In 1916, whcn he was 34, Wlckholls arc secure In lhclr Wlckbolt Is eonllnually told - 

and came lror~ban upper- or mld Wlcliholl's adopled parents Rave ndnplcdson'slovc. "We knnw hc has usually by slrangers - lhal h 

dle-clau New Orlca~s family. him his niuthcr's leltcr. which had lhls unrest lnsldc 01 him and wc should drop 111s search. lhat hc ha 

From a social worker, he lcarned kcn glvcn lo them by the xrllarc hop (hat hc linds lhc information no rl~hl 

lo learn aboul his iinc~sc 

lhal hls molhcr was 17 YcRn 0111 dqarlmcnl at ihe llmc nl l,ir adop he wants:' nobcrl's adopted molhcr lhat he should let lhe PUS1 sla. 

when he was horn and that his lion. From lhal llmc on, hls curlm says. hurled. 

a lalhcr was an Air Corps olllccr. Ily became an obrcsion. "We wlll always he a part of his But he thlnks about his mnlhcr' 

But so much about Wickbolt's Wlckboll entered the Navy life - and he a part 01 ours - no letter and llnds new strength, net 

pail makes no scnsc.l1is history Is a stralghl lrom high school, married, matter what he dlscovcrs. It not cnmuragcmcnl. 

rnysler that Wickboll my3 hc mUBl had lhrcc daughlrrs. grndualcd Just curloslly, hut a nalural longlng It was rclallvcly easy lor \Vicl 

unravcrll he Is lo 11114 pcacc. lrom collcgc, worked loward his lo know who onc'a hlrlh parcnls boll lo llnd out the lull idcnllly c 

And the blggcst plme to the pur- maslcr's dcgrcc In psychology, and wmc." hk taU~er, In thc Imiler, hls moth1 

rlc la that six-page litndwrlllcn let- was dlvorccd in 1912. "We lccl his concern, and arc ldenlllled him as "Col, Rcvcre. 

ter pnncd alnlost 31 ycars ago lo Dcscllc his rough hcglnnings, totally supporllvc:' adds Rohcrt's whowasslallonrd at Eglln Flcld. 

hlq by hla molhcr. Wlckbult Is an eaygolng guy, who ndoptcd lalhcr. Wickbull learned lhal his lalhct 

It Is clear lrom thc lone ol her enjoys thc outdoors and lalklng wlll~ Whllc Wlckholt'n saga is unique In Col. lloberl Ezra llcvcrc who an 

in Net 

htr son on July 6, 1344, when she scuhn diving shop In I'asndcna. arc common tears 01 adopted Orlcans,haddled. 

,101 paid, but shr never did. Tcxas. adults. llcavy on hls mlnd Is t11e Ilcvcrc. Wirkboll dlscovc rd, ha 

: 111s mother lrnd gone lhroogh the Ilul his nhadowy past cnnUnucs lo -. 

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emberrasrmcnl and hnrdship of haunt 11lnl. Wlckbolt rccnlls. with 

havln~ - and kcepin~ - her illcpfi. sonic blllcrncss. that he has always married tw$Ils fitsf had hcr WIC~ WIS III ha. on her 

.lmnle child. Why Ihcn didn't she worked. Nobody evcr gave hlm a dlcd, but his and lhclr son. 

come? thing, hc says. two daughlem wcrc still living. Uul perhaps she had nn idea. PCP 

: The lalhcr 01 her child, wllrrm shc Whllc man). adoplccs, who arc wlCkbolt Mrs. Revere a hnpsshc was wriling tor the tulurC 

lellcr that she lully Iclcndcd (0 gl!l people. Ilc and his second wllc run il . parts, much of what troubln him -~&~G~CSSG~~~XI&~ 

Rr 

'Idcntllled In her lcllcr as "Cd. looklng lor their roots, ex rcss lcltcr and then wen( lo .,isil hcr in lor rlghlnow. 

ncvcre," was a married man. Atld Inlcrcst only In lhclr history. Ick. ~ ~ l vo., l ~ ~ t she ~ now ~ llvcs. , 

Ccr(Jinly shc reallrcd that an 

whilerhecomlnricd hcnell vlllhl11s boll candidly admlls lhal 11 any M~, R~~~~~ told wlr.kboll lhnt infant mu]dn't comprehend all lhal 

drunken proleulons 01 love, it Was lnhcrllancc is due him, he wanls it. $he remcmbcrcri hcr has was revcallng. ~Vhy thcn did she 

~lnlully clear lo her lhccl Cut. Ilc says the inherilnnce would be band spcak(ng of a yoarlg woman ~II lnlo such dclall abnul hlr hlrlh? 

cvcrc was not going lo get a lor hls daughtcra and son, hut an a hut lhat was 11, 

dlvorcc. 

"I think sl~c had a slrnng lCCling 

aura scll'pl'y lor 'he 

. She acccptcd lhal sad lucl and 

Mrs. nctcrc's 21-ycartlld dough. 

lhal hc lost surrounds hi3 claim. 

that somelhlng was going to happen 

.sccmcd mnrc dctcrn~lncd 1h1.n cvcr 

AdrlPn she wi al first 

Ruesscs lvickboll, 

Wlckholl's swond wife, kl(Y, has 

shmked [a 

:lomlehllsh a norn~al life lor hcrscll 

find orit nbau! Wickbolt, 

hccori~c n skilled investigator In 

"She was hoping lhnt aomchow. 

hul hcllcvcs 

,and her bahy son. hcllllng hcr husband. Hrr groat sornc way. I wnuld gel Illis lellcr 

1lkC my lathcr; 

Whal happened lo her? II11 sllc cnipall~y for his situaliun slrnls 

and undcrslnnd the clrcumslances 

;die? Imm hcr psilion on Ihc olhrr *id? 

shc?Iald 

,.I lhlnk 

ina(clcp,lonc llltl,rvlcw,. of my birth. 

(wickbolt) has a [lghl 

Dut death doesn't onlwcr Wick- 01 lhr! adopllon lcncc. 

to know who hlr molhct 19," she "She wrolc In her lcttcr 'don't lel 

: Ml's qunllona. Dclly crlcd when shc lint read 

I anytl~ing hdppen lu you' SO she was 

11 hls nrulhcr had died whcn he 

the lellcr. Dut her salty droplrls "ii;ll Wlckboll Is sl a, a loss con. worried ahout somcthlng. 

.was o lnddlcr. Wlckbolt lnnlnlains wcrc no1 lor hcr husband: Thcy 

; hc would l~ave been lnlmedlalcly acre lor herself and ~ l ~ k b ~ 

rcr~~lng 

l l . ~ 

111s molhcr. ills knowledge "The tact thal 1 was lllrgllimate 

' put up for adopllon 0s oolh hls blrllr mother. of hcr Is limllctl lo hcr ICftCr. rould have hurl nly lalhcr's mill. 

: molhcr'r lamlly and Ills lall~cr sflc idcntllicd her because 

And whilf lhc lC(ter. which hc tury career and his lanilly was 

. clerrl didn't wan1 him. llcaltl~y. they all.rrcd slmllar cxperlrnrc: keeps protcclcd hctwfen Instic lnvnlvcd In la~~isiana p!l:!ct. She 

: rhlle~oy hahics wcrc thcn, as nuw, A 

When she was a nlcrc ,,I 14, 

3hccts, continuc~ to haunt im, 11 was undcr a la1 of pressure." 

, very mucli in dcniand. 

does erase onc lcar lhni la com- 

Uctty hecamc pregnant. Thc rnonlh 

As talc would havc il, ii is now 

DUl hC war 1101 placed lor ad011- a((cr sl1c turned 15, she had a bnhy 

monl~ shared hY person': Wlcklnll's turn to worry about hls 

' tlon. Instcad, he ~ I C C O a ~ war11 ~ 01 out 01 wcdlock and rcluclantly sar. 

knows was loved 

' 

: the slrlo, drllllng lrorri loslrr il~llc rrnrlcrcd hitn. 

motllcr, and (o an adoptcc lhal Is no 

r""lhrr and what has lo 

I~cr. 

' lo loslcr homc, llvlng In I11c Frcnch 

DcttY and. !oliC.li H'lckbu-U Sn~~v","!/~,"~~~~/~hlnks 

abol 

Quarlcr as a slrel urchin. 

lronicall ilc ulqhcs he 

Occupy two scparaic sldn nI what 

~ h ycam w wtrc tough mnlc la lo hC callc IS n~otl~cr's lct~cr. he gels turlni~s. wris hcr a 61cr. ' ' 

adoptl,ln 

hlm slrcctwlae, Wlckllnlt rcmllu. 

"I lccl a lot of angrr bward ihc 

Irlanfilc," which is corr~poscd 01 111c 

I'crhaps Wlrkb~)ll wlll never 

1113 carIIm1 ntcmwlcs arc 01 ronrtl- ~ ~ parcnls, l ~ odnpled l ~ ~ poplc who wfrc lnvolvrd with llcr know any tnorc ahrrul hlr mother 

Ing ihc slrcclr 01 the French Qllar. ant1 ll~c ndol~lrc. 

at lhat llnic because of lhclr of~vl. than uhat sllc rcvcalcd lo hlm in lhc 

Icr, shlnln~ sl~oc~ In hnrv llc lrc. O Y dollsl ~ ~ lorgel ~ ,.hlld,., nus lack 01 conccrn ol*lul hcr." Ilc ~crirr. 

qucnlly slcpl hchilld llllsllcs plonu Dcl~y snyr in a QICI voirc. "AI 

H*~;pkholt ,lc nalllrally, 31181 thsl Il!llcr. wrltlcn rhrn all 

the slrcetr. I:llrlslmns. cvcry hlrthday, yllu crlmc 

romnnllclrc his nlotller and 

prtn uscd ln~~ntain ink, stands as a 

Flnally, when bc was II ycnrs nlu~aysrcn~crtibcr. 

woulrl c,lnlncl 

hrr lctlcr cor~)~rrcs t~p on lnlagc a lcslamctll lo 11cr wcnknes6 as a 

old. ha was ndup'cd by hlne ;IIIII 

llnbcrl Wlckl~oll, wllh W~IOIII iic III~IIII~II 81 I~~I~rrnctllary. when ltc 

**qcry)x.a~~~lful 

worrinn wiih ragjicd wunlan a""dhr ro*ragc 

':Jlvcd lor six years. xc1.c III hc 18." shc says. 

clolbes gnln~ around oakin# lor odd '""lh". 

It look thrcc ycon lo? his ndo[~lcd wlt I w,rtlldn~i an).lhing when jolfi I mdcr to itlakc sufns* ml~rlcy It is 

Wirkhol' " 

prr0ttgh lo keep him searching until 

garcnls to rccclvc his "dalnyr~l" PC wns yollnfi becn~~sc 

lrlh cerllllratc lr8tti ihc wellarc he 10 111s ndoplcd lhal parents wouldn't and 

Oelllllllil 

clruld ovrr 

hi nlollrr ills narr~rlcsr, Iacrlew, nlyrlcllou~ 

dqtarlmcnl. Wickbolt, ul~l~c sure 

kl,,an c~lcCl hlrlh moti~rr 1s given an idcnlily. 

wei~l~l be inn rsnluslng to hlrii. I 

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'SecreC:y 

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C Tlrursda~ evenlng, ?larch 19, 

vs. right 

1981, Main ~ dltl~h, 3gpnges . . . . .. 

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Joseph 11. JfcCart~ 

nut George has no'ldea whether he 

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Jr.. .:, 

ness caieer in ~lorldn. 

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any Or slslcrs, 

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Nclthcr ~uvenlle'~ourt Judge Gene 

Mnrtln nor George'R attorneys 

now alive aftor two 

comment on the case while it 1s being 

speclalist. nt (he 

consldercd. George also refused lo be 

hfedical center. "11 a person surv~ves interviewed. snylnf! fearer1 hem1 ht 

two years after a transplant, his Say somothlng that would jc0pard 'f 

le 

chances are then pretty good of being hlscase. 

cured of the disease." . . - . . nut hls frurihnted and worried wife 

rile Georges asked ahoul marrow. Inn'tretlcent. . '. 

transplank usln either of their two:' Her sorry Is born of the chance that 

sons as donors, f ut doctors told them her husband's Cancer suddenly may be. 

such trnnsplanta have a low success comeacute. 

rate. 

qt's called the blnstlc, or accelcral. 

Thelr only chance now ls the ~uvenlle 

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Court file, a file thatremalnr Closed. See Secrecy, pg. 8A, col. 1 

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/lames Grant ~eorgeposs wllh hi wife, Mrs. hfariJ n George, 

andsons Mark, IH, left, and Adam, 3. Gcorgc is ask I' ng the 

Bflssouri courts to open his adoptlon fiieso he can learn whether 

he haa a brother or sister who couldsave his ilfe with a bone 

. 

arrow 

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transfusion.:., ' 

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continuedfrom ~ g. IA ,":. .. , 

ed, hase," sold Dr. Peter Coccln, records be opened. The petlllon 

a brood a~eclallsl and associate was lost. .. , 

lnrofessor 'of ncdlolrlcs 'at Case The lnwycr oskcd ogoln, later 

Ikeslern Reseivo Collene .- 01 .. Medl- . In December, tlial the records be 

clne, Cleveland. When a crson oncned. but s clerical error sent 

reaches the1 stage hls ciances 

are lust tcrrlblc. Hls chances of 

lbclni allve at the end of a Year 

arc

TIIE KANSAS CITY TII-IES 

Thurodny June 4, 1981 

Pnee Section B - B-6 col. 1 

ITor marrow donors,: -- .- , 

-. 

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,! -, Jamw Qnnt Geot63 who la tying 

o n hlrhlridoil16h words la save 

b%e; was c J h a mmpromb 

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Wednoday: Clam ielallva muld be 

monymowy Lakd lor compaUble 

bone murow whlla MLwurl pn. 

lbeuemyd hL 8dOpUan r?c- 

"?,+a. \ 8'. 8 . I .. .. ... .,. , 

At Uw, end of I fodr.hk hearing; I 

lawyer represenW Urn Intereats d 

Georg'a mothsr and hall #later aald 

hb cllenb would aubmlt to testa for 

: 8 Fd 

: bone murow mmpallbfllly U it wero 

that no other re~auva on the 

. 

: molhrr'aalde wouldbatated, : 

: Dr. Junn Armllrge, dlrrclor of the 

t bona mamw tramplant unlt at I& 

: Unlvenlt d low. In low8 f lty,teaU- 

: fled that Ke normdly would not rec. 

nmmend that any mlatlva mom db. 

htlhrn rentsor t1bUn.g ktatcd. 

11s a&the poaalblllty o( a match 

' with r 1ull.blded ilblln WM one In 

four, and the poralb~lty ofmatch wlth 

a hdf alder would konein aWor 38. 

The chrncc. of a milch rlth a parent 

would k even amder. 1"' ' 

; MlkI 

..... 

Curley,..tha lqwyar fpr 

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caailnucd - ~ mm - 

I 

one George la sccklng. More than half 

the patlenla aurvlved the (rnnsplanta 

1 and compllcnUona and hnve not had 

l the dlsease return. But Armllage 

wnrncd that those atetkllcs mlght not 

ba very rellablc bccauae the earlle6t 

bane marrow trnnsplanta lor 

mrge's dlsease were done only four 

or llve yeua ago. 

I 

Armllage told lhe courl lhsl bone 

m m w (ranaplmlsare "a dangerous 

procedure. a vcry rhky burlnms. It Is 

: ,,,rT,$., :..8..1:) '...!I . / 

Ccor#e'r mother and half rlster, dld 

not uy whether thy would agrre to 

be bone marrow donor8 U bey we9 

found toba compallblu. :.I I 

George. r S)-year-old n!irml com: 

uteraystcmmnsultmt, hubeentyla 

open hla adoptloa records lo 

Ulal he mlghl try lo convinca hlt 

mother and hdf 8lstsr lo donatb the 

bone murow ha needs. George, who 

was lrotn a1 the former WlUuws Ma. 

lernlty Home, 2929 Mdn, ha, chmnle 

mydorytlc leukemia. bona murow 

CMECT. 

i 

~ndcr the compmmbe augpntcd 

Wcdnuday dternmn in the juvenile 

dlvlalon of Jacluon Caunty Clrcult 

Courl. Wr#a could find out whether 

hh b m murow malcha hh mathere* 

or half alrlerer'8 wlLhaut flndlngout 

who they w or whem they llvs. 

Armltnp uld Ule medlan aurvleal 

rate lor psr#ona with bone rmrrow 

crnnr "Is in the nelghborhmd of 10 

monh from the Ums they w dl8 . 

nosed." George waa dlaanored Ln J 3 y 

IBM. 

There have been LW operatlons'con. 

.v!. !ktf3EORClE,PageM,Cd. I 

d u d In the Unlted Stater lke the 

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t. 4 . 

only done in tho hopes of curing Mfi :renclldntothe trsnaplant. 

alhenvlaelstaldlscnse." ....i. 

hrmltage sald bone murow donors 

II~ dso add thal If the transplant would have to be wUIing to rlrk lhe 

~ a D-L ~ were s unsucressful, Ule allempt mlgllt lnmnvenlenm of the operation. (bc 

shorten the paUent'slVc. , . dlscomforl or selcral &In punctum 

and between 80 and 2W pUnelWS d 

'-lids lssllll anexperimental procb 

dure." he aald. "There have not been 

Le bone. 

~ uhe t snld tho greatest rlrk urndd 

enough done and followed to sce how be the nnesthcsla. whlchco~ld sevm 

they turn out." 

ly han n person who was not well. 

Durlng lhooperallon. thebonemar. ,*The disease tan? curable wllhcmrow 

is lnkcn from lhe back boncs ol ventlonnl methods. but bone mumthe 

pelvls 01 UIC donor and plnced Into transolantatlon olfera lha ponrlbW 

tho vclnt ol the pallent. The reciplcnl $8 &i;,hesald. 

must thcn wall for the marrow lo The l~earlng wUI resume el Lbc 

grow. During lhnt llme there is a hlgh Jackson County Juvcnlle Justlee te% 

rlsk 01 lnfecllon and posslble adverse Leron Friday. 

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conllnuedlmm pg. IA 

and UI lvmr oul well. i'd ba #lr/d lb k a "ol fiblaiher and v; don+ &ant lo harass 

d o n o t ! .. . . .. .. I her. But the lalher'a name mlghl be on 

/ .lib4 bcorse.iald lhe till months nlao. Ihc blrlh certlllcatc. And lhc lather 

hive bnnhudon herhubandand her. .' ml hl hovequllealea~!dtwhowould be 

I., "~'hcn ~ l heardabout m Ma, herald h;. hd-bmlher~orahlera. 

,"is klnd olrelleved.Ikw~alual gclllng'.:. Martln &:Id he could nolcomme~l on 

,tired 01 Jum in every llme lhe lele whelhcr the lather'# name appear: on 

.lhone rang.Ihl&np It mlghl.ba some, IheorlglnalblrlhcerUlIc8Ia, ?, 

Indolnera. 1 .... 9 - . -. - Mrs. Cmr C anid the and htt h&bsnd 

I hln. Cmrge aald the and heihubiid have decld4 la .ab Uu relw d lhelr 

wUI conllnue ello* (ohave lha records tattercdllnat ag.1, !i; i ! 

opened. ,' .... . : : "I 11111 declt!cd lhc other nlphl," ah; 

I '.We're golng lo p he It k;ou;(. In ,.nald. "that Jlm 11 polng (o bd uound lor 

prtncl le at learl."th?tald. VThellemolh. rllc hvhlle. !nd we'm polng to ljvc one 

I er) ta~dlewouldnever 

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mveallhentme.. a~alallme. r .. I . ..

llon bl o cn rdopllon rccordl. 

ce.~(.udfr.rs l'a~.A.l 

. I 

P,,~~C.[ . 

I a(.'. Ornlls lald the mrl. "11 cmld 

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f@ 

Cancer victim is denied access to 

.!&dop 

i .. tion data 

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I 

a 

Bynon011mtt '. -.'lt 

L.o*M"lYU 

Jma Qranl (irsr#e. a I(lnrr8 

Cllvban adoptmfl hlln# lo arvr hb 

I111 lmmcmnr. ~ulfened I majorsrl. 

hh moWr md hU llatlr.)b 

wanblowInpr~uad~UHmIowb 

pfdon hh lU8 by dnnslln#bom mar. 

,mw, 811 I, fami lo M mmp.Ub~e 

xllhhhowa>)X~~, 

;;9. . . . 

'' (icor#a.i 81wr.q. Judllh Shsrp. 

rald UuJudlc. Qew blutln, fell Ulrt 

LhD"#h Ocor#ISl clrNm11~ W 

-nln Ind hurt.~ndln#. UHy do nd 

. . norh CompUlng CLnumlUnror 

In the pmporuoa rhlrhwould n uln 

overmt uu birth mothw.8 &I d 

. . 

by July ol~uru81,- 

Nmsh om11 muld no1 rived 

b w much hh lgd flsht h~ -1 w 

1". 1;s .Id in 8 ltlrphmr lnlmlw 

from rUml, "Tha rhola LhY hu 

colt w IlmI. N llnu and e11m d 

mmrow who bsnl h.r. a lot ci IL 

hl'athtro~l." 

Acmdln# lo a itdemml read by 

th. altornay d Ocoraa'a mother. .be 

nld tomled her l&nUly brcaw 

iha ranled In prate4 her dau(h(rr 

- and lmm Uu 

!~,"o;%d~~~% dnIdln#to help 

.m~nwhob.ld.lrLrln#u lo hm." 

7%. altornry. ALhatl CYTI*y. add 

lha h.LI al~trr. rho h a hu mrdlcd 

pmblrml, robably dld ml tmr lhal 

hwrls to &rae.~h.mo~1. 

also sald her hubnnd hu cum 

M Qrallel c4h" hdl tlll~l dl4 d 

hedl~rr.brlm.rhr~u m. 

I 

rr 

"WUs I am #rl~~cdlbl he hulw 

kcmll."lha mdhsl~lalemrnluld. 

"and hop8 he fhda a mm throuaha 

tone m#rro~lranrplant. I domdfnl 

I h1bmywn. 

1 Ippd. Ih. plnl lr. whd klnd d-a 

"Then wa found lhnl Llluourl lax "Tkn I 

Ilalro that delpllr wen U the,. were 

1 lhe chumntanrq d 

PcelnmcY Ehhd mI and wrnl a," 

romrlllo rlrrumllannl.r~nnde.4 *h* *nld. "I nwa had r tb.&t d 

a vnlrrr from lha ptenb klorm rr conllclln# lha tNd and never *on. 

could 1t1 Ihe rccordl np11Cd. 7hfil.1 dered whal happnd. I narrrltlt~~a 

Cl1ch.U." Qmrp #.Id. '.Ifow am I h1da'Ion'MmIwhrra." 

Colnl lo act a walvff U I cm't ldklo 

Ihernl" 

bho Inld aha had aull~red I 

deal 01 pn~~un. In lh. plnt';!Fi 

Eullrr In !he mk. IhIdlrrdor d allnoat 1ul1rrt.l a nerrova htk. 

Ih* L'~vc11IIyofl0w8'I~nemarr~w down. I pray for Jlm (imr#r d hb 

IranIPllnl unll lanlUle4 (ha1 moll 

pople rllh ton, marrow ranerr dl* 

*IWn (a lnonlhl d when lh. dlsrns, 

Iadl~mmrd. 

In ihr W~IIIC~ statt~ntn~ RI~BY, 

Qeorae'a mothet uld, ''I nawr maw 

Ihr bIb and nrvrr lleld hlm" dler 

11r1nt bl;(h rlfiolormerwuIIow~Ia. 

Itrnll~ lbmm.~mkf.ln. 

11mlly.'. 

Earllrr In lhm rtck. Cutlq had 

.LUrllrdarompfomlat Th.moU~rr 

and hdl m.sIrr bkld arbmlt lo I.,Is 

for ton* muror rornpallhlllly U it 

WrI otrtrdlhll Molhrrrrlltlrnon 

lh*molhn'sllda m.ldbrronlmclrd. 

Oaorta @.Id rom romlse was 

r*lrrrnltmauw ha^ ~~V*ImInclh. 

In#. Evan If lhey mllchrd. then r.8 

no suuanln that lhry rovld dona!, 

any mnrrow."

I 

for marrow 

+.,!! I ! donors' 

II., :I.:i a.17.3 

) ' i:'::;' ~By~on~nlrolf ,'.. I 

f I.~,MI!~wII(u..'- ! 

, Japr Crr$!.GeorgZ, who is lrylng 

lo oprni~adoptlon recordr to rave 

his IUe. wu ollered a comprombk 

Wcdncsdryr Close relhtlves would be 

'monymoualy tnled lor compatible 

bone marrow whlle Mlsrourl pre. 

rervcd the cccrmy 01 hisadopUonrcc- 

I OrdI. 

. . 

I 

I At Ih@ md of a 1our.hour henrlng. a 

lauyer rc~menllng the Inlerrrli of 

~corg?s moUvr and hall rlrtcr rrld 

hlr cllcnls would submll lo lerlr for 

bone m m w mmpstlbUlly U It were 

a ~ m Urn1 d na other relaU$& on tbe 

'molhcr'sslde wuld belated, .I , 

,I Dr. Jmu Arpltnge. dlrectoi of the 

ibons mvrow lranaplant unlt Il the 

Unitrally d ima In Iowa Ctty, lerll. 

'fled Ihat he normallv would no4 re@. 

'IOU?. and tht~lblllly olmalchallh 

!a half rhtudd bconelnlOOor300. 

;would beevensmaller. Z' ' . 

,( Mike Curley, the lnwyar lor 

, l c l . . , 

Omrge'r mother and half rlrler, dld 

not ray whether U~ey would agree lo 

be bone marrow donori U Ihey rere 

foundlobecompallble. . .. 

wr~crpe. 1 ~3.yearsld warn1 ;om. 

ular syrlem mnlullanl, h u been lylo 

open htr adoptlon recordt 10 

that he mlght try lo convine4 hlr 

mnlher nnd hll! rlde to donate the 

bonc mmw he needa, Ceorge, who 

- wra born it the lonnar WUIowr hlaternlly 

Home. 2929 Mnln, har chmnlc 

myelocytlc leukernla, bone m e w 

CMCV. . 

Under the cornprombe tuggnlcd 

Wcdnerday Utemwn In the juvenUa 

dlvWon of Jacluon Counlv Clrcull 

Court, George could find oui whether 

hh bonc marrow mrlcl~er hlr molh. 

er'r or half dster'r without llndlng out 

who .. . thcv -.. 

ire orwhera Ihev llve. 

Annllage rnld tha medlrn #urvlvd 

rate lor persona wlth bone marrow 

cancer In the nelghborhood d 40 

monUu lrom the Ilme bey w dlua 

nosed." Omrge wndlamord in July 

1mo. 

There have been W operatlonr condudcd 

In the Unllcd Glalcu lute the 

It'. , , 

, .~ ~... 

. 

QEOROE, Pr~e 

84, Cd. 1 

; Con@nrd lmm Page B-1 

one Gb~rge is reeldng. More than hall 

Ule prUenln survlved the tranrplanld . 

md compllcaUona and hare not had 

the dlscare relm. But Armllnge 

warnEd Ihat thole rbtisllcs mlght not 

, be very retlnble because Uu earllcst 

bone marrow tranrplanta lor 

I Ceorge'a dlaeasc were done only lour 

Armllage told the m rl thrl bone 

marrow Vanaplanlsare "sdrngemus 

procedure, 1 very risky bustnas. It la 

only done In the hoper ol cWng any 

othewtse fatrJdlsenre." 

Ile also sald that U the lransplant 

aere u~~uccuslul, the rtlempt mlght 

shorlen the pallcnt'r Ule. 1. ,. 

"Thla is sllll an &perlmental proco 

dure." he sold. "There have not been 

enough done and followed lo see how 

they turn oul." 

During the opcrallon, thebonornurow 

is lnken lrom the back boner ol 

the plvb of tho donor and placed Into 

the velna of the paUenL Tbe reclplent 

must then wall for the marrow lo 

gmw. Durlng that time (here la a high 

Ask ol lnlecllon and posslble adverse 

. 

rencUon totheknnsplant. 

Armitage auld bone marrow donors 

would have to be u'ttllng to rlsk lhe 

lnmnvenlenec of the operatlon, Le 

dtseomlort 01 M V akin ~ pUnctUCs 

and betwefn 80 m? 200 puncturer of 

thebooe. \ 

~ uhe t sa~d i13e gk.test Ask would 

be theaneathesir, whlch muld revere. 

ly hnrm a person who was not well. 

'-The dlsease Isn't curable wllhcon. 

ventlonal methods. but bonc marrow 

transplant.Uon otlerr the posrlblllly 

of a cure," he odd. 

The hearkg will resumo at the 

Jacbon County JuvenUe Justlce Cen- 

LEr on Rlday.

~ ~~~ -. 

~~ ~ ~~ 

XCSfdr 7-3-9 

hppeal filed 

I for ill adoptee 

/in record, case 

he lawyer for Jnmea_.Gr!!nJ 

the cancer-slrlck. 

realdent who 

month was denled access lo bklh 

I records which could save his life, 

has lUed an appeal In the hflssourl 

court of .Appeals, .. 

Wester0 Dla 

!trlct. 

hfa, Judy Sharp. Ceorge'a attorney, 

sald she asked for reversal of 

lhe declsion by Juvenlle Divlslon 

Judge Gene Mnrlln of the Jackson 

County ClrcultCourt. ' 

&orge, 33, found thnl'h; had 

:rnyelocytlc lcukemla a year a 0. 

He was told that U he could (In 8 a 

matched donor-preferably a full 

brother or slster-for a bone marrow 

transplant, hls chances of be. 

Ing allve at the end of four years 

would Improve markedly. 

George, an adoptee. b barred 

hy hlissourl law from seekhg his 

blrth record!. In addltlon,. 

llhmugh a co~ltt-appointed atlor- 

F 

ey. George's blah mother sold 

he did not want her natural son 

oflndher. ' "" ' ' ' ".:'-' 

In hln ,George came to Kansas 

Icky nndlfor four hours lestlfied of 

is need to. have hls records 

pened. However, ,hlnrtln aald 

F hat George had hot shown "Cornbelling 

cause" ns la required by 

hllssouri law and refused !o open 

lherecords. , ' , " .,;:t!,.' 

' 

I I 

0 The'~ansns City Star. Thursday, June 4.1881 Page $A 

*Cancer victim refuses I 

I i I court's compromise I . 

By Joscph K nfccnrty Jr, 

-~- ttrnmnw . . 

A 

cancer-strlcken hllaml 

man has rejected a Jackson 

County Clrcult Court offer 

to test hia blood relntlves snonymously 

for compntlblllly as bone 

marrow transplant donors, vow. 

Ina lnslend to conUnue thcflaht -~" to 

o&n -r-~...~- his court records. 

A lawyer ap olnted b the Juve. 

nllc dlvlslon ol)lhe coukade the 

offer Wednesdav to Janies Grant 

Georne. 33. a Ebmouter ,~~ svslems 

consdthnt ' whosuffers from 

chronlc myelocytlc leukcmla. lie 

has been bntUln the court 10 

months to have h f s blrtli records 

~-~ ~~- 

1 

opened so he can find relatives 

who might serve as donors. 

George was born at the defunct 

Wlllows Maternltv Home, 2929 

I I 

Maln and adopted by a Tulsa cou. 

I ! ale. Missouri 

~~ ~ 

' law nrovldea .~. that 

' hls birth records must he sealed. 

- - ~ ~ ~ 

/ I Judge Gene Martln of the Clr- 

: 

laying thlngs as much as possl- 

I hl~." 

j \ -.she sald she thinks hlartin 1s 

': , , I n 

"dolna the best lob he can. 1Udn'r 

he's i nood man. But when a 

~ 

Jidge from a court crdls and &I 

'We've got a man ptitlonlng 

court records.' that's Inllmldnl. 

Inn. It's lust like nettlnn a call 

trim the 31s or scmethhg. The 

molher Is naturally gohg to beua 

~~ - 

her gunrd." 

The Georges are asklng lor Ule 

records "to' do with ~. as \\,c 

pieasc.~ shoseld~ 

"I don't know whnt we'll do 

wlth them once we et them, but 

that's what we're sU 't asklnn for. 

hledlcally, ideally. we're jusrnsk- 

Ing for s bone marrow donor 

whlch could save Jlm's Ilfe. nut 

now we're worklng on the prlncl- 

P 

lo. I don't see how we can sellla 

or anythlng less than to get ti12 

records opened." 

hfarlln sald today thnt he understands 

the Geargea' point of 

view. 

"I know that's the way they 

feel, and I can see why the feel 

thot way," he snld. "But &IS Is 

the way things are, and we've go1 

to live with It. I'm sure hlr. 

George would rather not hnvo 

myelocytlc leukcmla, too, but ht! 

has it and we have to procccll 

from thot polnt." 

Marlln sald the Georges "arc. 

nsklng to open records belonging 

to the Juvenlle Court. That's one 

lhlng people don't undersln~~d- 

Ulnse are not Georges' recortls. 

They're the Juvenlle Court's rccords 

pertaining to Mr. Gcoryc-. 

The also ertaln lo hls nnturnl 

mot g er an A' to his ndoptivc par. 

ents. But those records belong 111 

the Juvenile Court." 

cult Court says he Is aympnthetlc 

to George and hls wlfe, but polnls 

to the law's orohlblllon. In the last 

~ 

, few montha, Martln has been in 

, contncl with Gcorgc's nalural 

' 

mother, who liss refused lo help. 

: i The offer for anonvmous tesllrin 

came from the lattyer, who ha3 

been appolnted to represent the 

interests of hls mother, durln a 

four-hour hearlng, at whfch 

George was not present. 

"The made contact wlth us 

about tiat before, and we turned 

It down," hks. Marilyn Geor e 

I George's wlfc, snld today. '-ad 

' 

i don't want that udge Involved In 

any way. I don' / know where the 

Juvenile Court belongs In all thls. hfnrtln sald he would heor murc 

! but It doesn't belong In the mld. tesllmony In tl~ecnse Friday. 

j 

dle. I don't want Jlm's llfe in that From contncls wllh hlnrtln, lllc 

, 

man's hands. I don't tlilnk he hns Geor es learned that George has 

n lot of cmpnth he hasn't kept ua n hn/!.sistcr; but the court also 

i Informed, andk seems to be de- lnformed them thnt the nnturnl 

mother refuses to tell Uie dnu[lli. 

tcr of the exlstencc of her hall 

brother.

~~ ~ ~ ~~- 

, 

. . 

KANSAS CITY STAR* 

SllNDAY 

FlARCH 1, 1981 

Page 34 A 

I some parents find 'reunions: hard, 

By Josc~h & DfcCarty Jr. 

8Wlnn.l . .: 

he womnn had kept the 

secret locked Lnsldc lor 4U 

T 

years-awry from her 

husband, her famUy and her 

Irlends. . .. 

Then one day she received r 

phone call from the 48.ycnr-old 

daughter ahe had rellnqulshcd 

ss an Infant. The daughter was 

aeeklng a reunlon. 

Such reunlons can be 

traumatic lor "surrender par. 

enls" who may wlsh only lo lorget 

thcy'dever maden mlslnke. 

said-Tom_~llngkon,presldentol 

the Knnsal Clly au t Adopteea, 

I which helped the dnughler llnd 

her mother. ' 

/ The orannhatlon was form.-d 

lour years ngo to aid adoplees 

over 21 years 01 nge in llndlng 

thelr natural pnrents. 11 is one 

01 55 simllar orgnnlzntlons nn. 

tlonwl&. . 

I Alllneton sald ihnt because of 

the po~ibladevastnllng elleclr 

on n nnthnl parent when a blologlcal! 

ollsprln~ suddenly 

showa ;up, ihe -organlzntloi~ 

trends relully. , 

"I, c% get sort 01 dif~lcult at 

tlmes,':he snld. "We hnve toremember 

thnt a nnlural mother 

has the rlght to be a very prl. 

.~ 

vale Derson. She hns the rieht to 

I 

be bad. A lo1 or adopteesldon't 

llkc thnt. And she hns the rlght 

to have re- eslabllsl~cd a llle In 

whlchthlschUd does not exlst." 

I 

lie added, however, thnt Ule 

adult seeklng hls or her blologl- 

.. .. i 

cd orlglru also has rlghl&U 'This judge c:n your rec. 

not strlctly legal rlghls, at least ords and all 01 these clerks can 

humanrlghts; . ,. ':.. . .. 

sce your records, but you can't 

"These surrender ~nrents dld' - sec your own recordi becawn 

make a mktake. the); dld have a we don't thlnk you can handle, 

chlld and they dld algn relln. It."hc . . . . ssld. 

-. -. 

aubhment papers." Alllngton Nllngton. then 3 yearb old, 

dald. "These pbrenls may have and hb stater and brother. Sand 

pald a prlce lor that, or they 7, were found abandoned In a 

ma not h~ve. 

bnrn ~ ~ ln ..~ Tennessee. . ~ ~ . Thelr ....... 

moth- ..~.. 

"iut the adopted' chlld, who er had deserted them nnd their 

slancd nothlna. who made no lalher waa In Jail. The oldest 

mistake, has bald a rlce," he chUd had suowrled the other 

continued. "lie's hatlo put up two by loragln'g ln the tobacco 

most or hb llle with the alate fields alld selling what he found 

laylng 'I've got a Secret' with formllk.. . ~ 

[Is records. These people hnve The chlldren were laken to an 

a right to know where they orphnnn c nnd adopted by dlf. 

cnme from." 

lerent k amlller. They heard 

Only llve stnles, lncludln nothlng 01 one anolhcr for 33 

Kansas, now have open recor 3 years when Nllngton became 

laws nllowlng adoptees over 21 curious about hlsorlglns and be. 

to have access to their blrth rec- gnn Investigating. The three 

ords. Missouri does not have chudren and the father were resuch 

n law. 

united at Christmastlme in 1978. 

The Adult Adopteta' group "Sincc I became president of 

has tried several times to et an the Adult Adoptus two years 

open records bUI throug 71 the ago, I've taken part in more 

nfissourl ~ouse ~ud~c~ary Corn: than 200 reunions." Mln n 

mlttec. . .: . . .i: 

"0 en records can be very In; 

tlml&tlne to ado~tlvc oarenls," 

~ijlngton said. "It 'can 

mean the dcstructlon 01 the excluslve 

nature or the parentchlld 

relalionshlp. It cnn dilute 

the attenllon of thelr chUd, end 

many ado tlve erenls nre very 

insecure atout 1." 

Alllngtnn, as an adoptee who 

two years ago tracked down hls 

bloloelcnl lamll~. belleves llrmly 

intipen recordi. 

"Here these people tell you, 

sald. "About 96 percent of t f? ore 

reunions were successful. 1 

would o so far as to sny ecslal. 

IC , I ubl 7 ant, most or them." 

And the woman whose daughter 

returned alter 48 yenrr? 

"It twk about three months 

(alter the lnitlal phone call)." 

Alllngton sald. "But the woman 

llnslly told her husbnnd, end the* 

mother nnd daughter were re. 

unlled." 

i

~- 

SPEAKING THE PUBLIC MIND 

KANSAS CITY STAR 

June 3, 1981 

I,... , .#I,.:..: . . . . . ... ...,.. 

1 Court asked 1 

I 

! tohuntfor 

I - 

victim's dad 

By Joseph 11. nlcCarlv Jr. I 

Illled; and I loved these two beaulUul 

people. Early in Ilfe they Informed me of 

my adoptJon. 1n:k way. thls made my 

lovb for them.'even deeper. They were 

people whocared. Otherwlte they wvuld 

never have taken a,sLrange, c in ,wet'- 

ling, emaclaled Meat Into thc 7 r a k ready 

busy and successful llve3. They dldn't. 

need me sb much as they wanted me. 

.'I have one Uvough IUe knowing that 

lhey lovetf me. They proved It lo mc every 

dle of the say. Yet all ado tees have 

the rlgRt, U they so dealre, to I: now thelr 

natural herltane; : I feel comoelled to 

&enk r .-.-.-. out abou'i one case I canie in con- 

~ 

loct wlth at the Amerlcan ~dopllon Con- 

gress. - A blrlh mother, adouble amputee, 

I Ts in a seemlnal~ hovelenb search lor the 

parents who dopled her bab . Her only 

deslre is lo forewarn them o f" a passlble 

tragedy In the chUd's future U lhey don't 

take necessary precautions. So far she 

I hns -ken - uruucceastul In breaklna the 

barrlera of our archalc laws on thcsub- 

]eel of adopllon. men. there Is the cue of 

Jlm Gcorge, the young man wlth bone 

marrow ciicer. who,his received much 

I nl,hllclt.,., ::i 'if ,.a . :rr@ '*':r.r*.,~. I 

.------.-.,- I hop~ 

that &I peisdn who reads thls 

wlU wrlte his or i er ieglslator lo aak that 

the hUaaouF1 Lcnlslature get one bUl, No. 

I G5. nut ol comtiiltlee and-UD for a vote. I 

A NORAJE~ 

- Job l/ 5ftnRP 

.,~;,.,PL..H 

.- - , , ~ J I C ~ - L (.f*A'LlVl 4

KANSAS I!T19&lMES ,/ 

AUGUST 

- . . , .. 95% , 

1, . BY non&Lm~~ . '. 1. 

. ,.. mum- ;& Court is told cancer victim's ndd fdr dono?\ 

fhe larues in lhe cue of James ' 4 . . . . .A, 

Cranl Ooorge. 1 Ssyur~ld adoplm I.' . . 

. . 'L 

u+o Is dyhg of cmnr. have changed I d 

llLe a chunelwn, an albrney for ' 1928 W, h u chmnlc myelocytlc , Clrcult . Court refused lo open 

Gmrge'a natural motha lold three lcukemlm - bone mvrow cmccr. 

judga d Lhe Mlwrtui' Cowl of Ccorge hu anid he wanlr loopen hlr 

AppalcInKmmCltyonTudiy: ,adopUoa rtmrdr to flnd hh moWr 

'Iha larue hu changed 10 ope and hlll #Ma a he cm uk Urm lo 

(0sorge'a) adopUon.mrds. ha kt&edlorbonemarrorcompaUbU. 

d Uu bone marrow LnZ;plrnlw that lly. UUK rrn mmpaUble, &would 

ha d 8 lo extend hh e. Mlchmcl lsklora d onorlnmplanL 

Curlcy told J a m rn~la~~~..Dop . ~n Mlwurl, adopUon reeordc ue 

lld Wvfd ~ h . & ~ ~ - ? + ~ confi&nUrl g m ~ and em only ba opnd 

GKy b~(h't~coriif-ippo~nl&i Iawy~ by a udge U gmd caw end compel. 

for Geor~e'a nllurll mob. ,-! ltwe 1, umrtmcw mmhowu. - 

George, wha rrs born at tha WLI. ; 

...A 

La June, Judge . Cure ---- 

MarUn . - d . (ha 

. . ; . :. rl 

r ' 

-: nmj" .'&ey uked 

- 

; nhould --- - hfocus of case \ 

. I t 7 

qwtst a gidvtng George the nhe 

afhhmolhvmndW8hl~d0l"C~t~ 

.~ -- . ~ - ~ ~ ~ ~ 

pcmnrl plea lo praude her to d* : 

nsle bone mumw. And U riel* (ha 

mom nor Vls half rlM wen come 

,or icampallbladonormld . -ley ahd &r#e could try lo dcr. 

%%te. UM mwt Urn wuld d d - 

: auade hh nalunl 

er Lryine to lhd othu daUvrr *ho.; 

tha 

mothcr 

mall wllhnu 

and half 

evw 

Ifrmluht 

be lute! for mmprUblllty,@ ,, knowing ""'3" eir namea. Curie Ihlrted, 

however, (hers was no n eel for in In. 

depndenl in(enned1~ b try 10 

Bca RECORDS, Page D.2, col. S 

.. 

.Y 4" .- . I

~ . 

I Triplets Reunited : ' 0 

I 

rld ~rllnh* 

Jg;(Illlyd -nohyl -Sb.lrq 

an 

1.1 nlcrday 

1h.t mr iha11K hare land ou~ 

that tky are 1r1pl.h llla ir ~~UII. 

!I. 

uld m llndlnt at1 he rIa I Irlli. 

111. "1 mvld rol mn rthrnd IL I 

UI then . ~.~ rllh m. h.nrlna 

darn la lbwl 10.mrnuln. I i+ 

In IcUl awe.". ' 

rlih~ k!i;frrn talG lo Bulllrrn 

Covnl Cmmunll Collrge. 1 

schm/ Oallrnd had allmdcd the 

prrvlnu rtn. Thm hc ra an. 

stan~~y cd~rd eddy ind IUI irked 

&I". 

...,... 

Fmer Irlinda 01 eddy (Iallmd 

11 the +hml latd llahrl Rhalran 

how lo 1.1 in loud rlih ih* bol ba 

reumbled. 

Allrr Lbrlr meetlnt Mey Iwnd 

they rm bnn ihs urns plan on 

Iha urn dr . July I:. IOtI. mI 

la, ts1a4 I rrhh IlmplUl. Thq 

also fmd ml lh rclually -m 

barn uadm ~atl.%c fourth 

.In cd~db~d. ~Utqum~ty ihey 

m a rdopltd by vprala lrmllla. 

Thr trlplrts mrrt Sophia Lorrn before TV show at rtudlo in New York 

TllE KANSAS CITY STAR 

Septcmbct 29, 1981 

I Oln*WR*u 

Ailing adoptee appeals 

to high court for records 

' b 

- 

cffcraon Clly-A mon suffer. 

Ing Irom Icukcmlu hor a~kcd 

the hllrsourl Supreme Court 

; tolnlcrvcncln his bolUc wlUlolfl. 

, cldr loohlnln hh blrtl~rccords. 

! Jqmn CJ?nt Cwr c 01 hlloml. 

m adoplea scck~ng lI?ddcntl~ 01 

hh nalurnl molhcr, contcndr $11 

he nccds Ihc records to llnd nl~. 

llva rho mlghl scrvc nr banc . 

marrow donors. Dul hla natural 

motllcr, uho war conloclrd by 

Jackson Cnunly olflclds, has re. 

fuacd lohclp. 

In an appllcrllon fllcd hlonday 

wilh the Sllpremc Cuurl, hlr. 

OmrP'a Illorncy, Judllh Sllnrp 

of Knnrar Cily, nolnl lhc hllrsou. 

rl Collrl of Appcnls lurncd down 

an appeal from a lower courl rul. 

Ing Whlch auld hlr. hrgc hnd 

ahown no compclllng rcnnon to 

havethcrccorda opcncd. 

DUI htlsl Shup auld IIlo lrsuc 

"Is olruch gcncr~l lntcrcsl or In!. 

porlancc lhnl tho llnal dcclrlon 

should,ba mada by the Suprcnlc 

"~,,r( 

' chmolc myclocyllc lcukemlo. 

whlch lr In rcrnlsalon. ll~c 

appll. 

callon rccklng lhc Supreme 

Court's lnlcrvcnllon auld hlr. 

Cmrgo "could cnler lhc crltlcnl 

ohaso of tho dlscaao el snv tlme 

- . . -. - . - - . 

In lls rulln 1110 ap cmln court 

d ~ r ~ lhr ~ ckckbon d eounlY clr. 

cull Coun lo trv la lucalc Mr. 

Omr o'slnthcr. . 

~ufl nllrn Sharp auld moll po. 

LlcnlJ ullo sullcr from I dlscnso 

Ilk0 Mr. Caruo'n lllncs: normml. 

ly Ilvo no marc than 40 monlhn 

lllcr ~ylnptons np car. hlr. 

Gcar~.c "nlrcady h ~ foal s la prc. 

cloua months." shc sald. and any 

allcnl Is "lo locale a nlsll Irotn 

rccorkscycnrao~du~~~coat (~r. 

Carncl cvcnmorallmc." 

A ~~tprcmc Court spokcsmun 

lrld lhc courl probably would dc. 

cldc ullldn the ncrl two uccka 

whclhcrlohe~rll~ecnsc.

-- ....... .- .... 

mainconl~dcnlial. As soon as Ihoadoplion 

look alikoor lhal we roscmble our parenls. 

H ~ ' ws 

h f, adephd was cornplctod, my nalural motlrer's con. I don't think I should have lo worryaboul a 

ncclionwill~mowas permancnlly severed, phane call or visil lronl my natural mother 

tM4 am agafnrt the 

and my birth cerl~l~cale bears !he names or talher d~srupling such a sound and 

ton)ro~rhI 'W#M to 01 my adoplive parenls. II I suddenly on. secure siluation. 

nounced my need to lind my "rwls." I My relalionship wilh my adopllvo 

&c~w"- know ll would make my adoplivo parenls porenls has developed and malurcd over 

quoslion their competence as parents. Iwontyodd years. I lovc my molllor lor 

Hn dght to *pen 

They would feel lhal I thought my genelic much more than packing my lunch and 

gM/#Ua()I.)() Iwd& Inheritance was a more crucial part of my sewing me a new oullll lor the llrsl day 01 

personalily than what we had shared ar a scliool; I love my lather tor much moro 

family. And I'd lcelasitl were belrayingall than making me the tirsl girl In tho ncigli- 

by Rhomh krwn 

oOlNb 70 BLAME 

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c~.ricei.'victim's records I 

. . I 

i Dy llon Ostrolf . .. : . ., Judge hfnrtln wrole In hla declalon t 

~sgd~ahw~a , ." that "hnscd upon m conlack wllh ) 

A Jacknnn County Judge on Mdny !he blrth moU~er nndllhe aUegcd laagaln 

refused lo open lhe odoptlon . ther. lhb court Is of lhc oplnlon lhnt 

records 01 Jnmes, Grant Cear o a lu-thcr quwUonlng by the caul or by 

Kansas,Cltyborn .ndoptm who 8 by -.., anyone else of the bMh molher or he , 

I 

In ofboncmarrowcmccr. -' ! ." .. . dle cd lalhcr would be noh+roduc.. 

judge Dene Mnrlln ol he JuvenUe ' tlvcqn ldcntllylng any other pmonu 

Mvlslon of Jncksan.Caunty Clrculli thenppllcnnl'sfnther.", :,'*-::I 

' :I, 

Courl'ruled lhal compelllng circum. :;"I am dao convlnd IJNl lu;th.?i 

Itancea Were not shown for 0 CMng dlo& or attempla b thecow toob. 

UM rmrd~ or dlscloslng the l~entlly ,m blood samples km dleged 

and :~*hcreabouk.~~.;W* .mr~e'l ~ father or hla ram~y would bCrruiUcss. 

natural arenk. !! ...,. - . .. I un also persuaded Ulat r conlrontam. 

krgc, *year*ld M~~~~ Um.dth fie alleged lather or 

computer sylrle~ns consullnnl. MU1 b m mofier by a pllcmt or 

chmnlc myelocytlc lcukcnila,'~ liar . 

on his behdfwould + coun; 

been flghW bopen hh ado~~lon~c-;,.:(eip~~~u~~ 

orb lor more lhan 14 months. Under . .. . , . .: 

, -!, 1 : , . ,, if 

M~SSOUI I ~ W adopllon records canpe :'. 

month, when &'blood aampld 

opcnedonlybymuriordet. I :., r, hm; Mr. Ceorgo was compared Lo 

Mr. wrge wanb to ace hl, ik0ds i. blood sum ICS from hh natural mothw 

he can nsk hk natural mother, half , erand hal!aLter, lhcre wu nomalch. 

, alslcr md the man alle cd to be hla And Ule mlln nmed in ndoptlon re. 

laU~erta help hlm llnd afamlly inemi:..Ord wrge'a father denled 

' bet wllh bone murow CO~~BU~IC for. . alernlty and refused lo have hh 

' a lranspl~nto help prolong @IUe;. g loodterted* ,:,,!';I.:'! ,:is:' '. .? 

i IUsdlwaachInremlulon. !' :,I j~.Judge ~,vtIn sald ffi hh opldon 

, 4vl'm not a rlsed. It war about . thal the chmm that a mlallve of the 

: what I upcxot 

enld Judllh Slrnrp natunl mother or alleged father 

,:d,v Clly, Mr,.Ceorge'a sttor- i: would hove bono marpw comprUble 

ney ul u dlscouraglng as It may lor 1 lransplanl Lo Mr. George wcm 

bc, w uo going to kmp on ilghllng. I "utremely rare." 

;dl fUe a noUce of appeal on Mon- ..-. In Junc, Jud e Martin hed lhrt 

d l . . . , . .. I., : . , Mr. wrpe's ackp~on morda should 

.. . wrges wife, Mnrllyn, bnld not be opened because Mr. Ocorge 

:'Mday'a derlslon wu just anolher had not ahown the required compelcalepon 

lhe judlclal ladder. llng clrcumatanm needed la overrlde 

: "I had a small hope that Judge hfor- . thenatural molher%rlght bconllden- 

:tin would come out lhe olhcr way," Udlty. l.ll .. . 

ahe sdd. "But we, aren't going ta ' After m appeal of that decb~on w;r. 

:quit." 

' uwed before lhe bft~~wurl Cowl of 

: Mrs. Cearge complalncd &all Appeals In ~msas Clly,lhe Judgeam. 

'"Jud e MWIn Lt lvhg up on Ule la- turned Ule care to the Cimull Couri. 

.lhu.~yhthathksdeelslonl~tbnot me ap ala coult instrucw Jud e 

hls llle." . Mlr(ln Esenreh lor Mr. Ceor e'a k. 

Mlchacl Curley of KW; Clly, the Uler so ha could be asked to rufmlt to 

courl.rp lnlcd Is cr for the nalu. a blond twtlor bonemarrow comprll. 

rd mo&r, com~~nlentcd Judge, baty.. 

IUulIn. ,* ?he ap ;la courl nev& reached 

"I UIW( Ua court had ar d~llcult a "the. qucbtfn of whether Mr. George 

decblon ns ever laccs a j~rdge," Mr. had ahown lhe compelllng nced lo 

Curle anld. "And Jud c hlnrtln hnn have lhe cowl open hls adopllon m. . 

dledl~dellcalely andwfthngrenldcal drds, mat qualion wlU face lhem 

of anslUvlly and every rcg~dlorlho agaln when Ma. Ghsrp fUes +u 

needs of Jim~eornc." tpped. I .

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.loTht there wu bhoek, dlnbellef 

J 

*iad Uwii denld." Judge M+ rald. 

.!'~ut aboluteiy no anger. ; 1 A :! 

: :.'"a aald ha wn not Lhe hther, 

Uut he could no( be Ura lather. He did 

WIW mmlnlrdng about Lhe eventr, 

ud b@ h.d,Wl .Ubl.'He llld ha WaB 

wmawhem aha when lthnppcned. If0 

llmbt .s VUB) 

ewumnalved, 

at the Uma Jim 

., . . 

wun't nemrary." 

a& ~ O W B mme WL; kvei 

.. . wu mlw ~IUI hh present wUe (of 

GEORGE 

'. .. . ..-, . . 

. r , . . 

%~ourl\aw. adopUm rrmrdrunbe 8~chtulc IuaUy cammt fmeemt a 

- opeadonly by qmorder. . .. match1 U* mul8 can only aa wllh 

Jud l M* aald illondq h t he ert.lnty ~ut ~0 murnpfa d6 mt 

uwd &B lntorm+on la Ua adoption match. I* 

I fllr ta locals Uadqed father at 

man would not bs moved. 

work "10 hotate Nm from hh famuy "AM hlc raid fhal U he uld he 

m ~ ubt 

y would bs ~ omed wu not Ule father. rba bellaved hlm 

about the contad - to Lnp it an. . fnlauVPortrdh@. 11. 

* Ildcnllal. lbt wu at Lhe rweallon ' "Not Lddve~~eu~~.~' JWgeMlr. 

.dMB.8hrrp.nd herdlenl.*l '"~n add, "we rent lodlPaer togelher. 

I .' Judm MUUU muld wl reveal (hs :HI hope wu Uut maybs UIey would 

. ~ eo~ty d ~a man. whom ha ~ va, .. UXlr abut I, owr the med ud h n 

- wben ha wmb m emir wbl type of ' igrw,~'ButUu~dldn~w~ 

work ha doc#. "Ha mldtl on a utel. '.' 

t 1 

Ub hmn u Buth." a wq cru(low , ., 0" NOV. Y Judg; MaNn made one 

Jud eMu(lnuld. . , . ht lry: He mle Lhe mm and hL 

"' 

.&n Iba judp and hh rile arrl;ed rlle 8 letter nwnlng wllh them to 

a1 Uaman'aplacedemploymen~ tho :.~~b@l~Mr*~le. 

:I ? . . 

,.Jud@ uld~ 

'!I uM hh who ha wu.. :$;I,. ~t lr ,'h mpoml~lly o( 

one 

menlaamhlmmy-e.nd@ld ~of~onWarrthbbof~rvln,~ 

blm 1 wouldULe to talk bhhaboula -o(hcr,u J,J@ uaa 

my im-t matter. At IhL I dld '.'.m nrponrlb~lt 

nowg to 

wtbuhlmlwuafud~. 

do 

I9 '- - lf'Wllhp8lcmlty b~lh.llahould 

..I' My wf* wu do01 at tho auuea- 

. 

;.-a 

nodUlamnce wbo(hso~rpcr. 

Lion 'd 8h.r~O" Judge Martin MU i, M long u he n d md 

uld. "8ha ud her cUent ~boufit It ~hejpuob@dvsn,w I 

would 1- hte- u 

m,.,lo"#." . 

I 

L ... :..'I' j;,. ,",jam M* hn ht "tho, 

..'~lw 

M- .mi ihe mna fa,, I&;' ~.C~SJIWB 01 I ampa~~!~e ~IDD~ match, 

law whn Uwy muld wkpflv.tely. :,by alUrr one of wor ourwlveal~allm 

L n ~m wsa utm~ ttm man Wme to "OW, but WM WUI h w with. 

~u*B(~N - ,?l~t pmhb~y only ha ..o*abbodm. 

dd Lmw" make ha wu "; but whcn Ule man called b respnd 

Uarl#hl non. .,: 1, . ",\,tothe letter, Uranrwer wu 11111 no, 

,!*lhenPbldhlm~wua]ud~ud 

I 

.- .A:,. 

sued bla U* ~~l~lloo." Judge Mar. 

Un recalled. "I bld Ih about Ulr 

.man ln Ploflda whohu Ihh mndlllon. 

rmn I (old hlm Uul ha had ken 

.Mmrd la adoollon remnl~ - u Uu 11. 

~ 

>Uur. M lhk~ 

wby 1 wu amlng ta' 

.wh[m." . ,. .,,, .. tl:*, ,:, .d

- 

Dcccntber 8, 1981 

i Lawyer says 

/ mu* be secret 

By lbn Dalmlf 

L.pdM&baHMI 

lnlcd lawyer for thc 

m!uri!urtl;l"!gr 

of James Granl 

onca rgalnGlir4lX;lick~ 

son unty judge not loopn tho adop 

Uon records of the Kansas Cltyborn 

adoplee dyh ol bone marrow can. 

CQ. 

*(the 

nnlurnl molher and her 

reteislng ihe -name d Ule natural 

mothcrfa (Mr. Ceor el. 

"She lus rquat d anon pI1y.h;: 

hu blood lmM, and her aughkr a 

mil hu, a d reuentdv that she wlll 

ncvv rrlcm Uie namiol the natural 

I father lo an one. 111s IotnUy Inappropd.te 

thrt fter name tm released Lo 

(I&. Cmrge) or anyoneelse." 

Mr. Ceorge, a Seyw9ld MIml 

mmputa systems wwultant with 

chmntr mvelocvUc leukernla. ~. has . 

been fightlng Lo opn hh sdopllon reecrdc 

for more than 14 months. Under 

Mlsrourl law, adopUm mordscmbe 

opcnedonly by court order. ' 

He wmbb rn hk ad Ilon mcorda 

m he em uk hln natura "P mother and 

hsy slster, and the man alleged (o bc 

hh IaVKI, 10 help Nm find a fnmll 

memkt with bone mrrrow cnmpad 

blo lor r Lranrplant (o help prolong hls 

We. IllsdlscaseL,lnremlsslon. 

Bsf Mr. Curley rald In hh wrltlen 

closlng ugumcnl Ulal MI. George 

'ahasfrUal todcmonslralc inmy way 

that hla medlcal condlUcn can bo lm. 

I proved by dlsdotlng the name of hla 

~turrlmok." - 

1 . 'Ihuc wu no malch when a blood 

sample Imm Mr. Cmrge war corn. 

pared 10 blood sam lu from hb nalu. 

I ' 

ral mother and hal!alster M month, 

'Ihc man named in adopflon records 

rn Mr. CCOr @'a IaUler denld pai 

lernllv pnd m f d to hava Na blood 

But lul uwk, Mr. George'# lawycr. 

Judllh Shlup, onca a nln appcnted to 

Judge Gene ~ lotthe n ~UVenllE Dl. 

vlslon oI Jacbn County Clreult , 

, Cwrtloowntherecordsand IveMr. , i 

~mrge oatha srme portlutlty .UI~I , .. . 

one who is not adopl~alrcedy har - . ( . '. .' 

Iha op rtunlly lo seek 1101 from 

thmcw%ln hls hlotanicallamflu.~~ ... 

htr. curley atmngii;icSnsn~,~ 

'Ihe murt has alread dono what 

(~r. hrge) seka to db. n o only 

f 

U1ln8 left would bo a cocrclveclforl by I 

(Mr. Oeorgc) or sommno on hls be. , 

hall. % he or Ute Judlclal process 

I for such a result is unlhlnkahle,"Mr. 

Curley sald in hlncloslngargumcnL 

Mlet nviewtn tha plcadln s of 

MS. md ftr. ~urle . fudge 

Martin wlU decide whcXer Mr. 

Ccorge har shown the compcllln~ clr. 

cumstantea nmM 

toovcrrldo Iha 

I tlght oI confldenllxy ot hLr natural 

molher. hb half alder md the man 

deged (o bc hls fathu. 

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,. . . .. .- - .. -. ,. . .. ,. . 

'auop aq ltnw ajou qmw pjrr tnq ' 

la oqt JOJ smjnlar leuoltcalsj Bu!p!mjd qo( poo* 

' 

! 26 years old, . 

twins , ineel.. , . . 

I 

1 I Associated Prcsa 

LOWELL - Ruth Johntoand Alllsog 

~IIchcII Erb arc twin slslcts, and like many 1 

1 twins lhcy hove lnkcn parallcl courser through i 

I liic. Eacli ir a hairdresser. Each has two ehll- .. 

! 

dren, and each has a daughter named Kristen. : 

i I But until a rcunlon last week lhry usere lotal ; 

rlrangrrs.Thcy wcretrparnted at blrth .. 26 years .. : 

ago. 

i 

Ma. Johnson of Luwcll, now divorced, and , 

hlrs. Erh of Watctvlllc, Malnc, cnch sought the 

, , othcr after wrdch!ng the same scgmcnt ol the 

j 

snmc nyndlcatcd tclcvlrlon ..-. talk show. 

' 1 Thcy wcrc nunlled - flrrl by lrlep)~onelnst 

/ 

Wedncsclay night-,and tlrcn In ptrron In Low. 

, 

ell on Frlday night. Thcy'vc bwn In conslant 

! 

I t contacl rlnm the lnlllal lelcphone call. 

The ldentlcal twlns wcre born premnlurcly 

on March 21, 1953 at a Porlsmoulh, N.11., hospl- 

1 tal. Each wclghcd lcaa than 2 pounds. They wore 

- glvcn up for ndopllon. hlrs. Erb did not learn 

I I the hnd I twln slslcr urrlll rhc was 18. 

' 

I 

1 ' Mrr 

I 

Last Jrtnc both watched lhc Phll Donahue 

Show on lclcvislon and heard guest Lee Camp 

bell, loundcr 01 Conccrncd Unlled Elrtl~parents. 

$rb culled thc lclcvislun alntlon lmmc. 

dinlcly, arid hls. Johnson wrotc to Donahuc and 

Cnmpbrll: Thc Cun'rerncd Vtllled Dlrlhparenla 

\haplrr In Milford. Mnsa., cllecked horpltal rc. 

cords In Portsmuutl, with Informallon the wow 1 

cn suppllcd. 

I 

! 

I 

) allerscd aa 

i.rrl rrrauau 

fes, shows 111 

lfnclng a 

, )C lor mi6 

i F!: 

rtturn N 

: fassacl,

1\11 ol'r~s hnrc ttskcd nurselvrs t~nd 

our rcl~rtl\~cs tlt~cc rind inrtny otltcr 

qucstionst~l~o~~l our ntrcrstry. It serlns 

\\,cnll It~tvcnccrl lo know wlto wr nrc 

nn~l wlrcrr \vr! cotnc Iiotn. 111 fi~cl. 

1:r-ncnlol:y. lltc trncin~: orotrc'n rknccs. 

try, 14 OIIC or ll~c li~stcst {:rowing 

hol~ltica la tlrc n*orld totlrry. 

hlnt~y An~rrict~ns fil~r-nd 11ii1.1 oI' 

'thclr lclsurc scnrcl~inl: out Ll~cir line. 

ngc. Vor r~rasl iltcr)~~cst Ittlo II~cir 111rs1 

is n rclr~li\*~!ly cnsy tnsk. Hirllr 1111d 

dcnll~ ccrlilirntro trrc n rnnttcr ~T~IIIII. 

lic rcco~.d. 1\11 tlrnl Is rcqulrrd is tltc 

linte nt~d pr~lir~~cc to si~nrcl~ out lltc 

dcsircd in~or~ii~rlion. nut For one tlrnjor 

grocrp-.tl~o udoplcd-no~ic or Ihc 

rules kccrn lo npply. For tlrrm thc 

scnrclt rnn1:cs lior~~ vcry dimcull to 

nctrrly in~lmsnil~lc. 

Onc person out orcvcry filly in the 

IJnlled St~~lcv is ndolttcd, nr~d I'cw 

ndoptccs know lltc lrlc~rtity of tl~cir bi. 

ologlcnl pnrcnts. In firct, ror nrosl tlre 

ldcntily of tlrclr nnturol pnrcnls is n 

#ell kc111 sccrct nnd inrorntntlon is 

scnnty it bcsl. 

Ucr~crnlly, when n cltild is ndoptcd. 

his originel Irirllt ccrtilicnlc-lhc onc 

lisllng lris nntert~l n~othcr rind rnther 

-is ficnlrd by court order. An nmcnd. 

cd ccrliflcate listing the ndopled 

molhcr nntl rntlrcr ns purcnts is issued. 

On1 in vrryrnre circunrslnnccs 

will nn n Y ull hc givcn prrtriissioo by n 

court to scc lris originnl blrll~ ccrtlll. 

cntc. 

In nddition there is 111 lcnsl n tncit 

by C. nr. n!cr\listcr 

Who IIIII I? Wl~nl nrr! III~ origins? Wlrn rrcrc my 

nnci~ulotc;? 1\'119 nty l!rc;tt. grrnt. gri-rrl i:rilndrntl~cr 

n 11nul1cr or n king? Ilirl rny li~rcli~ll~cm conle over 

on the 31n).llo\vpr or wrrc they hcrc to grl-ct it7 

S011rc iltfOl)(ec?s ill.0 i1lsiStill~r 

011 lllcil' l'igllt~ (0 Itt1011~ 

scvi~rr~l 

tllcil' IJ~o~o~$c~J~ 

plll'CtJ!~, 

btrt ollror 1.ig11ls nrc itrr~olt~cd 

itr ll~is conrl)lic~rlcrl ilucstiut~ 

R 

IIII~II:I,I~I:: I@ 

crcl rr0111 cnch othcr nnd sccrct rrom 

tl~c ndoptcc wltetlrcr ns 11 child or ns 

nn ndull. hr mnny l11lh ngrcclncnl is 

n mnjor poi~tlorcoalention. Some pco. 

plc \vho \vcrrs ndoptcd ns children ore 

detnnnding clrnnprs in il~c Intv tlint 

would sllntV llrcrn nccrss to ll~cir origi. 

nnl blrtlt ccrlificnlc und nny ollirr 

nvnilnlrlc inrortnnliot~ upon rettching 

ndullhaod. 

"Wc (ndoptcd clrildrcn) wcre not n 

pitrly lo IIII~ t~jircemc~tt n~ndc when 

wc wcrc ir~li~~~ls," finys ICl~rcn, n 

1wcnlyl~vo~ycnr.olcl who IFIR plnccd 

ror ndnlttio~i sltnrlly nllcr I~irtlt. "so 

why RIIIJIIIII \\TI bc bou~~d by it? We 

s1111t1111 hnvc tltc Icgnl right lo nll 

nvnilnbl~t itrrur~nnlio nbout our nntu. 

rnl pnrcnlo." 

Ilow ltrnrry li*rl this IVI~? Tltcrc is 

no nccilrnlc count, nllltou~l~ lltcrr nrc 

lousclr-knil orannir~rtions

o\.rr IC. I IIII~~t~vi~r CVPII ~ I\I.I 1111)'. 

onr ill illlliculty will! 1110 ~rolic~!. At111 

now trig vcry ow11 sml. 

At IIIIIIIC I IICPOIII~! I~ysteri~~~I~ 

"\\'l~y?\Vl~y, 

diilyn~~ rln Illis to ur. \'ic. 

lor?" I look hi~n Ity tilt ~ l~oll~drrsntl~~ 

bcgn!~ sl~nltinl: 111111. 

Ile! ntifi~~ed nnd fillill ~ l~~i~tly, "1 did 

tor was proud to hnvc his li~ii~cr tnkc 

n spccini lt~lcrcsl in him. 

\Vc lrotl~ brgt111 to oll'cr 111orc 1n11h.iblc 

evi~lcncc to Victor ofoor love for 

hi111. \'ICI IIC wns good. I [rut In). 

nrrns nround II~III IIII~ hc nbsorb~d ll~r 

no longcr coulcl trusl in nt~yoec, Ilis ly. "Do you check on hin~ nflcr hc jioes nflkclion like nspongc.011 cold wintcr 

cvcry nction scc~ncrl dircctcd lo to Ired?" 

n~orni~~gs, cvc Imtl~ look turlls I~cllring 

snullit~g out IIII~ lorc wc 1rcRn11 to f'ccl I ndmiltcd I did 1101 disturb Itiln nC him will1 his ilnlrrr routc IIlr Is still 

f'or him. IIu\I. tn1111y timcs ovcr the tcr t11c door WIS closed. 

pnylnl: bnck tlic LIUIIC~ f'or thoso winncxt 

f'cw ycnrs did 1 sil 111 tltc prlnci- 'I'llcrc hnd bccl~ window.brcnkinji dows). 

pnl's oflicr or try to plecatc nrl[:ry incidc~~ls previously nt scbwl, hl11dc \Vc nrc lcnrni~~g tonccc~l Viclor f'or 

nci~l~bors! Finnlly cnmc the ~rllitnntc to stny nncr school one dny. Victor in l~in~scll: We hnvr stoplrcd trying to 

Icsl. 

n lrli~~d rngc kicked in hcvcrnl clnss. mnkc l1i111 into the boy\\.e felt our u\r.n 

Our homeslnndson n llill uvcrlool:. room winilo\\*s. Ilo IIII~ n hnlrll of' nnturnl son would l~nve Ireca. Ilc hns 

in[: n smnll crerk runr~il~fi Lllrou~l~ tl~c ll~rowinrrocks .~ nnd hnd hrokcn some rcspo~~dcd by bcgit~~~ing to trust 11s 

bnckynrd. hlnny of' our ~~cigl~bors cnr \vindo~vn it1 1I1c nc!igi~Lmrlrood. 11111 nod is becoming tnorc rcsl~r~nsiblc. 

hnvc lorl:r i~icltlrc wil~rlows to lnkc so~ncthi~~l: likc tI~is?'rr'rn l~ornra wcrc Tl~c rrlgrs nnd f).cclucnt ninht~t~nres 

ndv~~~~tnl:c oftlle view. Over n pcriod i~~volvrd, nl n cwl of'ncvcrnl hundrcd of'li~oscnrly ycnrs r~rc golle now. Ilc 

of' n nmntl~ UIIO sttnllacr, srvcrnl of' dollnrs in clnmngcs. 

slill 1111s solno difllc~~llicr rc411ti11l: to 

lllrsc \I.~II~OU.S wrrr ~IUIYII oul %vilh n Aflcrscl~ool, ns I drovc Victor lo Lhc pcoplc rind probolrly nlwnys will. Hut 

~rllct cnn lntc nt nisl~t. Victor, usunl. police stntiotr, he sccrnicd i:enuitiely we nro trying to tnkc cnch dny 11s it 

ly the lirsl o~~csus~~rctrd in the ncil:l~. crushcd Lhnl I could bclicvc IIC n~igl~l comes. 

borl~und, rlid11'1 hove 11 pcllrl j:un. \Vo lrc involved. The ofliccr dcllly nskcd I'cople oltrn filly IIOW nrnlchl Vic 

didn't l~rlirvc 110 could be rcsponsilrlc. him questions rclt~lil~g to tllc inci- n~ust Itc lo Ire livir~g wit11 UH. I s~nilc 

Thc lac111 j ~~re~~ile uIlici*r CIC to dcnls. Tl~rn 11c co~~f'rot~led Victor wltl~ inwnrdly nL Illis nnd tl~il~k of' our 

question rnc. Gcntly lie nskcd scvernl f'onrlccn pngcs of' documrotrd evi. grntiludc to II~III. For It wns Vic ~r.l~u 

qurslionr. 

dc~~cc to prove his guilt. Ilc still rlc- Inugh1 us tl~nl lovc is nu1 eulornnlic. 

"t'iclor is r~lwr~ys In lhc house by 10 nicd kt~owinl: nnylhil~g nlmul It. Ti~c lnvc is tllc giving ofon

. . 

III('IIIII(-I.SIIIII is r~.iully only 11 li'w IIUII. ~IIC \YUI~ I 11, 1111 OII:IIII~~II~~OII .iI111lp Inil~Iy 11l:r1-1~ vill~ sllc~l $*it6!vs. 'l'~llsy 

11trll ~lllrl tlislni.+ tlll! srIlrclll+ls 119 1111: Illi!. tn~ltl[@r. "'I'III~II~ I :IIII I~np~~ily Ii~l Il~nt IIIV I~~I~I~III~II 

cl~il~lrvt~ ll~i~y 

"IIII~~ 11 very vuai 111i1111rily." OIIII!I% ~nnrrir~l wit11 II 1i1111ily ~IIIII~ 

IIWII. Ilt~t rnisrll nrr Illrir CII~I~IICII it1 Vvr-rs 

III'I. 11111 SO sllri'. 

11111vi- ncvtv I~JIIIII~ llw C

Woman's'#' Search,? ina . I .. . ,.#.., all^. .. .., 

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Conllnucd From Pale On* "XclnR lathcr dldn'l lasclnalc ntc: "I harc in bclicvc lhc lIn~lnR ol ll was 

hcrscll and lh~n knocks hencll oul reach , Thc malcrnal lccllng Is much, much jusl latc. The?-s no olhcr explanallon lor 

I, II 

Ing Ihcm. slronflcr than thc polcrnal." , ,' 

111 

But her marrlajic lo Blll and lhc arrival '1 Once aRaln she found more rcslrlancc: uWltcn wc werc flrlna back Honic on lltc 

olfhrcc sons or her own kcpl hcr from dr. Fmm lhc orphanage, fmln nuntend cvcn lonc.'; sald her huibond. 0111, "1 sold In 

vollng lull allcntlon In hcr scarch Illrough . lmm IltcSalvallon Army. . . 

lor, 'Thrrc's such a "low on )sur lacr,)nu 

I Lhr *SO> and rarly 'RO.9. Shc dld, howcvcr. 

don'lcvcn nwd a planc lo fly."' 

:, 

personos )jlclj,,lc I,, flllcd 11 would bc lnecc~~ralc lo say, huwrr'r. 

lo(s~I lrll~n and talk 1oan)'onc and ' momcnIs 01 happlnrrr wl~h a ICW pltlnlls. 

cvcryonc aboul hcrscarch. 

lhnl she was lmmcdlnlcly accrplcd by her 

Uul one can cope wilh thc knowlcduc or '*new lamlly."Tl~crc war a lack st acccpt 

"lvs 111 1 lalkcd aboul," she admils lacls. It lslhc unknown that can be so dlr 

WIV. ,," '.. .. q :: tresslng.. : . ' . ' . . . 

ancc by some and a frclln~ lhal she lrns 

~~. 

atlcmptlnp to cash in on a sntall Inbcrl. 

1 I 

llcr blggcsl brcaklhrough came in the '. '. pabyou~~~hts,~oo .' . lance #I lhc lasl poalblc momrnl. Bul hhc 

1970s whcn shc,rccelvcd access, lo her 

has slncc had somc vcry plcaranl la~tllly 

' 

' Mnh rccorda from Prnnsylvanla. From 

"Pmplc lalk about the nced lo.prolccl rcunlons wllh aomc 01 hcr ncw bmlhrrs. 

thosc rccords she lcarned hcr molhcr's Ulc rl~hls of the nalural molhcr. Bul I say. aunlsand uncles and hcr hopes arc hluh 

nrmc. her lather's namc and the fact that 

whalabbul the rlghls ollhc baby? Thc blg lhal lhcy Plll conllnuc. 

her molher had had two olhcr chlldrcn be. gc~tcrroris In ihcllnallly of all ofll, "Whcn I flrsl saw my brolher.~ and als. 

lorn her. Shc also learned l c was classl- '"Yes, Ihcre was a sllgma lo adopllon In lcrs, all I wanlcd lodo was hug lhcm all!' 

ncd as "llleplllmale." .. ' 

Ihcpasl, but I wanlcd lo find my mother. I "She was not lo be dlrcouragcd. Shc ncv. 

"Rack ln'thc 'j0s lhcre wcti no soclal 

don'l l ~l llke.l'h r disgraceful lhlng lo tr gave up. She has lncrcdlblc dcicrmlna. 

. . 

suumrls lo hcln a woman In hcr slluallon 

know. , . ., 

llon and spunk," hcr husband sald. 

"I don'l 

hilhc sllamd or bearing m 

Bcr enylhlng wrong wllh what. 

IIIc~lllmatc "Studlcs have shown lhal adoplees more 

happened," hc sdld. It's amazlnfl lhc avcr. 

chlld was somclhlnR lo be hldden to pm 

ollcn than no1 have lnsccurlly complexes;: 

whclmlng plcasurc somc adoplcc~ gel aul 

IccI the cnllre lamll~."shesafd. I would lully asrce.wllh (hat." 

allindlng lhclr parcnls." 

'The blrlh rccords Rave Mn. Rcnncll. .: itcr ra~hil dl4 in 1077 rl~d III~I.JUS~ . "To llse ;-d dlc never knnwlng shot 

namcs and clllcs and she lmmcdlalrly be madc the urga lu flnd hcr molhcr lhal happened lo yourci~lld has lo be nnc of thc , 

kan rcscarchlnp lclcphonc books lor passl. much slmngcr, "I. l~I1 llmc was runnlng J 

blr clucs. And In 1071, she lucalcd her la. out!' . :>. . 

worsl loriurcs on earth." sald hlrs, Rrn. 

.ncII. "I kncw two wonten who uovc ap 

lhcrln Pllhburph: . . ... 

o., ;,,,, 

.: And at that palnl In hcr search; shc uol.' thclr chlldrcn and lhey wcrc allcctcd 6s I1 

Aller sotho phonc convcrsallonr and an lucky. In 1014, shc had lalkcd over the , all lhclr IIvcs. They would hnvc bctw 

cxchan~c or lcllcrs. she was invltcd oul to phonc lo somc peoplc who had (he same hclncd 1l lky cbuld, havc mcl lhclr 

mwl the man. "lle never knew my , lasl namc as hcr molher, bul had no1 told chlldrcn!' 

molhcr hod become pregnant and hc was' lhcm lhc rcal reason why. bhc.))qdcd:la Dy the tlmc shc round her nalurol 

really qulle proud to lcam I exlaled. Ile flnd lhls woman, i. !:;'; . . t ' ' ': , molhcr. her adonllrc molhcr had dlcd 

yas busllng wllh prldc!' . . ., . .. 

'mere was some rollow.up to I~CCBII. bui I 

alsn, ailhouih the woman kncw or her 

I 

. A Brooch, a Fa= '. . .. It lcd nowhcre. Nowi in early 1018 she dc. 

-- P -. ~ -. W . ~ . 

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. c~dcd 10 call lhcm dgoln, oq~y,th~d:~imc : 

"Shc knew aboul It and was l~appy I was 

Bul unlorlunalcly not wllh Informallon. 

.dalnu 11, allhoufih shc war sorry I hadn't 

lclnp them,lhe IWlh, dYou an ek~lI~ 

was vogue Obnut why her 

round hcr. hly adnpllve porcnlr wcrc sllll 

lol or guls whcn you dp,tlds, y?u,yally , 

lcll hcr flrsl husband lo RO wllh hlm. re. : do,"s,,csald, , . , . ,, ... 

orlmc In mv lorc, bul I could love lhc111 

me abotll how the two of thcm mcl and ' .. , : '[,.,' 'I ,, 

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ihcn crentt~nlly spllt up. Ilc alsosuggcs~cd 

~ovad by ~ lofy .! 

, , "I wasn't motlvalcd In my scorch by 

lhal Ellsabclhslop hrrwarch. 

T~IS lime tho pop~e site ca~tcd w're lovc. llorv ran anyone lovc or hole.solllc. 

Ilc dld. howcrcr. ullc hcr a bmoeh wIIL moved by hcr slory and elarlcd In work on ., 

one 

- 

sou don'lcrcn know?" 

l~rr molhcr'$ plclurc lnsldr. "I! was my hcr bcl~all. I! look a fcw wccks, bnl. llnnlly Now lhrrc arr no li~orc lcllcrr. no 111urr 

flnl Iwk al a facc. I rescmblcd hcrqulle a succcss. And wllh It ihc concurri@nl bad t3M.a.mnnlh pl~onc bllls, no more fruslra. 

bil. . , , ncwsolhar moIhbr'8 dealh In Cleveland.' Ilon. 

"I have lo ns5unlr hi3 tovc~, her, s ~ Che C 1 ' ,q~ during February blizzard, : RI now shc wants lo llnd sonlc was lo 

kept 1h.c bmoch lor I2 yean. 

but I had lo go lo tho wake. It would be ihc i wrltc a book and tell poplc abonl hcr unu. 

S~IC also managed lo walk the hoSpl~~l .last lime I would ace a facc. I sufd, 'l'm : sual rnd fasrlnnllng rlory. Shc dorsn'l 

mrrldors whcrn sltc was born and vlsi~cd .coming If I have ld walk on snowshoc~s."' I know exactly IIII~V lo do It, bul glvcn hcr (he ~~PIIU~PRC wtlcrc she for a Thc cxpcrlcncc of seeing hcr molhor a( track record lor dclcrmlnnllon, Il llgurcs , 

shorl whllc. 

the wakc was slntply "lncrcdlbla," she shc'll llnd a way. 

''1 lrll llkr a nrurc. pul.lo~g1~1brr penon. says. "TIIc rangc or cnlolloltr I lcll wllcn I "Flndlng hci cleared cvrr)'ll~lna." sllc 

Ilwasllkcl~nlla burdrn~akcnofl!' ' . a ' lookcd el hcr locp, 1' lace or a lolol uald. "For lhc Ilrsl Iln~c In my lllc I could 

Bul It dldn'l eomplclcly sollsfy hcr, slhngcr. I1 was Incrcdlblc. :"!a' 

really hcar n~usic!' 

L < 

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my molhn dnldd 10 1.1 me admlltrd 10 I mnlrl hnc 

pllal. She dldn't kmw xhtl la do,%llh m. 1.8, r

';',"no", bul dldnl.uy *hy. 9r uld W k kn p 

. .

erd sum8 b ba (owarb more 

wnms. It ir ier). Ilktly 1h.l 

dqUmrrc~dmrUlm~lnlh6 

l~t""." 

Ihs *doyxloa almndls I8 hrarlly 

nrghrd wlIh cmoUond lama - 

rIlhl4 d .dcpkea, ado I. p.,.$nll 

and u rh prmb: mnG'uIuallty 

arlllrs m& diem m prwn's 

d hl b L na lhtb 

t~hlnd dl ha PUi gvnumt, 

ha.h in -Y ntona 1.0 

K. a 

djlalnUrPrnlnnula mll*nl. 

mebn ask Uul her Indl name no1 

Lawal, hpri bpolut hwfl.ynr. 

dd adwUvs mlher. 

Inp*rt,Ilb~kbbmul~~.~h~dro 

1. nnd t*lst - U nd break - laws 

lmmlnt mnn6enllaUIy lo flnd her 

W!Y". 

I lhoulhl It was dl~~u~lln~ 

~ U I I'm * ml U,r." 

,be ssld. 

A 3:nl 

AL.FR& 

OPEN AEcuno5 - 

rn(~iclc~~J

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mlhnr years a o b y SII~I~ .: 

uamhln lor h m r 61:~h rnn0s.r sla 

..- 

,-ordl ml'hl orlrr rlun, hll lhry 

,.re e~ab. A'kmdnp~~m hats 

.,d.rrd ..dl in nemplr,.. II,III, 

tfie~r~mo~btth, tmplnt um~rb~rlfi 

rprml wwld mpnd. 

K~.s)lkl #,Id dm wwld lry lhnl 

Ip~rNch I1 the knew In rhal par1 of 

lha rmnlry hrr hlrlh mU~rr llml. 

.She dmn't Lnox, hmrrr. 

Its# hlm cwn~ry. 

'The all slrpl 

"I ibn'l ktm." Ka~lrkl conmld. 

'Uny Und ol rso rd..." 

5ha pbnm la rlnll Lhlc. o whcm 

ll~o *.I bnrn, on lhe#llm cknrr aha 

rlll IoeaUa lull.bmlhtror slslrr who 

(ould lead Dcr la her blrlh mrml. 

ltaal'e ibwl IU I ran do." 

Ka#l~kl said. mddlnl hoprlully. "Lh 

mc a laror - rlnl m Mrlh rime. 

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Some adoplrrs hsra lrouhl. 

Iranllnp even lh.1 inlmmallon or 

(?eft hlrlh mothsr'l nams. . 

llnlllal mnb. adnpllon *mmry 

111- and cmrt documenb are rlnd 

bY Imw In ma1 #L.LLs. 

~lnlomllrrn~ bblh Ialhrnl~eren 

~IUPICL In Ls rare 01 IllmlUmatc 

UrLh,. Urlh moulrrlin he -11 dlm 

In lWIl 01 ill lhl p~oblefnlhry 

lam, I: Ua r-uP wmlh Ula e11u11 ' 

In a lw weds, b y wU1 meel her 

Urlh moWr fu he nnt Ume. Shs 

admlb .he b appmhmrlrr. 

"11'1 re.lly slran a I dm't lhlnk 

Il'mtdunl~~rre~~l~-my llndlnr 

hrr -, mUI 1 rnlly her." Kay 

uld 

prenl. 

b y .Id her own rhU&m rratlcd 

rr~mt~wly 81 ltrsl b her irarch. 

-ney .Id 'Gr~dm81- Grand 

m .o uut, ~I'I lamd arl more .In. 

rwm.Ilan bll br bll. hw slrrtd 

~ 

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mmlnm srornd.'' 

Mod ImpaUnUy. Kay uld. 

hm her pll. 

a*II'~ Uka I !el eircll 11 corn. 

geld. I 141 uke somlhly w.1 

dnyc mlulnm. and na 11s no( 

mnymar." sha uld. 4..

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,." ....'..'. ..,;

1l.r &r k 4th U. ht111.1 , 

. ',A" m 11. th rlnrld ID I& oram vlke 1s 

: Inetlhrd 'TeW M rmdohrldyhln mqmnIh- 

IW6. n rmldLbh 10111" 

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In guktlmmml,lhe Irodlcctrn lludmtm~ 

may IrU hn l'm na )t.rr*lWly,"uys th ' #tarn 1h.l Id to tklr -19 fhthhnddtlolllr I 

1 : bldw bmk IeoN. 

I 

.ttr~nlrad~tl h.lmlrmwt rllh~mr~ln.'ll!!bj 

11 ll* llrlt NnNv I'n rlr h*l **my lmfhrl ! Mrr. Irllnrllr. Jutllt~ nnvn mkn br dat~dilrr ' 

nlrl,fl,., rmm, ,&,I$ ,,,, I;, : ,".'horn, 

nc.111 thilRntK!I+% f~tbr,%rmnrLtc~_.~ j 

' 

In .L~llm wlrn ,h. wiibm. Ad mn adult. R&l* 

lt*lr -WP*O~*i1ct-1w*117 ., 

; l.lnlnd an oll~aunlr* rmh mr lpmddt MIS man' ' 

:. ad *ma1 nt.nm wrn ih -nd .I& br \ in II~ ik rent tnln/ hm~n uod mnirr# In : 

i~m~~~r.~ mdhrr • II,~. ant year . . 1 statrn blah(. ..I .ntrd to kcrp nldwll. rety mtd 

. . M 11 ran a~nlnt nn1hdy3 ?t*ln 

, s-Kruy Llmh 11 I wed to rmk U m moltrr 

. . 

rm.,t*trd: n~hr(l. ,.IJ. .-~nd 1 inn &+ 1. '.I*a* 

tmr~; m mmv mllrm 181 in 1110. 

d ~ ml, , ~,t~~lNn~y,p,em,~, ~,*,,lf,,, , ' woddn't kl me 1-4 lwt In tk hw. All dm# mtla P 

we,. nmr rplntd." 

rlmd 10 me. 1 mmllld I mm.1 sln. 1 had. hatn!':' 

. ,,,,l,td RrrMI. ,., ,&, I)rr,,ultd LI~S. tritm~tx rar ndy ~rw.&-d 10 FIWC tk ' 

tllmara by lur ubfr(". wrm(s bu~ I, dllmrd; . l*nb 101 alhl.llt*t. N walnfl haN1.I NICI. In*l#d! 

h, 0rlpl""l Nmw. ., arrlwRnd.lk. .., . e 

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in ,' 

Ful hudCfdale Nsm and SwSentlr 

.L ' - Woman,:33, 

Celebrates 

; 1st Birthday- 

, ) I , 

I 

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IIw *mu Dld k r .W t(a rkn ak 

1st five yean dd. wrr mplm utr 

Rcd4r. rbru & rod ndbl nm.drd, a d 

d 1h trnm k t nnl nunlap t d lq ~ .u 

m d mr huoufi". 

h-q ml) her dated blnh ud hr non d iho 

: +ka a m . ~rrhi. h n n ~ ktnu ~ nod q 

ytm tqhrt m. m cYh pmla w t mu 

. .d k lo hrrmlm 

th mmn In LiI.ml dlmld Rod.11. to hr 

I wheel main in N. YwJ,t,eMa, i 

CII~V tdd nhn. hrr nmimahn tmd d ~ .l d 

rsrnll . ud dm 8htilM krmothn'# d4rt.r h th 

)I,= Im iir ttirrro~ I-. A t r w h N. ~d . 

I#& 10 10 to lh. hw. i 

'I aprrd th dm:. Mn. t h.Ih -IkJ.".od ': 

IN# ar.nr# rmvl r.8 nafnh moltur, my -. 

ma-kr. 6h .a' no r.% ilr uu 1 

}rh.lk. I lPIdirr. 'Rht h.- Iom, b.DII'" 

\ h m ?n dl8lod RDhllo'l ~nbr anl th 1.0 i 

pd.. lor the nnl am..

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RY DNIAM ~nlll'll npproncl~c~l 1110 Inillt~~llons nn 

,. Spcrl~~l to 1110 Wcrkly b10 

a adult, look111fl for lnlort~~nll~~n nl~orll 

In lhla nl:e of lllh?rnllon an11 cqunl 111s nnlllral ~nolllcr, I1 w~~uld not 

, . 

. . a d 

rl[!l~ls, tllrrc Is n new nlr of dclt!rlnl. llclp llllll. Illn olllclnls dld lcll 111111, 

G : , nntlon cn~cl~l!lnp Ulnl auld ha rnllcd tlowcvcr, Ulnl I1 Imlll ~nrtlcs- Ulc 

"kloplion l.ib." ' chlld nnd pnrc~~t-nppro;~cI~~*~l I110 Init 

wollld relcn= roqllcs(cd 

gnnirallon culled Su~rhinc is lntcnt lnlormntlon. 

acnrch 

lhclr nalurnl parcnln and Ilclplng Ulot llnnlly led l~lm lo 111s nlnll~cr- 

. . A rcccntly rorlncd Ilon.firofit or- ~tltu(lon, 

or1 hulphrfl ndoplcd chlldrcn flnd lzclfh lnllncllcd n flvo-~mr 

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. 

. . parcnls lccnto chlldrcn given up Ltl 11111 llvlng in 11111 Aluon nrco. She 

lhclr Il~lnucy. told her 6011 the hnd nono lo n'nrlr nt . 

in lloprs 01 get. ., 

of sun. 10 hlm. Whrn the Insllhllon tll%mv- 

. 

,.. , ~l~~~~ i\kmn oren rcsldcllla, (110 cl~lldrm'cr hon~o 

,. ". 

. D~~~~~ ~l~i~, 

K C I ~ M~~~ ~ 

tlng lnformntlo~~ Illot 60111tl lcnd lrcr 

.-. ~ ~ ~ - ~ j ~ ~ , i ; ~ ~ ~ ~ - ~ ~ ~ ~ 

\ shlnc; whlch has its hcndqunrtcrs In* cred idcluty* Iald* *O 

.. . 

* L , Shnlersvlllo In Portage County. flred. 

. Also ~lvlng nsslfitm~e ~111 he EV~. 1" DInno's cmc, odnptlon tvns ma- 

.. . lyn ~\vnr(z, ~clnl servlccs supcrvl. ~ C S I C h)I ~ ~hrjlclnn wllo ws~ 

hatuln 

p~~td(l, ~~~~~l~ 

weflure Inn Dlnne's ndoptlvo muUror. llc fclt 

a chlld In UIC famlly would bc flood 

. Depnrt~ncnl. 

, . . .. "WQ need to cducn(o (Lo nubllc:' "blnck 

lor hls 

lnnrkcr 

pstlcnl cn~otlonnlly. Dlntlc'a 

!ion,lrul~l 

h a Kulnle ssld. "Nn111rnl p~rcnls lnuycr nrrnnnc~ 

e 

. . ' . . lust don't hnnd ovcr lhelr clrlldrco 

'. . . NIOU~ 0, bnck~ard gtanm, And Dlnno's presi.nco did not prcdllco I . 

. . n~lnlrtlvo pnrcnla don't nlrvsys pro. . *lo desired result rind DJnno'a ndo~ 

. vldo (llc lovlag permnncnl . tlvo moUtcr htu becn hospllnllmd 

llonlc wlllt all the ndvo~lagcs moGtofD1nno'sllfo. i 

..'. . 

. . . prnn~lscd. Dln~~o was 18 and nppronrhlng 

, hcn~acllcs, mothorhood hcrself when her fnlher 

6urpr1scd wllhthe rlcws U1nt 

. . pnrcnlsshould ~nnko rhlldrcn nworc 

at n rcnsollnblc ngo tllnt they wore been ndopteclns an lnfnnl. 

I ndolllcd. And tllcy sl~ould support a ''I couldn't bcllcvo it," Dinnc snld. 

I 

S C A ~ C for ~ tho 'nnturnl' pnrcnts At (lint polnt, sho dccldcll lo 

. . when Ulo chlld 13 en sdult!' scnrcll for llcr nnlural molhcr. \Vilh 

Illo louadcrs of Gunsl~lno hupc to Ill0 mll~port of llor 11ur;bnnd and llcr 

' I 

go lo bonrd ~ncctlnfls 01 cl~lldrcn'n ndopllvo faUlcr, nnd with 1110 pusho~ncs 

nnd ccrvlco aficnclc~ lo nlnkc lll~ 01 seven ycnrs nnd Uro Iruhtrn. 

. II~cl~~polt~t 

plnccs Irerluontly have "mlsplnccd" trlod, Dlnno found llor nnturnl 

lnforr~~~~llon when 1110 grown ndop- molhcr. 

.. tco or i~olurnl pnrcnt hiu rcquclitcd . Dlnnc dld nll I11o rcscnrcl~ 011 hcr 

It, ncwrdLtlg to Sutr?lllno. 

Cwll, wllh llcr own fundn. 6110 Incot- 

I11c 1:roup's mcn~lnrn plnn (0 ~ lvc . cd her molhcr In Colllorl~ln nnd, 

Inon11 rltpporl and pracllcnl atlvln nftor wvornl \vrlllen oxclml~l:cn, vls 

to Ihnso who nro scnrchl~~a for Ulc(r ihd Ilct. She plons nnothor vlsil U~ls 

nrcuts or rl~ll~l. A111~111flh Su~uhlne . sumlncr wlUl hcr 11ubnt1d Alan nnd 

k n lnrr~l n~vll=!tc!?. I! 2111 re. (I~~!rO~rcechlldrcn. 

. slmntl lu III(IIII~ICR from nny~vl~crc. Dlnno l~nr wrlllcn lo tho Ol~lo nu- 

Tho oxpcrlct~ces of ~l~csso tbrco.. rcnu of Vllnl Slnllsllcr nccl~l~rr: l~rr 

. I Dlnt~o nnd Kclth, who wcro ndoplcd . IJlrlIl reI'tlllcnlc. Sllc hns ~~rnvl~lctl 

t . 

ns cl~llclron, nnd Jonn, wl~o flnvo up tlcr nah'nl nmll~ar'r nnnlc nn~l rlrr- 

I IIIIII-I~U;I~IIC t o I U . re111 ntldrcss nn~l hcr n~lol~llvt~ Ine 

lbnl cnll 110 folllld in odopllona. IIlcr'~ nnlnc nt~d ntldrin, clnilnc . 

Jcnr~ \\-;IS just I7 wllcn tllc went to Illclr mnqcnt itlr 1Jln1:c lo h~tvn llcr 

. tlln Vl'lllnwa, n hotno lor ulwcd I'ldh ~CIIlllcntI!. 1110 Durcnu IIIIS not 

~t~otl~crs III 1(111urn.s clly, Mo. WI~I rcV1"n!Jcd. 

SLJ~Stlltd~ 

llor rl:~~q:l~lcr wnr horn, Jcnn re. . 1110 lnnllllll: ndr11.c~~ for Su~trl~l~~o 

\Nl&btd5 

flu;c8d In tiir:n lhu ndnlrllol~ pnpcrs. In 1s 1'. 0. ]lox +Ill!!, !ilrcclol~oro I.l;!.lU. 

rcl~~llnllo~~, n110 says. I;IIC jvns re. A ~~lf~l~ddrc~'icd, RIDIII~CII CIIVCIUIIC 

fllr;l~tl 1llctllr;ll nllrl~ll[~ll, loo~l .ntld ~h0llld bu itltlutlcd fur o n!llly. 

oul!,iJl! t~2lcllllllllu c:1lls Illl(11 sll" 

l~l!rl'~~~I I0 r;ll!ll 1110 ntlol~llo~~ I);lpcra. Thc Scnrchcrs-Intcrn'l. 

NILS f11111lly J:IIVI~ 1111 I~cr h:~lry. , Rcfcrbncc Form -- ff1113 

AIIII~III!II III~! IIOIIIC IIII 11111j:cr ex. 

I!:ls. 111111 1111 11!1 rov~~rds wcrn 1#11rllcd, ' 

IIII!IO l:t 11 j!roul# CIIIIL!II \vlIl,,\v IE rrnncl~tas 

(~t'lll~~l:ll~~~ IIIIII .Icnn In 111 (0111-11 AJoph. - tlulurnl Pnr.nl 

U'llll. Sills IS IIII~I~II~. 11) llur lotollno Gooup . 

d~~lr~:l~lrr, tv1111 \r3~~llltl IW ire 2:1. lm7 nuo~on III..I 

I(I*IIII bflll w;l!l nllnllll!ll fltlttl n No. Iloll~wood, CA. 9lbCl 

(.llll~il~~~'li IIIIIIIII 111 i\kroll. Villo~~ 1111 

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ol vlcw i~ndcrnlood. Such llotl known only lo UIWC who hnvo . .. 

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. : . , A lccn.ngcr hcro was lucliy. Aflcr scnrclllng 

I for lhrce nronlhs, whlch scc~~red llkc nn clernlly 

.. Lo hlm, hc round lhc.woman alro borc hlm. 

Shc was llvlng only n lcw miles away. flu1 

.tho slcps hc look to llnd her nllen were dlsorcan. 

lzcd anrl rlsky, I1 no1 downrl~lll sncoky. 

Uvcry ycnr thousands of adoplccs hcgln 

searching lor lhclr nalurnl parcnls. Scnlcd blrlh 

reconls and clmcd adopllon agcncy, film oflcn. 

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lrustralc IIlclr clforln. 

Goma cnloy su~'itul rchnlonr.' 0U1cn flnd 

:'thclr naltrrnl pnrcnls but arc forced to sclllc lor 

: llmllcd or no conlnct allrr lhc llmt mecllng. f'or 

,;.nyl adcplcca, howcvcr, lhc senrch Is lulllc bc- 

.;cause thc pnrcnb have dl& or lhrlr chlldren run' 

Pout 01 Ume, moncy and oplirnlsm. :':' . 

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.: Thc tan, whom we shall call James Wllson, 

4 was pul up lor adopllon by hla moUlcr &rough a 

; private agctrcy. Shc "rlgncd on sqrecmcnt saylng 

' she wantcd'no rcsponslblllty lot me," bc sald. 

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..- ~nd& Olrlo law, adopllon recork arc sealed 

and arn nvallnblc lor lnsl~ecllon only npon the 

dlrccllon 01 n prolu!e Judgc. . : , 

."We glipc a comrnllmcnt Lo the fnmlly that 

wo won't glvc out lnfornrallon on them," abld 

Mnry flardcn, chlld care sapcrvisor at Chlldrcn's 

Servlcc!, 1001 Buron nd., a prlvale rdcption 

agency. . ,. ' , 

Adoplcrs cnnnat bo glvcn lhci real bltlh cer- 

Ilflcnlcs,. namcs, dales of Irlrthplaccs. "If ll~cy 

wanl to knosv lhrlr mdlcnl history (such ns Ute 

epnsslbllity of hcradlbry dlqaoses), ae cnn only tell . . 

you whsl 8hc (lhc molhcrl fold us. That's all we. 

know," Ms. narden sold. , 

I1 pnrcnlr Inter call and say 11's all rlghl lor 

tho chlldrcn lo conlnet lltcm, llren lhd agcncy lrlcs' 

lo arrnngc n mccllng, ahc naid. "Bul most parcnls 

call lo bc rcnvsurcd IhaL Ihclr chlldren will, hot 

mtno and look lor lhcnr." 

A barcnucrnlic sllp nllowcd Wilson to sco hlr 

blrlh ccrllllcnlc. Ilc mos lold lhnt all blrlh ccrlilicaks 

arc on lllc In Colu~nbus nt thc 1)cporlmcnt 

01 Henlllt n11d Vllal Slnllsllcs. Ilc aald be nnlcd I1 

. "lor ldcnlllicnllon purposm." A clurk acclderrlirlly 

nllowcd hlnr lo scc hlg blrlh cerlllicalo, i111d lrc 

Icnrncd his tno1lrcr:s rnnlden nrmc nntl an 

address. . . . , . 

Tho Senrcllers-Intern'l . Ref . Fil 

Wllsdn nlso dlscohrcd Itla molllcr's lrotne 1 

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ilnlc. flc plckcd sovcrnl clllcs lhcre nnd, ltslng 

lclcphonc dlrcclorlc.c, nladc n llnt 01 cvcryonc In I 

those clllcr wllh hcr sotnc li~at natnc, hoplng lo . 

conL?ct a rclatlvc. 

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Wllson dld conbcl the owner ol lhc hortsc 

lislcd n3 hls mother's sddrcss nl lhn llmo ho was : 

born. Utl!vccn lhc owner nnd n rclnllvo on hl~ llzl, 1 

Irc lucalcd a Irlcnd who had kcpi 111 loi~clr cvilh hls 

molhcr. Ilo vcrlllcd a ncw nddrcss wltlr a 

nclghbor. 

Whcn he conlacld hls mollrcr, ~lrc unsn'l 

shocked. WlLPon sald, bul rho wns vcry cc~rlour 

ahoul how he had found llcr and how hc had farcd 

over tho ycars. ' 

"Sho answered some ol my qucsllons nnd I 

answered somo of bcrs:' Wilson mid. "Shc sald 

every now and lhcn, rapcelnlly nrollnd nip bl?h. ' 

day, aho would wondrr llow 1 wan." 

Ms. Barden 01'~hildrcn'a Scrvlcr-3 wid onc 

man cnllcd thc ogcncy rcccnlly anntlr~g to know 

how hls natural son found him. 

"110 wcnl lo tho ndoplcd parcnls and dclnnnd. 

cd lo know how tho chlld got (LC irllorntnllon," she , 

' said. "Wcll,.ho ccrtnlnly dldn't gcl I1 from lbls 

agency." 

Jud IlnDufs, who nsalatcd WIlson In hls 

bcorc -8 , mihcr nalurnl mnlhcr In a courlrnom 

alter Illring a lawycr lu~d prlvala dclccllvc in her : 

scarch.. , 

?Ire womcn ogrccd lo slay out of C~CII olhcr's 

personal lives. 

Mrs. Ilopula 'r6alIzcs her rclnlionshlp cvlih 

her molhcr is llmlled. 

"Yort 4on't wan1 to brc& up hcr homc, you t 

just wanl lo talk to her. Vk (adoptcml Bavc nothing 

to go on bcforo lhc lIrnc.our (adoplcdl parcntl 

gtvo us." 

Thcro nrc'nbout llvc mllllnn atloptccs In 

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Amcrlcn today. At lc;rrt 20,000 nro smrclrlnf! lor 

lhclr nnleral parcnls, according lo A~lo)~lccs 

Llbcrnllon Movcmcnl Assa*lallon, nn or~anlwllon 

Utnt nlds ndoplccs. 

Jnmm Wllson now l~clonis lo a nmnll, auccesslul 

mlnorlty; 111s scarcl~ llns cndcd. 

\'ins It a hnlipy cs~llnfi? "Well, ll'a not really 

en cndlng :,. " 118 snld. 

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And Ida)-she .Ill-hrel kt 

IwAhlnlkllfilllmelnlhmw 

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"I wd na rrtpxlu lmnn rrl, 

tlsts, bl I W lrtm #kt Mull 

+Im:'lhruld 

A llarl 01 mrmpondme. 

n,tml lqdltlmr IrlNmr 

ran*. and I blp In K-8 nly 

fin imlnmy Iellr :bmrnr,*kru.r,h 

HIS Rwnnll rnr bwn h 

Knul rill .I lb hlm-I 

Malnnlly llmpllrl. lhmmr d 

lmt mnlrtnlly homn In 1h.l 

My. No. UIrt .re -, h 

mu. ndwt &lr.lnmdl 

Ll.ebrmhmrd. 

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h..r lhmlhln~~lnmmmn. 

Ilnr, thy lratrrd 111- Ih.1 

Ihl .".dcpld. * 1 4 

nn .kn #k )ran I# 1.0, thy 

had un~all~larlnry odnpllrr 

fntnrl llrt adnpllre molhrr. 

th MU. -11 .rmllna$ dl*. 

labd, rh,rr. Ihrrr I* some 

hlmi d nhls In lk sdqtn'# 

111, Hen nNnmlt' Msglltr 

lalln dld d rlmr ad nh 

monlhl lltrt her ad~plltr 

rnalhrr and irandmolhrr 

wldrd h.fl~rlhaldoltqt4 

rrrr~lhlnt In lhr hnmr. ~ hr 

1.16, "en Ik mrmml~t. rhdb 

mllhllnKtn~l1lll." 

LIVING 

Thtlxtih llr ilnlth 1111 nltl 

and cortnymdtl ullh rntlnf 

a41hplrpe and l,blnrd nmlq~lcr 

Itw 

B. lug h-m rllllr In .A!brt 

Tm. k &#In bmlly 

p.brh.dlromldh 

rn.ndlklxldh,*bm 

nnn 8ll.rltq kr nlollm#hlp 

.Ilh Urm. Ih "16 And. ltr 

.I, 1"hI"lrd I" hrr [rnllr 

hhlo).. 

Adopteefirzds natural mother -- 

I ' h r l llm 1's'. 4 

nd Adnplm r ALIII 1st oh. 

l~hrmaI'lly.~blrhl~hr~~lrdby 

1W.n Il'lh~nnrll. dlrcrlur nl 

Lullrran hlal Slvkn 61r 

1111 I: an nu8lllaty mmhr o( 

l'ntmnlVnllrdNrlhprrnb. 

Mllfm8. Llan. I limp Ilul Is 

lnlrrnld 118 hmanlrlr. a+ 

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In Jmnuary. Frb#u.ry. and 

LI.erh..h. *rdrlolkou#lln Ilmdbrbl,lh.lhnl#k..rm 

Ml~u*sLlf~.,lln*ln ldl*~. bnllq~l. .a( dlvnmd I- 

ILn Tm &xlori md r Jultr k, hnband. and h.d I.,hl. 

llvl lrdr lnlrr brh8ll. Rr re. 

rrlrrdmrrymr. 

In Ally mk vrde lo lk grin. 

rnlulmndlk~~~mllrrmdh 

Kmur(lly. AndlnJunrnkre. 

~m(l~ynllkn~I1~ndc 

rrw *llh m nvr.lln# mm., 

ad Irn.1 hlnmy dlh n. 

"llulllul m.n'lrmllh,"h 

inld "I was rllll rcntrrnrd 

OhYI lhe 1edIraI llptll ol 

Im I hrrrdllj." &he ,.Id. 6hr 

harfl~hr~~vsllc nlrnr. d ik 

bIc.,1. 

nuifram Ik mt.1 hlslny 

LIr1 nnsrrrlnll dld lld oul 

1h.l h M lkr "18 D d UI 

nln.Rr..,.u.l.llndrd 

lhal h nnkr ear nlln nd 

IIvbtlnblll~l~OIy. 

"Slwlhalllrllda~,r~ htt 

llllrd s .Ilflm rrrrr day.- 

akuu. 

"Wr 1-1 Ilk 1W Inlmdd 

Ihll lnhrp~nll lhll p11kul1 

llm. Re 1-1 lllc ltr d$ m 

md I d h." he uld. "I 

hare kwrd k all lhn. nrt 

nmUyhldldnlhm.~ t 

brdhr mm(hrrl~nrbr. 

Iln. In l Lull m 

lltr lalhrr, Xe find ml 

lhrorlh ltlr~hnne nllr, had 

dlrdmhmk.nnn 

Itrs, nrmnnh. .ha 

bv hnm.rh.""d 1q.11, I, 

UImm kt blrlh molkr8.n 

kr.tuunl~l.obauh~m~p 

Ih In lnlrrold Fmplr: "RI 

lh# Nolmmn (0kII.l l,.nlcrlpl. FII., Oat. 1, 1878 5 

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Adqlh TdmnlI.: N Elln(~ 

d lk klld nmrdr m Alp 

Im, nlrlh I'alrnle and Ad.p 

lllrI'lrd~"md"lnkanhd 

Orllln,: The E8prlrnr~$ d 

Adoplrd I'mplr." by Jnhn 

TrlrlMI$. 

"Ilubt .rnllrrlm#Intar~ 

nd hlllnr 1181 t nrr Id." 

rid. "Alnl'rn,danln( I.? 

my rm?, Il'l ljmMlr~lll lm

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cnum in aumc wnys l'h not surc what, ,I 

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male. I ncvcr knew my fntbcr'n Inat 

nr I'd put a1 tho fop. ' .. .' I I 

nnln@. Evrrnlarc. I~IIVC wt~ndrrcd 

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kll'cw: The nnmc an It wnx thennmc 111 

' rrnm l war7 dnya old, I wan glvm a my rcnl inother, the womnn who Wllelttcr I Anll hrothcrs or nlrtrra 

81." he. P C 1. c I n CQncc(Vcd and burme and nn~rntcd ,lrcnl (my.nJnptlvu whethlr ~~nrcatn I l~nd ilaoil~cr chr~. 

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. known O* my Parmtg. 1 *~lII.ronrldcr~ to alvc mc up far adopllon wlthln 110ul.n wl,,!t)l,r tllry 

like I,lrm, nr 

thclr anmc mlnc. Ilroudly. Lovln#ly. : 01 my blrtlt. ., : , 

nlc, tVl,elllrr wb 

And grnlcf~tlly. . . . , . , I wore tIIIf~rct~t In olhcr ways. W111.th~~ 

When.1 inkAl my ad~tptlvc mother they nre on h&rppy pr ns llt~nnclnlly 

But nnc rprivg day when 1 wrs 11, I ~ IleIh~r that wna thc case. shc blual~cd, wcll~llxcd'nn 1 nnl, end wllctl~~,r S,~I~.- / 

.. nturnblnlncross~~nochernnmescraw~~ hnI(~d 4 mlllu(r and.lh@n *a111 lhnt It how 1 could IICIP. tbcni. WI ~IICI~ 

dn nllr of pnlicr in thc bottom of a WU, . !,,mwlbdne or wltt~out 11. 

1, . me. Somehow I I knod whn! Cn~c.wu th0ug11 I ~ AMQ page 

Chlcngo Sun-Tlmci : , ' i ' I 

ncvl!r mrnllotlrJ li iri iiiy i~t"iitlvi! 

This is wrlttcn wlthoul a byllnc. bc. IN NEII ,:. . , 

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Whcthcr my blologlcal motbcr could draw come 

fort from knowlng that thcchlld shc hcld In hcr nrmn 

r only n fcw hours wns tekcn In by warm, lovlng 

~plc; Whcthcr It might rclicvc her to know I nm 

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hcnlthy, happy--even allvc! Or whether ahc hcrself 

mtght nced help.. 

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IN TlllS COItNEIt 

selves known-and nvnllnble, lf.'thnt would help-lo 

people who must stIII wondcr nbolrl us, If only for n 

rnomenl hero or thcrc7 

ncadlng that essay, I wns stopped c?ld by the 

"stunnlng example" of "a nun who hall glven blrth nt 

~gc IS, placcd hcr chlld in a homc nnd then. In her 

Whethbr, on ;nother lcvel, I mnJ have lnhcrlted early 201, entered a convcn1:'Shc "would not hsvc 

tctrdcnclc8 toward dlabctes or other gcncllcally welcomed the sppenrnncc 01 hcr chlld on the convent : 

llnkcd dlscnscr. I ) 

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Thoacpuertlonsdon't prioccupy'mc. I only think I lhlnk tho wrltcr'a fallncy was In dcallng wllh 

of lhcm from tlmc to tlmc. But, ns I WnS told rather womcn who hnd glven up lhclr chlldrcn. If 8hr bnd 

bluntly In an csany that nppenrcd thc other day: I talkcd wlth women who had neen those chlldrcn 

should butt out. I ahould ahat up and go away, dnpltc ogoln. rnther thnn wlth women wl~o fenred such in 

an lncrenslng lrcnd lor courts to makc adoptlon re- cxpcrlencc, ahe mlglit hnvc told n dlffcrcnt story. I 

' cords avsllnhlc to adoplccr. ' , nm told by mnny pcople I know who hnvc "looked up" 

collclud~ th,t ld Riven thclr mothern that they fclt drcnd brloreauch n meet- 

: the[, up for adoption d ~d not-emp~~nt~ca~~y I?.% but almost never felt regrat afterward. 

not-want to,hcar ever agnln from thcir "lorgoltcn" Yes, I'm that shadowy oulllne in lhc drnwlng. I 

children. The pnln mlght bc too greal. nccnrdlng to don't wan1 to Intrude 018 thc plcturc, on my mothcr's 

thc wrltrr, 11 chlldrcn who had bean adopted showcll new lamlly (It shc hna onc). Bill filllng In thc hlnnkr 

up to "Intrude upon the mother's ncw Iltc at almost In my blologlcnl life wo~tld mcnn a fulflllmcni denld 

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. mc for as long ns 1 can remcmbcr. And dcnlcd lo my 

- Well, pardon me idr nsklng. But how many of ul . y'hcr, 

adoptces, who hnve too often known the launtt of un- '" 'has Om no Or.wh?t am l'ndirlg doin!!!' Out 

tltlnklnn oconle, would be colloua enough to

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To.My 

, First Mother. 

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I do not lhlnk of you oflerr, but I tlritrk of vo~r sonre. rmrrt be to trrakc sorr~i,or~@ {~lvu trp scrrrlrtlrre Ilrt~v LI\.~' 

IIlrtef. When 1 t~rlrrk 01 you sunrelinlcs I wonde~. 1 !;)IF say3 shc OPT no1 itrrnw a11cf WI' tvtrtl~~r?r i~r!t~'l!lt't 

wo~~rler so rnairy Ihtngr. Snnrc tllinga I u~crrrder nrc Slit! IY sttrr you lovr*il nrtv very rrrtrrlr. SIL. IIIVCY 1111~ 

Important. Sotne tlrlrrg$ I worr~lcr I know nrc not lruly . veery rrroclr. 

Irrr))orlnnt. but I catroot slop wonclcrl~rg. 

1 do 1101 tl~lnk of looltlir~l 

Most of all I wortder II you ever wonclcr. I wo~rder If do tltlnlc of lookltiy lor yo11 and lirrdl~r!l ybti. I llrlrtk I * 

you ever think ol rne nnd worrd~v wlic!re I oma'rrd trow orrly wnrrt lo o$k yrre~ tl~esc qricsll~rr~r art11 lo krrrru~ 

I O I or nrnybe even wonder If I a111 .ilivc. tlresc nnsrvers, trot I tlotr't IIIIIIII of yo11 OIIPII. I tl1t11'1 

They say 1 hncl n rnothcr. Evt~ryhtrdy hat1 n nrbt~rer, worry nhoui you very ~rruclr. I dot^'^ warr~lvr nl~rttrt ~1111 

Before they borrr [hey hacl n rn~tlrer. Mnybtl lor n very niuch. I hopc yo11 clnri'l wn110rr nhnul rrn9 irrr~l 

llttlc whllc alter tlrcy were born sorrre llcoplr lind n wcrrry nhul me nrrcl IIIIIIII nlrotrl rrri9. If you do tvirrry 

mother. Some people hnve n inother for n lung tlrne and wcrndrr or thlnk nl~nut.rrrc~. I Irojrc Itrat YI will 

nftcr .they arc born. Sometlrnvs peoplg hove more sn~nvlrow 5c.e this nrr~l llmt I! will l!vlp yo11 trfrl WVI!J 

than one mo~lrer. You werr my first nrothpr, They sny rind no! wnnder nr~d no( rlrlnk ahuul toe loo rn~rclr. I 

I did trot have you long bcc~use wlren you left rnc to lrnlre you will thlnk alto~rttrrc lrrsl a IIIIII! hit ancl 1 IIOI~V 

be fourrd with my name [Was i~ truly my nnn~e'? Your YOI wIII worlder ahout pc just a little hit. I Irupt' yr1t1 

name? Whose r~ntne?l and my irlrllrd~te &Vas It lr~rly won't worry about mc becauru I nrn all rlglrl nrrtl tllev 

my l~lrthdatr? Ar~r,llrt~r I~lrflrcl.ri~~? Wlrose blril~rlotci'j I saw I rrrurl Irolleur ll~nt \t~~~r arc all rl!~t~t, 18111. I IIIIII~* 

uas vcrv young. 

y11u nrenllriyht. 

I don't tl~lrrk of it ollen, but WIIEJI I thlllk I 'wrlllder . , (Tnkcn frorn fir; Wr,trorrtrr. Nov. It)77. I)ovl~:stnu.rr. 

abour wtry you left trre. They soy yo11 left rrcc t~ecnusc PA], 

you loved me so much nrrd'wnnted rnc to have a 

better lile. They say you rnny hnvc been ashamed 

becarrsc? you could not glve me a lather's nomc,and n 

grnndtnolher and a home nlrd scl~ool and "n brlgl~l' . ' 

fulure."They sny you left me and gave me up because; 

you lor~ed me. I wonder why you lell me. I, do nqt,. , .. 

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understand lcavirry somcune you love. 

I worrder If yoti lovcd rite. I wonder If yo11 tlroughi I: j 4 

uwr a nlce looking haby. I wonder If you thought d . ': 8 

long tinre before you gave rrre up. I worrder II you., : 

wntched ncnrby alter you lelt me. I wondci if you ' 

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stood until I was found. I wonrler If you dressed mc in : 

rrlce clothcs ar~d If you hallred me and fed me before 

you lelt me. I worrdrr If you crlcd. I thlnk I must have 

crled, I wor~der if you wondered where ilrcy look me. 

I don't worry ahout you ofteri, but I sonretlmcs 

worry if you are all ttghl. I worry that yori may he slck 

and tttat you may need help. I worry thul you may 

r~eed someone lo do your chorrr or brlng you water or 

go to the storcfor you or lo make you laugh. I worry 

thal you rnoy no1 have allyone to do these thlngs lor 

you. 

They sny you probably-have nnothet famtly now 

olid !hat you could lrnvc another fomlly olter you left. 

me. That Is alter you lell mc because you lovcd me so 

much. I wonder if your new chlldrcn will do your 

chores on? bring you water and run your errands. 

TIrcy say you probably hnve new children. I wonder If 

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Ihese chtldrrn do these thlngs lor you as I would l~ave 

done them lor you 

If I could fltrd you, If I could scc! you. II I cu~ilcl epcnk 

to you. I would tell you not to thlnk 01 me, not to 

wondcr, not to worry. I have a name and o lnlher and .- 

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two grhr~dnrolhcr~ nrrd iwo grar~dlntlrcrs nnd n 

school. Tlrry say I lrpve n bright future. I have a 

mother who says slrc loves me for you and lor ire~sclf. 

She knows I wonder. I osk hcr trow much love there , 

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Jr~clgc ~a~rj"Woalau 

May Learn Iiler~riliea 

. Of .Natuwal ,. , P9renls: 

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ny ~oac~ii~ D. Whllnknr ', 

, ,W.~I~.IOI pmt 81.1t wr!t*r 

,.: In ,a,polenlinlly. landmark d~cl. 

don, a Takoma Park woman who 

.war adopted as a child hw beon 

glvcn pcrmlssio~l ld'sce her sealed ; 

hlrth records and learn tho identi- : 

I tles of her natural parents. . .. 

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Judge's ICulir~g Gives Adopee 

Access to Seuled Birtl Recol0ds 

slalcr, who nlsa ms ndoPlcd, ,dld not 

Jnln pln ll~e suit that lcd to ~dd?y'a 

rullng. , , 

Ill llcr requcal. Drlnkcr lold 11 the 

courl lllnl she has wnnlcd lo know.Ihc 

Idcnllt~ of hcr nnlurnl pnrcnls and 

somc older brolhnrn and slslcrs alncc 

her' cnrly lccns. Shc said (hot nnl 

knowlng lhc dctnlls of he Intnlly back. 

firnund loft hcr confused, tihe blso 

sald rille wns conccrned n3oul poaslblc 

hcrcdllary dlncnaca' or hcnllh prnl). 

lcms lllnt mlghl aflccl lrer chlldrcn. ; 

Sl~c nlsa lold 'lhc courl thnl her 

adopllvc pnrcllls had told llcr all Ll~cy 

knew alroul hcr nnlural lamlly nnd, 

Illnl lhcY fully supporl her clfurla lo 

oblnln.moro lnfarmntlon. 1 . 

nr nlll~ll, lllc arlt'rrsnry In lhls cnse ns 

wc wc1.r llle intnrmnnl." Dorrch soid. 

"Wc prcscnlrd ncvcrnl t~roplc In lllc 

flcld 01 nclo~~llon ilurlng lhc corc 10 

Iry lo ilolnl oul Ibnl nntc~rnl IPI.CIS 

were promlscd nnonyn~lly at tllc tlmc 

of Illc ndul~llon." I)orrrl# snld. .'oer 

llosllloll wns lhnl ~rnslill~l ll~c ndoplcc 

lllc rlglll lo opcn scalcrl rcconln roul~l 

~nnrll~ly vlolalc rlfil~ln 01 tltr blrlh por. 

enh!' 

In hcl' dcrlslon. .lud:c c;rrc!l look 

lnlo ennrldcr#tlo~~ lhc ~I(CI.CYIS of fl~c 

ndo~llve pnt.i'lllr, ll~c 18nlurnI parcllls 

nnd Ihc ndol~lcd chlld. I\,I~II llcr ~UIIIIC 

RlvlrlU lllc ercnlcsl nnlolllrl of nclglll 

In nr~ulnculs mndc by the ndoplcc. 

"TI~crc is no cnso law in Ihc Dlslrir~l 

of Colunlbln lo guldc lllls court In ~le. 

lcrn~lnlllg wllcll~cr lo subordl11111c n 

flo~all. IIlc ~88l~Inl11 rorpnrallon hl1:lll f~nl.cnl'n tnlcrcsf III prlvocy lo 

IIIUII~I!~. mnld sllc wnq '.IIOI dlslurbcd" the n~loplco'n lntcrefil in aecklng 111s 

IIY Illc ludgc'a dccislan. "\\'c nrye' I~I~lllll~," she wrote. ". . . l.11~ court Is 

I ??I tl~crcfsrc lnlpcllcd lo find In ll~ls cnsr 

Illnl Illc prlvnry intcrcsls 01 OIC III~III 

PnrClIIR mu81 how lo Ihc lnlcrcal nt 

llle nllslrlac. . . ~- 

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r\rcardlnu lo llrlnkrr, who wnn 11al 

IP for ndol~tiol~ wllh her hvln slslrr In 

105D, her c~~rlsslly nboul her 1o111lly 

I~sck~rountl hcvnn~e nn nll.~~ul lnvcsll. 

6nll011 Ibrco ).cnrs nas whcn hcr sbr. 

and clllll wns b~srn. 

"I bnd no ldciok.tlnl klnd ol hclr-rl. 

IIY l~cnlll~ 11rol11c111s nly PIIIIII~CII 

nlll:lll IIC up ngnlnsl." shc snld. "I 

Wml le lny nlfo~tivc 11nre111s nnil nll 

lllr~ cullld lcll rnc wnn lhnl lny 11nr. 

cnln tt'rre mnrrlcd and that I IID~F 

ncvcrnl oldcr brull~cra nllrl slslrrs.'. 

"NuW I Ilul~c I wlll hnrc IIlr rlln~~vc 

lo mrel ll~cm nll." allc nnld yrslcrdny. 

"1 lI1I11k lhnl If I 11a1l glscn a cllild up 

lllr nlloi~llun I sollld fccl a tcnsr of 

rcllcl ir Ihc child lo1111d nlc."

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Ddty Chnaet nov32,;he ntvar knew hnpm1\11., .. i .!I 

' ' !, ! . :' : .. (LO# +neelemTlmu pholo by Ben OlenBer) 

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lly John I lum 

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nwcct. S~I. had such a nicc look on her : Thn lrllar lhrrw Chnnc Intu cmn. 

Iacc. 9110 knelt down In Iron1 of me and:llnnnl lurmoll. She hntl llccn rrnrcd, nl- 

i 

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, I hand mlnc In wlth 'unknown: acron It. 

"Thc department nltornry In clllng 

. !hclr school. . . , t 

. Evcrylhlng wla unknown!' 

. . * thc Soclnl Scrvlcen Lnw llnn slotcd thnt 

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'qhcro was no onc 1 could talk (0 

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lhc mtnmlssloncr hnri no nulhority to 

mnlhcr of rno chlldrcn, and lhouglt ahc, 'he"abo"t thclrncial ptoblem 01 schwl." . rclrosc nny rccords wlth rclrrcnce to 

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han hccn on her own nlnce shc was 18 Shr plckcd up blts 01 lnlormntion nbnndonrd, dcllnqucnl; drslitu~@, nc. 

ycarn old. tho Iorp for her $300 state from noclal workers. Her mothcr's llrnt g l ~ t or ~ dcpcnd~.n~ 

l children wlth~~ut 

, grant at Snnla Bnrbnra Clly Collcgc re f , ' , cnm~rt npprovnl nllcr n hcntlng upon np- 

, qulrcd that she show prool that nhe was i . ,wh pllcnllon bythc prrlpcr pnrllcs!' 

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rcnred a foster chlld nnd reselves no in. 

en a 

' Jrromc Cnnlpo, nttorncy .lnr thi 

, come imm her parunt*; .; I child, nnything you'd0 is not sul~o~k County Dcpnrtmcnt UI Sorin! 

: "It In~umlllatlng 10 mc tohivC togo normal. !f 1 Cut schobl for n Scrvlrcn, rnld ~hnt hr bnacd hls oplnlon 

through thal," Chnsctold."lt'n llke my dny, the cops wcte cnllcd in. on thc,Ncw York Soc!ol Scrvlccs Lnw. 

wltlch hc snys wan rslshllshd "In pro- 

, reminded who you 

, 

Illedoenn'l bclang to mu .. . lt'n i s I1 I 

am no1 on idult end don't own my lile. 

tcrt the conlldcnllnlily 01 the pnrllcs 

.; I don't llkc lhnt lccllng!' nre.'.' , lnvolvcd ... The pat ty lnvalvd in , party thatnurrcndc,rcd Lhlaphlld ...the 

Ncvcrthclesn, .~hnsc wrote to thc 

. suffolk .county ~ of ~ hl,l . name. ~ Later, her ~ mothcr's Inat ~ namc. Or mother" ~ ~ ~ , i 

, ~~~l~~~ in N~~ york ripueatlng ,ha( a won It. hcr fnthcr'a lnsl nnmc? She 'There In a rcrtaln nrnsunl ol inlor- 

' lctlcr be sent lo Sanln Dnrbora Clty dldn'lrrall~ know. matlon lhat I thlnk the young lndy in 

Cnllcge slatlng tho( she hod never Once agnln, the chlld war taken cnllllrul lo," hc concrdcd, but nddcd. 

known her natural prenta. lrom hcr foster homc and didn't know "Wi.'vc givcn her about ns much ns wc 

. . why. " 

\ 

puld wllhoul vlolntlnj: the lnw." 

At the nomc tlmc, ahe rlccldril to re. 

gucnt lt~lormqtlon About her own blck- uy t Is tlmc she wnn II, aid tw id, Tllb I'nw ltconcrrllclf dilly ~11th pro. 

; ground. 

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, . , , . 6hc bell 2 vcd. to be odoptcd. . 

trclln8 hcr molhcr. Cltone mmplnlttrd. 

Own ignor*' 

wantd to know;. She,wns rlghl, sr It turncd out. whl'e 

I )ys. "I Just wsnlrd lo know. lor rcnl,' "Shc'n the one who stsrtcd tllc 

nlny* lor a In 

uh plff= 01 pnFero informallon about hurnc. Thcn she wna plord niri's wholc thing," nlte unld, nnd then adclcd, 

my lllc that I hnd ncvcr gollcn!' . , 

III onolhcr nh,y nllREr In will, l,tlt,wlltl 

hon'e' lh's 'Imc 

prcachcr nystcm ... TIC system lurnn orountl 

, What ahc hod gollcn weir blls and ;~ho acxunll~ abuacd h ~r. 

nnd protrrrs hcr, helps hcr nut. tokrn 

d~cccs or nha grow uu ln~a bewllderlng,. . Sh wna ukcn from that home and IC C~II,! nwny ... Thcn I, in turn, lor I 

. 

round ol fnatcr homes. Since llcr first stnynffronl 1l1e nne of 15 u11111 she was tl, rest of my lllc llnvc to pay far It 

tncmery, nlte was tronnfcrrcd lrom 18 wlth a lostcr cquple who treated hrt h3cnuac I have no rIgtlta." 

homc to homc, loslcr parcnt 10 111nlcr well. 

,. pnrcnl, wllhoul ever qulle knowlng Cyrll h~cnns. nttorncy lor thc Adnpwhy. 

' ' . ' Nnw, afler a mnrrlagc nlid n dlvn~c~, lcrs Lll~crly Movcmcnt Annnclntlon 

d~he first mcmnr(cs ... 1 just re. C h n 11 ~ Purb;llnR a aoclulogydr~rcc In (Al.MA). Is ottncklng the Ncrv York no. 

member ,he but , don', Snntu nnrhnr. and trylng to grt the CI~I acrvlcca '.ow in n c~ors nction su~t 

bcr tho namcn. I remember dog ,.. s"r1olk Counly Dcpartmcnt of Soclsl which t~cxlmts to go to ihr US Su- 

, ~h~ two wbrc ,,lee,.. ~ Swlccn l !n ~ New York ~ b l~clp ~ hcr un. prcn~a Court. 

were whltc. I don't know why 1 left.. port. 

'OV?..' 

Whllr thc rult wns IIIcd on brl~nlf 01 

They wcro tcnlly nlcc to me. I dldn'l Sn fnr, lhc Sullolk Cn;tnly wcllnrc ndolrtccs, Mcann nnyr n fnvornl~lrrt,llng 

1 want to leave there. 1 never kn*w why: nulhorltlcn have only added to her an: would glvc lurmcr lortcr chlldrcn thc 

"I went to anothcr homc and that.: Ruinh and conluslon. 

rlght to lnlormnllon now scnlnl. 

I, 

, .was the bcglnnlng of lhc trauma ..!. In January, l'hc Sullolk Cnunly 818- ~duplcc recurds nomctlrne; arc kcspl 

Tlley wcra whltc. In Iacl, they wcrc [ha tt~orltlcn wrotr In Santo Dnrbnra Clly unllrr tigl~trr control thnn thorc of lor- 

, ones that ankcd welfare why I wan gel- Collcgc wlth conllrmatlon lhnt Chanc 1n.r lostrr clllldrcn. 

ling darkcr. Wellarc told thcm lhnl's hod ncvcr known hcr porcnts. 

wl~cn Ihc race Isnu0 cnmc up - 01cy 

Allur ahc wnn cut off lrcrm fc~rthrr 

"ld b'ocd' I 

Thcn, on Frh. 10. In n lclt-r In rr. Inlor~anllon by wellarc nulhorlllrs In 

well llkcd in that lnmlly!' Iw nwnne to Chaac'n rcquclt for informs- SUII~I~ County. Chntr. on ndvlrc 01 

tlon about hcr persotlnl ltlslory. the AI.M.4, uprote to IIIC NCW Ynrk I3urcnu 

The chlld dldn't know what "Negro". Sullolk Counly Dcpnrtr?rnt a1 Soclnl or Vltnl S~n~ls~lcs and. lor ~III~ llrnt tl~nlmcant, 

but, she wan tnun\d abatll her Scrvlcen shocknl hrr wJth tI~c nstcrtlnn in hcr illc, ob~nln~d a copy of lit-r comrace 

by tho older chlldrcn In the lnmlly that her raclal hackground is all whlte plctc hlrth ccrtllicotc. 

and, 8 Year: 01 agc..wn: trnn:lc!red cxccpt lor an Amcrlcan lndlan grcat 

to anothcr home.. 

On tile document, whlcll is lIIIl.,, 

# . grandmolhcr. ', , wllh 'vnrloun l~nndwrltl~~n acrnwlr. 

'. Tho mla' workor enme lho. ' 

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"Our rrcnrdn Indlcatc." the irttcr o~~~~ in, jn ih,, spncc for tile nlother's 

chUd Lo t'le ofnco ,lo bs plncod 

I ramll~. From L1rcn mid, "lbnt nll'ol your immedlats rncc, n nqulgglt! t1,r.t Chase bcllcvr~ lo 

'forharn (SIC) wcrc whllc wlth the ex- be l),,! tactrr .N'. 

foalcr l~on~os riero blntk. I 

crllllon 01 your matcrnnl grnndmuthrr'a 

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"Fln.lly'tllcy 'come In. Thh couple , ~nottlur who, it IS rrprlml, wla an. nlrt I1 ronrrlvnbly ro~llrl Ire n 'W'. 

cano Is wllh the rucloi workcr. Amcrlcan Jndlin (no trlbr Idcnllllcs- Cl~nne hnn no way 01 knnwlng fur 

"I remember the -lady was real ilon)!' > aurc. 

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don't ~nvlllvc an llnlry, with no nlfjtr mc.rrtnrlrs, c I I fir I I 1 I f 1 .'ill0 I1Jillk.l nW"l~~c ri 

:w, newlrurn hd~y. 

nl~n~il~l lrt his tlr her pnst nhlne." 11111 I I I i n In I r I I Ill* rlll~rr gnrrnln I, 

Snwcllmn the ehlld 1% oldcr - s h ~ shv ~h~t~ks ollttcr ,vt~licfrolj wit11 sill. I~~~vI~II~-I. ~lt~~ll~u! 111y ntf~~pfc~l r~ar~~t~tq IVIIIIIC~!; SII~IIII#I !PI* II 

ltr ntny fl.vc tlvLyj in a vnrlcty i111ps hh~nli~l bs ndoplal tt~pctlirr. unn the 1,1~s1 ~IIIIII! thnl rvrr hap VIIIII they nrr* @I IrIIst r 

mM lor scvcrnl hc(orc frclng "Nnl n lay went hy wtian I wns pc.ncd Is rllr." llrr pnrrtltn anvo lrrr "Ynu ilnn'l ' .v ' 

optd. , ll,llc I dllln'l are a IIIJY rrr fiirl syurslnl ?ere. She hati muslc lessons flnrl. YIIU den't w 

These children have mernnrlas, t)llnk 'That's my hroihcr or nly nml brnc~% on hrr iccth - c!vcrylhln~ t~c grllln~ into ulrctr yl: 

mctlmn very hnd mcmnrles, with ~191~r."' - t111!y e1i1111l pivr kct. 

"~orl~~imtcly, IIIY 11r , 

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,lch the new pnrcnb, md the child, She sn)r hrr ndl~l~tlve pnrrnta wt'rc 

~ Ier lrlrn~d eut to tru 

us1 COlIC. tr~tst supltnttlvc ns stla lookcd lor hrr Inllnrl lhetn!' 

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One such adopllon tmk plncc fnr fi brolbl!r nnd al~fcr. 

city. area women, now flho~t 30, "I hnd to tlnd thcm. lnfanh - they 

w w,s 8% when her parents found should lcnve I1 nt thnl. T~QY ahnull1 

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nnt look hnck. nlli kids who hnve '*If ~U(L.V like livinfi .in 

mctnorlcs ahould hkve *cce*s lo Ilea V C 1 ~ o co rrtc lo niy 

whcre ihclr fantlllc~ arc!' 

"My slstcr and hrothcr and I were ,PrC"f!ffl]l(lrcnts. Mecling 

recrs //re best thin6 ltrnl 

long llme!' 

cvcr hctlytened to me." 

I looethcr lor nlne yqnm - lhsl'a @ llrcn~ 

' ''Kidc who hue Jn~f?WrkS She tells of the sensltlvlly excrclsnl 

buu have 

by her parcnts when they adopted 

hcr. ' 

My shrcr .. -mcy tali me thcy udop~ed me be. 

[,had been 

cause they REALLY wanled me. 

Some pcnplc hnvc chlldrcn they She atma up her advlce In chlldrcn 

dldn't rcnlly want, lhcY enld. They nnd 1~111ll1cs: 

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mode mc Ice1 very spcclal." Shc thinks chlldrm wllhnul mcmo. 

"I dldn't know whsl a glfl was un. rics of utl~sr fnn~lllcshould prnhahly . 

' Ill w parcnu look me homl With leave tlic pwt alone, unlcss thcre Is a 

thctn. $1 had never had a PrCscni. medical renwlr (11 look lor ihc nnlurnt 

Whcn t gnl lhrrc, thcre were three parents. (llcr ndopllve ~Iet~!t, 

llpr backwound unt~i then h'nd in. IIIIIC girts waltin~ lor mc." 

aduptrd nn a bal~y. ha3 no dcrlrc in 

udd cxtrcnre povcrly In her nntu. Thc first vlsllnrr she hm ever hnd try to fie( nthcr purt~ntri). 

- a ICW "lcrrlblc" wccks at tho orphntrnc@ were the pnrcnts S ~ C thinks olncr chlldrcn, wttlt 

dctcn(lon mn(rr - and pn oryhn. whn Came to trike her With them. brutl~~r.4 and s!stcrl~, ~hl)uld IIC 

at s whlch was cantforlahlc but "I1 was ralnlnR lhnt nloht. I adsptwI as n tin11 (hcr llrrcnlv lrlcd. 

.n lonr% nB drcssnl I I and ~ wrlllnc. I wnltcd trut *err nrlt allewcd to lskc t~cr 

Uul also lricludcd were a brolhcr nlld WRIIP~. 1 thoilghl, 'Oh, no. TIICY ll,olhcr and slfilcr). 

slstcr, whom, lor ycam she saw nntn't cornlna.' nut the wcal!fr was 

11y st mqaltlme In thc orphnnngc. so hnd they hnd been dclnyd. 

id ellcr hcr ndnpllnn, not Bl rill. She rcmcmbera Sundnys, supPo 

11 the hrolhcr nnd SISLL'C for swlly the hcsl doy nt the arpl~aiinfie~ 

hnm lookd so lon(r belorn flnal. nnd allllnl: nn tho stcps W~lllnR for 

Incnllng them. 

vlsltorm, "hut nnhody ever cstnc." 

her dFf(ght, the three hnve be Shc rr~ncmbcrs fccllnfi "nahody 

1t1ic frlcnds and have an excctlcnl , wants you." 

elatlnnshlp. 

Shc says. "It wns llkc llvln~ In 

says, "1 think l child rdoptcd. .heaven lo come to my Present par- 

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Third Putat." Resday. a.Unlled Yms lnlernatlanal wln:' l-mma faced by mhml and adopllve parents and tbclr 

star mled the news that the Rhade Island Supreme ldren. LIayd Ehabeih Fasse, Jonrna rltcr, inter- 

CImn .ad rejected tbe plea of a former Knnknkecan who viewed (he tar wemen amd tbe Rhode Islano jndgc whose 

gave up her Illegitlmak dnnghter for adoption 11 years favanble dcclslr was averraled last week. Tbelr storlev 

ago. &ang readers rtspondlng tr the Sunday nrtfeles was faUrw. 

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Fomr Kankakeean loses court bzd to Jind child * 

E a ' Christine ~ndersoi, lormerly uI caring lor her. s~stem ol adopllon must be rclnlned. ern Kentucky Slate and atlcndlng 0.1 don't ~.nt to do anythh,g hpr. m n s lor the clkumstanc= of hcr 

8 8 ~ &;mWmtiwai news "I felt 1 had no other alternative. I und polenUal dismption oI the adop. clures in preparatiun lor enterin): 1y.0 adoption. so that she donn't think 

t t \:s put week. . wa, not woritlng and I had no place tivc hmiiy must be avoided at all nurs*i' trainln# at Jewlsh Ilwpitai in She wants to rind her daughter; I'm a tramp. Children can hurc l3lsr 

Y t Her story WPI p~ckcd up by wire togo." cost." Clncinnnti. ohin. someday. "to see if she is fiettinR hu- im- of Lhcir natural parents. It 

0 %mlm md curfed in a number 01 She called her lather when she The Rhode bland hl~h court Nlnl In the meantime, she don not In. mane treatment and not abused, el. damages them emotionally. Slle 

neuapapcrs and radio broadcasls. found out she was pregnant (her . that mothers may not sue lor Rhodc tend lo try lo lind her dauuhtcr. ther physically, mentally or roctally. nrrdr 10 how tile truth nbout me. 

3; m. ~ er~,n. a. a Lhemb+r 011. mother Is d a d a i d ICY bI.3 rmds in an attempt 10 find 1 " 1 C h Or h i i 

"I sould like lor her parents lo 

o~~~optire 

horn= don., 

2 VC( ~ U graduate. W ~r now a SIU- Dad. If you can just let me comr naturnl childten Put UP lor adoption. But that's stepping around the law. 

out..., need to srr 

know , am a real Dnson. , don,t 

*$dmi at college in KcotucQ. She home for a while and $lay there..." ' The courl sald adoptloo records I'd rather fio thmugh the law. 

is aliVF and. know those people, but I do 

InUl hc kcpl scaled lo remove "the "Society needs In cllnnge. It is 

wcil. 

ha$ ldcd thmwh the Rbale blnnd , llcr latl~cr ald nu. 

them They may not know what in 

bcow to learn something about her She wus under age, and the laws slain of ill~itima~y." slow. somcllmrs. and it's going to "I also want lo aatirly her identity say about me. I don't want la dlsrupl 

ytittie &I. who wlll be 12 on April 17. permitlcd him to slh% the adoption Mrs. Anderson b work in^ at Norlb- Wte a lot of icara. alsb. I want her to understand !lie (heir lives." 

8 She was not trylap to have the P'.Pe" 

p mun rrcords to her, but lo ile did not want me or my baby." 

t Swc could be She says. "You would have to be 

a ?E J llsht lor her -,Oto,= 

see if u her she daughter ~s gettln~ hu. al denland. 17. In I lhe Was mition in a corner: I was lo Un- Rhode Island judge sees problems in changing law 

Lon~held kllefs mid dlonp-sbndln~ laws are The Judge says ilc considered this a good case to b forever, and no contact In the funre is'ln he 

b ;{myre tnunent and 1s not ab~,? or She says she cannot blame her fa- being challcn~ed by odoptees and natural parents. test the guidelines under which mnlidentlallty . nude. Thls is the mntract made wlth the adoptive 

hb baltemI...evcn b she is alive ... she lher lor the pasillon in which sile the chiel judw 01 thc Fpmily Cuurl in Rhnde Is. may he brf~ken. p~nls." 

sop. found herself. hut she thlnks he could iund says. And a change in those laws could Imp. He invitt+i a11 partin to the care - the fiunrdlan lle said the ndoptlve family has a "rlxht in a 

Just as it lmked an if she would have bccn tnorc undcrst~dlnn. "And ardire the way chlldrcn are placed for adoption. hc aupointd to rrprcacnt tho unknown child: the sense or wrlty and not to havc their prlvacs in. 

f t u ~ the , RDode bland S u ~ r m he c I I s r e h e Judge Edward CaiIogV and a former Kanka. adopttre agency md Mrs. Anderson. . vaded." 

Coun ovenurned the mllne of Judge hew I was vulncrablc. The agency Is keenn. Christine Anderson. made the national 

supgcstd 

)'A( the wme time. Ihe mothcr has riven thr 

Edward P. Cnlio~iy. the chiel judge in the business to gel the babies news thb past week because of Mrs. Anderson's 

ol the Fmlb Court in Pmvldence. away lrnm piris." efforts to be lo the gave wency, nlntart the adoutlvc ttnily to see if they up ye* w". and made a life lor her. 

would nblect to a mcetlnC. 

sell. To violate the conlidentlalil~ rules could 

He had ordered that the child's court- She thinks soclety may be chnnglng up nearly I2 years ago. 

appointed guardian be able to seek nw - "1 madc it clear if they hnd any oblcctions. the 

JI few yew ago. there was Mrs. ~ndcrson. who brcnme an unwed mother pPtltion would dismissed,,, said. u.y$t: :~~$~$vemcnt to ha,.e 

out the daughter's adoptive parents, much mom pressure put on n Blrl ns a trrnagcr. had ukcn her ~florla to Judfie Gai- 

Ilowcvrr, the aNcncy a stay his -ds opened. 11 would rguirc ChnnKes in legis. 

to see U they obJc*ed lo a visit fwm who got prqant. lody's cuurt. She wns aakln~ that records he 

order from the Supreme court, and the court 

intion in almost every state in the nation. It would 

!dm. Andemo. 

hfrs. Andcnot~ came to lllln~is and owned to e court.sppolnled fiuardlm for the child jmpardize the mechan~sm for piactng children for 

She wid in a telephone lnlcrview lo Olilvt where she rccclvtrl an asso su he could rind the adoptlve parenw. SIF wanted rutmi to kwP Ihe clOsml. 

Ilc said llte court bellcvfd "lhat the best tntcrcsl adoiltlon' 

lmm Norlhcrn KentucW Slate Uni- cialo 01 arb dc~rce in social work. to ask thew permission lo see her natural dau~ll. or child, the was tlladc, NU^ mxny mothers unuld relessr thclr child :I 

\.cnily. "They Wuld not hnvc had LO She kuan her c;lmpaih% In 1377, tcr. 

tell her I nm herrcal mother." ending up hcfore Judge Gallogly. ruled in hln. Andcrson~s but th" it wns forcver. For all practical purp~ses, the lhey the child. lhelr later lo 

"I did nd try to them that I lfc ruled that a court-~ppolnlcd the Mode bland Suprcnle Court overttjrncd his thCirs ('he Parents'). "If you authorize a mother to scck nut her ehlld 

wuld take mY daughter from them. ~uordlun mtlld contact the dnuuhlcr's dcclslon, hlockin~ the ymardian from llndln~ thu "Thrse consldcraltons were ovcnidlng to any at a later date. ... you havc to evaluate those rights 

"I wu no1 married at the llmc nl adoptlve parents lo seek ~frmisslon xirl for !he natural tnolher. dcsirrs thtt Christine had." aqainsl the other rlghls." 

her birth. and at 17, was in a silu. lor Mrs. Anderson to a1 least see her in a telephone inlcrvlew. Judge Callonly told lie said the mltrt did not clesc the dour. In case llu sold the adtrplivc child has been C l m 

aliM with no rllcrn~tlv~~. MY father dau~htcr. The .fo~rnal. "We had no dellnitlve $uidciin~ ul n,tnpelling rncdical reasons that would be in the "rtabillly and 3 honlc...ln tile vast malorits nf the 

rmnl the adoptlon pawrs. I had no The adopllon nycncy arkni lor a lmm lhr Supreme Court as lo wi~nl would uulhnr k t interest nl the child. 

carer, you have lo prolcrt lllc mother. the parents 

other relatives who wanted lo help stay ol the Judae's order, and twk kc a ludce lo brtsak the scai ol conllden11;lllIy." "I [~rohahly would hare dcvided :a ihc Suprrtnt. and the chlld." 

me keep her. the nlultcr to llle ilhwle Island SU. n ~ judge c said that Mrs. Anderaon had wrltlen C~lurt did," .lu~lee Galltoxly said. 

ilc said. "If public pllllcy cornus lo tire w~nl 

'The adoption axcncy stronltly in. prctnc Court. . . hilll, tcilinll him she wantcfl thl, ~~Pputl~lnltY lo "\\'hilr it rirv c.l~.ar rh:d I'hr~utln~'~ isvr and 4r. WIII~ ~iav in sav lhorr I~IVS sb~~lllrl irr rl'lvarnl. 

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8-Rocky Moin~oin News 

lhurs.. Julv 17, 1975. Denver. Colo. 

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f Cedaredge is home of 'Orphan Voyage' \ 

Adop fees receive help in fracing origins, identities1 

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By FRANCES MELROSE 

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"Prnctlcnlly everyone who has been ndopcd 

wonders nbout hls true bnckground. his 'real' 

fnmlly," &n. I:nl$.KIl~n, herself an adop 

lee, sald in hvcr Wednesday. "It's human 

MIWCLJ wnnt lo know." 

hUss I'dcm, who was born In ,Iklroil and 

adopt$ lwi,ce by the tlmc she wns 2, has spenl 

a li ellme llnd~ng out aboul hcrsclf and helping 

ohr ndoptccs find out nboul Lhcmselvcs. 

Rom her homc in Cednrcdge, she operalu 

"Orphan Voyage." whlch she describes ns n 

'March organlzntlon." Through her impellci 

and lnspirnlion. some 20 orgnnizollm of adop 

1 s have been formed across Ole nallon~ nnd 

dr was In Denver Wcdncsdny lo ollcr sumcs. 

Uons lo a Denver group, Adoplea In Search. 

Wch wnsorganlrrd n few monthsngo. 

The Denver gmup 01 ndults who were ado* 

cd chlldren mct Wednesday IIl~ht at Ule 

homc 01 hlrs. Jeanie Stewart, 15893 E. tlamil. 

ton Place. They ere trying to srcure the 

opcnlng of senled slnle records which mntnin 

dclnlls of lhelr backgrounds nnd lhelr 

ndoptlons. 

"i\S it IS now. we know nothing nboul our 

backgrounds, no1 even medico1 inlormniion," 

saldone of the membem. 

htiss Pnton said It wns much cnsier uhcn she 

kgnn her scnrch more thnn 30 ycars ngo. She 

dscussm her background aad her search freely 

and fronkly. 

"My molher's famlly wouldn'l lcl her keep 

me," shc said. "1 was ndopled by o lamil 

wtlcn I wns nn Wnnl, bul my fosler fnlher died: 

nnd then I was ndopled by Dr. and Mrs. 

lbmns I'nlonol Ypsllnnti, hllch." 

hlis. Palon mnlls lhnl she was given %wi. 

ly, kindness and an exccllenl cducolion in the 

I'alm homc. Sl~c wns grodunlcd lmm the 

Urilvcrsily of Wisconsin in 1932 nnd obtnid n 

muster's dqm! there In cconomies and soclol. 

ogy a year later. In IEIS she corned n mnslcr's 

dcgm In soclnl work from lhc UNvcrslly ol 

uilh her loslcr lnlher, olten Rolng on his medicnl 

rounds wllh hlm. And she hnd at lens1 a 

mrknb!e relolionshlp. wllh her laster mother. 

nut shc alwn wns curlous aboul her rcnl p?r- 

~ntncc. "., . Mi- ..-- Etnn . ,I*. 

In 1'43 she applied to the Probate Courl in 

Uclmlt and was allowed to look at her adopllon 

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"I lcnrned my mothcr's flrsl nnme and sow 

her signalum." she sald. "It wns n thrill." 

Rnnsylunnln. m- 

"I workcd llve ears In child plncinl: 01 llle 

Philadelphln ~hllcf Cuidoncc Cl~n~c nnd qual~. 

Orphan VoyogeSs jwn pPlon.~i~tsorl 

I~rdnsn psychinlrlcmlol workcr," shesold. ''11'3 human llaturc to want lo 

Shr hud n worm and enjoy~~bie rclo~ionshlp 

know." 

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\Vllh lhc scnnl Informalion she had obtn111ed 

Imm the rccor&, hllss Pnton looked up (hc 

recorded in the city d ~mory and hired 

n pnvale dclecllve lo look up nll possible 

relnllves. 

"I urole the possible rclallves nnd finally got 

an ansu'er from nn aunt who had k n on m 

mxhrr's slde in lhe whole episode," she mid: 

'Sr imk me lo sce my mother. who wns 69 

Urn. She wns 22 when I was born. 60 it was 47 

)van. Her molher hnd told her I was dad." 

tkr molhcr lold her the nnrne of her renl fathcr 

--Kitlson -and where he had unrked. 

"I didn'l prm her lor loo much lnlormn. 

Urn" she said. "I1 wns pnlnful for her to lnlk 

abaE it. tIe would hnvc been in his lnlc 1Ds 

Un and I never saw hlm. But lmm the lcads 

she gave mc. I wns able lo learn a lot ahxn 

hrn and it helpcd me lo undersLand m)3ell 

hcclcr." 

TW experience of locnling her oun molher 

cnnched her oun life nnd broughl peace lo lk 

k 10 ycnrs of her mother's lllc. hks I'nlm 

m.d. And nlthough she usually iy addressed as 

hls Pnton, she puts her nnme doun officinlly . 

as hlon.Kll(son. 

"IVc idopted people like lo play nmund uilh 

our names like that," she cxplnhd wit11 a 

mile. 

kkr experlence In locnllng her molher led her 

to make n sludy of ndopld persons in lklr 

&It yenn. Hcsulls of the study, anu,ering 

arh qucslions ns "Did hey want to know Wlr 

Wgrounds? lb~d U~ey tried to find out? How 

had bein adopted influence their lives?" sere 

wuh c i in n book in IW. 

7be book led lo thc publicalion ol a quarterly 

mletlcr. "The Log or Orphnn Voyage," 

uhich discussesprublcmsof sdoptea. 

The roblcm of background inlormullon Is 

med tiose dcnresl lo Mlss Patcm. 

"Ow prcsenl policies concerning ndopiions 

hnve becn eslablished nklrnclcdlg." she said. 

"u~lhout nn). vcrllicnlion or nny nicipation 

of the nnlural parents. Adoplecs Eve had no 

pnrl in lhe cslnbllshmcnl of present sdopllon 

pllcics, no panlclpnllon In nny legislation mn. 

mrning lhemselves. 

"Wc are asking lhnl the records be opened. 

for lhmc of us who want 10 look Into lkm. Wr 

nre no1 all ol one volce, no1 everyone wanls lo 

know the lruth about hlmself, bul Ume who 

don't cure lolook don't hnvcto. 

"Wc arc not nsklng hat lhcsc records be 

opened lo the world in gcncrnl. Wc do wnnl 

lhem avnilablc to the persons whose names nre 

mcnlioned in Ibem, upon the mnluiil). of lhc 

child. 

"hfy llfc didn't reach a clcnr, solid base unUl 

nllcr I had conlnclcd my own molher, rcsalved 

lhnt doubt." hliss Pnlon sold. "I lhink olhers 

slwruld have this opporlunily lo irnpmve Wir 

li,~cscF." 

'Ihr "Reunion File" she has started Is a 

cmss.lndcxed curd file containing infomtion 

about persons who have been adofled and per. 

sons who hove given up children for ndopllon. 

Bg comparing slatlsllc$ she hopes nl limes lo 

k nblc to mulch nalurnl molhers uilh lhcir 

lonpmissirq children. 

Ollc of her lnvorlle stories concern n Colomdo 

"natural" mothcr who mntacled kr lor aid 

in locating her child. 

"We wire able to gcl Lhe information evcntually 

through the ngency which handled the 

ndoption." Mlss Palon relnlcd. "I got thc ngm 

cy lo u~ile lo the daughter, who wat inher ps 

nnd married by then. The daughler hen wrolcher 

molher, nppnrcnlly wllh lhe grcntesl dc- 

U&l, and the mother wenttovlslt ha. 

"It hns been n happy Ullng all around. and 

the foslcr parents hnve been most gracious In I1 

~160."

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HELPS OTHERS SEARCH FOR THEIRS 

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pmrenbmmynmmd an ihm hmlpihmycmn nmver do. Wm Imnadwlmaslhatthay 

mI. Thmv rmfalv aver oat am record. mual . . ba - - vllllna la mccsal lhal. . AtImr ~ an. . ~~. I 

not an lamlre Ithe each olh~r. 

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.':? oullhst ha had bean 8mirchlng lor ' 

melor~mnHm tmld. "Thmnkyoulor 

' noIoMng up.*l found hlm In IQ7Oand 

, lepslhllool hlsnsmm moonafter. 

. pdwcy? ' ' ' ' ' 

8h hmsnone. Fromlhe ra81ot the 

w~rld.yes, but noltrom harownchlld. 

lwy acMddoasn'lsl~naconlrmcllo be 

01v.n awav and Isn't bound bv It. All 

mymolhm;dld was trmslar tigalcur 

tody.tdon'l agram wllh the soclml.wotk 

IMImf~bsfm~Ioadoadop~moa~ncov)- 

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Thmy arm mlmosl Insunnountable. 

Emchslala hssIIsownlmmand they 

atm a mmsmotcompla~lw~ndconlu 

mlon. In no stale dm* mn adoplma hare 

, Ihm llghl I0 Qaln access tolntorrn~llon 

mbol hlscilolns.Throuph a butamu .' 

crsllc mhlmkm, allmr several ysan of 

saarchho.Itoundlha lmmowho 

anmnped-my adopllon. It was lhe onb 

name that had not been atlmrmd In thm 

racordh All1 wanted w u lor hlm IoiwC 

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the Im. oMcr wamrii In tho phola rerloul iamlly medlal problcms~hal her rcccded. She had lananlnmderldnl lhey hrd lroublcd IICI 111 her Ilk: rho comrr 

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Ilaphs below nre Iho mothen or Ihc dauthler should know aboul. now (ha1 dldn'l cverwanl Insee her awln. "lllns hnmclroma prrk.tr~lnsanddi~l~au~hl. 

vouwer womm. Lllllan Lcmm. Mrs. rho war mnrrlcd and had lhnc 01 her ~omrlhlns like I lo31 love." she ssyr llcr mnlher ad Lllllrn rbul the llms 

~)orolhy Mor~m..In?hi&~~ph on own chlldren. Shc~lsowanlcd locrplnln Lsll Srplrrnhr when hrr idaplls she had done Jusl that kcau

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Slarf Pholov~phtf Ken 

Elli~ll 11 u%ed In sclllns 

lnn~lrrd In hh rorh - 

moll rrrrnllt 1.tlna hlq 

om pholosrlrrph .hle he 

gI8ttnl ar #he Delrocd 

rhltmlet in rrbntlr and 

rundown dlmn rho 11. 

lu~t~~ltd our Mnr I4 *I. 

lute on rnnddchl. Dm 

K~nouldldhlmvlIIwlhl~ 

Inus', rtntr on .dopllnn. 

Ilrt4ckdupMrr.Dorothy 

hlspn .I hct hame In 

Totoao. drove lo Uoad 

9 I I or our rmil~. 

hato;sh 

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- .keo i'hs ihte woken met lo, IuI. aha muld lndlals thal she 

Ihc n!rl rlmr I"ou nn m lhs lrnulu ~4 I I atu - sn rmatlon ~~- n muld momedar 

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prrcnls' orsmlmllon. She uvc up her 

Inlanl tan In 1964. "I1 doern'l hurl s:! 

Ins buse I1 happened I J ruts #lo. 

While we, 8s ldopllve prenll, hlve 

Ihe wle rlshl lo ralse our daulhler 10 

mlurlly. re rc~lizc lhal we mn'l 

Facers her for the rcsl al hrr lire. Over 

lhs lrrr lew rcrn we've ilo*ly b m r ..- .. .~ 

ante ihal woman ran~rrhete may lh 

mnderlnslboulourd~u~hlcr - 

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h, r~,r~oh,a. ~ftrti~ 18 rrth hnu.t+~thn 

whn b 

Ron Rtnnrn (Irll)ondahp#~wh,hrr 

RGfil~3il:llrfoundon01hn hr@hhn 

her druihler. too - I 

and may llka lo 

. 

know many lhinss lhal we wid sham 

rllh her wllhoul lhtulcnlnslhcururll~ whrlhcr ahewnnlr lomcel her trown.up 

shc may WAI lo updale cl~lld. Surprirln~ly, one . provlnn - 

Ncwloundland 2 Is quletly ollcrlns 

such a servln nuw. 

Omuse lhe provlnn I: so small and 

Ihc number of lnqulrlcl arc lev, lhe 

Newfoundland Dcp.nmcnl al Swid 

I I 

wmmvnkm~c 

ho 1.1 

10 0111 daushln lo tern& 

Uenilnimknur rnrv wlrdl .nd'ltlur 

lvatsl lro more ~nkln, lhnugh .e don3 '"7 ruiin~ orrrjrnlon. 

U,U.IV rnn.,e~~!~~r h~m ror that. slnro h., The mrlhad ol mmmunlcallan 

ma been mmpieled. But h nn ~lvlyr be 

AU. 3.n" opened lo nrrlre new Infmmallon: I1 

AtlMm(* 

tlnn lhb"4 

Servlccr hmr ken mblc lo csl.blhh I 

palnslmklnl procedure lhal mg lakt 

aveal monlhr. So lar abovl levm adull 

sdoplecs wmllnn to mrel lhclr blrlh 

vlrrs and munsellin( sn,lonr: *hm 

nemssaty. a m~chl~l~lsl Itled lo saqe 

lhclr abllilr lo handle a mcriblc rrlrr. 

Ilon. ~veiumlb. whcn a'blrlh moihcr 

who looked like her. A pll. Rools. 

"llnnor uvr me lhc barkslaund Infur. 

mallon lhrl nnally let me lwk back. She 

loldmc 1 h*dkcn ulth my birll! tnolhrr 

for flrc math%. hly God, she rarcd 

enou~hlo kmpmdllonnr lold me thal I 

hall been In I haby home, 1h.l my 

morhrr had idkn 111 and cuuldn'r krrp 

up lhc paymtnls In #he home. llollar 

lave me myiifr." . 

In rclvrn loan Vnnclune - 1 MI,. 

Morlndcl's urglnl - gave life lo 

Rrcnl Flndrts. I1 muld herante llnnor 

Mowln~krl's lc~ry; she died crrly 11th 

yur. Mn. V~nslonc dcvclnbed I1 It810 a 

nallonll tcunion rcdslly lor adoplccs 

and blllll 101111ve6 an lnarutllon cclllrc 

whcrc they ten lertn llnw in flnd one 

*nother. and an lnlermedirry lhlouth 

which one prlycm r~ulloacly arpmrrt 

Ihc olher wirhoe wrcrkln~ a lilc. 

lhrml Finden' head nfllm lr 1408 I 

Awnue. Vancouver, D.C. 

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C-tt1kll.am1.n 

,wr*rz,uur ;. , 

ruut IIC~HI, 1 . 

Cast Ul~m 6 . 

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Wilh lhe name and any non.ldcnllly. 

have some nfcsuards: lrrincd mun. willr branchel In I4 clller end a IC&ISII~ 1nnlnform.lion avmliablc In lhr ndopllan 

M*nha*lnla.AnnCdtln~ , ~llon should lnlcrvlew bolh p.rlln lo or 1,100 nmmcs - was besun In Van. nle - pbn ol blrlh. mnlhcr'~ ale and 

hdwrmbur. i,, e~plorelhelr prnenl lllcslluallanl. thelr muvcr thrcc yem mso by an ebulllanl mupallon - sn adaplcc can %our such 

~n ~vm~trrntuom 

cmo~lonml~lnn.lhelr molivcslormcel. ndoplec named lorn Vsns~onc. I public r d r .I old phonc brinks, dty 

A-lw An Ill& . . Ins. The rounsellon muld recommend mlddle.agcd mmhcr oflhrec, 

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llrr oedo dircnnrlcs and rrltml ycarhauk1. Thc 

am&.,L(yI 

f ' mulnu a Ieunlon, but should no1 have lccma lo k summed up In s remrlk she search ir vsurlb Ions. ~Ithoug11 some 

IW m 

~nn~a..&h~tu.~loy . lhe ponr In prevenl 11. 

madctoua recenlly:"My~oul Is my soul ares arc e~cepllonml. Gary Cowlry. a 

'. A r~slrymuldaaually pmlCcl mdap and mdopllon shnuld no1 sell my tad rounder of Patent Flndcrr, had lrled or 

= " ;, ~ llvcprmulrom ~ lhme ~ lew blnh pmnlr ~ Inlo slavety. Everyone her m dghl lo hb and on lrom the llmc he was I8 In learn 

n*.wt** . I 

re kno* who'va found oul where lhelr om sense olldenll~y and dlsnlly!' his hlrlh name. Finally. In Ills mid.10~. 

Ovr~lSh* children arc. Knowins lhsl lhcrc'm a She'd lurned about her own blrlh he bemsn to wrile the Orilkh Colvmhla 

UIt*l.l Am#*-- . ' leal chann lhcy an meel lhrm as plrenlc horn the lame Children's AId mtlotney.smenl'l depmtlmml. Aller I8 

cumtb ~nr.. ~ anr%nlns :' rdulls, IhcMrrh prenamisht bldqlhelr Soelcly srrfsl worker who hnndlcd our months. lor rearens lhal wrle never 

hnlrnlrl MnniahUhhO*Onh~ llme Inslead of ltyln: I0 Inltudsdurln( daushler's ndopllon - a warm, perm(* nrldc clur. Mrs. hlowlnrkel was given 

C-Mk(kr tWIdn*rhtrtloml)rt the imrnalure live womm named ~~nor.M~~lnck~I. permi~slm lo rcvnl hls Idmlily. Then, 

Nbawbr*lhll*r hblnhrn 1Id.Y)I WY. Dcyond runnlng I rr~lslty. sdopllon )o?n Vln~!onc diuuvetcd lhat her m l her auggnlian, hc placed a ncwspapc 

*"''Im, 

rmm'4 *'L"lt la 'tCYbrlrl. lsenriel should be prrparcd lo .el as In. 

Adwtirlna irtmrntalmM8raaMMi Umitd. 

nrlural parcnla hhd dlrd long before she ad asklni aboul hlr molhrr's uhrri. 

raa,o.ad,,,,n,bn ,IL,l,A,IO~rIY, ltrmcdiatlcs even whcn only one prrly llled loollnslhcrn. Ye1 MR. M~wintkel lbouU and the very nc~l 

day rmlvrd a 

Y. blplna,~.ac. IV IM( II~.)~I.II~~ has lndklled m.deslre lor rcunlon. For smve hcrcnoush dctallfrom ascnqfllcr phone all from m run1 he'd never 

km4,lrn mu1 ntntr.%a nurnk, Il11:m~ inslance, a munrcllot mishl diwrwlly lo lrark down hnll.htolhcr. a hsll. known. Il'i molhcr was dead. she lold 

c'ls.rlr' ldmd*lh'rdm~d,"** leek oul m blrlh molhcr and dclermlne ~lsIrr.aunls, unclcsmndmuslns. Proplc him. and char wma 1 shock but he dld 

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maiurlly we hoFc'lherc wliibe analnclal 

r~llrlq llsllns the nrmes ol.dull sdop 

Lea and birlh pnrcnls who wan1 lo 

reunilc. This reunlon rclisln should 

Arras Canada, n looser, boldly 

unollldal reunlon %rrlcc has ilterdy 

bloulhllo~clhcr~boull00adoplccssnd 

lhrlr blrlh rchlircs. Rrcnl Flndcn - 

bear only;he adonllrr lamlly's 5urnrmc 

and only tame adapllon orders carq lltc 

blrlh surname. 

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1Vho I Am mnanunl 

on hb molhcr'r muvernmcnl. the *doplivc prenl* snd lo have laem In ldenllfiln~ lnlotm~. mlulon lh11 I rrunlon rcml$!r) tmflks 

Ihc Mtlh mrma. "Oarl~flly the mmpl Ilon. And Vlmu'ier Iwq~t Thamn "we haw nm hnomc h~hlrlllm rnr 

Ad~y lalef Cnwlcy war harlnlln~nd or adopll~~n Is klal, he told uu. Oave. *ha handle, ~dopllnn work ror our wloplcd rhlldfrn unlll lhcl, 19th 

cmklcs wllh hll aunl; he w#r ~ rrln~ 1 nllhoumh ha admlllcd: "I1 Is 1 lcaal flc. IheB.C,ma*cmmenl,r~yr,"Omlc~u~e hl~lhday. Ilwin~ lnvrstrd flnanrt~lly 

hlmrl lellllvc lor lhc flnl llme. "I llnn In #he bloln~kal rcnro!'Ila allado; Is dlmrull lo show." In hcl, IO rar I, and rmollanallr in our rcl~llo!~chlp *I111 

rcmcmhe~ lhlnkln~ th11 I'd fln~lly round xrlbd adopllon 1s belnl "In the n~lurc O.C. atlopllon omclals ireaware, noanc our nlnflcd children, we ire now 1- be 

rnmrone rllh lhe llmc hi1 cycbron or1 mnllanull ~mnlcmcnl" In whlch has ever lrlrd lg do so. . plilml In a newrole.. . naone withcr la 

and rnund law." She lave him a tlnr lhcn~lural~rrnlr renounmlhrlrfi~hlr Mel Smllh'n squmenls amnlncl re.' share lhc qprrf.1 parenlal relallon~hlp 

lhll hall klonled ID hls nts~her. and find Iho adoplln8 plrmls are ~uannlecd unlon rrmlalry rere both lc~~lls~lc snd lhsl hrl lxcn ntabllrl~rd wllh nnolho 

plrlure or her. Ile louked like her, ha theln. We palnld oul lh1l !he chlld emollan~l. Ilc fared lhal even herare who has made no real lnvnlmen~ In lllc 

reII, bul alher Urlh rcl~llrct wrlc nlnrc I. nnl a party lo lhlr ~'rnmenl end adolc~cenls rerc sll~lblo Tor rcunlon. rcatln'ol lhll child." 

sl~rllrd hy the mcmhlmra. Ancr mcel. wondeml whcrc hls rl~hlc ire con. when mmlnr or ,ma, 1.y would mrd Tho hahydllcr ar'umenl 1, answered 

In1 hlm [or lk nlsl llmc, hl, hdr. 

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mean, or lhrulenln~ lhrlr ~doplln ilmhallc. Adoplea arc haunlrd hy lhc 

Commlnlon k k darn on 11s rym ~ppe~rtd 10 ~uqxlse him. "fhnl's the prcnu. Asked If lhll rerc any more lcsr lh11 lhry rere c~lluu~ly abrndoncd 

plhcllc ippr~ch In idoplrer and rclca connpl. Thal'l wh1l rdoplbn b 111 Icrloul thln in .dolnrcnl'r thrrslrnlnr and will k tr)mrd I second llmc, or hy 

lhe MCI. 

~boul....Ilch~saIIlherlJluinyolher I0 lclve home, he rcplled. "No. I gucu lhc ul~lrnrlo hortor lhrl lhcy ate lhc 

McLIm!lh, fwndlnm p;esidenl orlhc chlld has undcr the law - wllh lhc one nol." 

produn or rape or inarl. Thal'r 1 real 

Or~~nlcallan lo Slvn aha Adwllua rxaptlon."Thal 1s. Ihc~doplec,c*cn 18 AI 1 laher or two'roun~ mdoplcd mriblllly. or murrc, bul I1 lends lo 

FImlb. was dcli~hlcd wllh the mmmll in .dull, has no rllhl lo know who hcl~. children. Smllh lured lhrl a reunion obrcurc tho real prlblllly lh11 mml 

1hn'r reparl. A1 the B.C. #orrrnmenl\ Smllh 1rlued lhal O.C. law now pm- rctlllry wnuld allcr hls relallonihip wllh blrlh molhen rere b~llully dcrcnl . 

mnllllullonrl cr~ll 

In the a11rnne)- vldn Iorlhc adoplea wllh I nrlou# need his chlldrcn and dilulc the mnwpl 01 ramen wllh mormous emollon~l and 

tcnernl's drwnmcnl. Smllh lends lo lo know hlr nrlural plrenlr. Anullly, adopllon loalorlflcd~mlerare.Ileclld perhaps nnancld problcms 11 the lime 

lhink In lcr~l terms. Ilc rcordopllon a1 provlnr*l Irw rqulm 1 pelllloner lo Ihc oplnlon of O.C. lrwyer ~lctry.Ccl. they pva up lheir childrm. Cenplc 

n conlnclu~l r~hllonrhlp betnm lhc show the Suwcmc Courl "load nuu" le~urlo. wholold the Family L.wCom like B&I~-@JI&. whmc hu~band 

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The ICiller Who 

' .If Terrorized 

Not since ,Jack the Ripper has a alngle individual caused so 

many nightmares. Dogged police work nailed him at last 

T 

HE LONELY KILLER, cunningly nation's most sopliirticated, police 

carrying out his sexual fanta- forces was frustrated. -&II 

sics by talking women and 

killing them, IS al~ackneyed figure of THE CALL CAME through to the 8th 

chcap thrill movies and crime pulps. . Ho~tiicidc Zone in the Bronx at 1:3o 

Jut in New York City, for more than a.m. on July 19,1976: "Two women 

11 months, he wiu cliilling reality, sllut." JodyJqk~~& 19, 11nd been hit 

Hundreds of thousandr of youn in the Eft thigh. Mo coniprnion,' 

women were terrified, public of# Donna Lauria, 18, H;ns dead. PA man 

cialr were enrsgcd, and one of thc h;ia~fi~~'four shots through the 

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ig111 front window of tllc car as 

Donna cvas opcni~l the door to stcp 

out and go insillc P icr honlc. 

I3allistics found tliat tllc murdcr 

weapon was R .qq-calibcr rcvolvcr. 

'i'his inlortllation was not rclcascd. 

Somebody said that Donna had 

l~nd a fight with tier boy fricntl, who 

was now in Ncw hfcxico. Dcrcctivcs 

flcw to New Mcxico, whcrc, invcstiation 

rcvcalcd, a .44 rcvolvcr had 

ffccn bought rcccnrly, by anotl~cr 

rnan. And this sccond man oncc had 

livcd only six blocks from the 13ronx 

strcct whcrc Donna was killcd. 

Thc ~~icces tvcrc falling into placc. 

But one 

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cssimistic dctcctivc conrmct~tccl, 

' If it's not ourguy, then it's 

a ~>sycho and wc'rc in a lot td trou. 

hle."(A psychopath, killing at whim, 

brcaks thc police pattcrn of looking 

. for tnotivc.) 

At thc rcqucst of thc New York 

: Policc Department, the statc policc 

in Ncw Mcxico scarcl1cd for thc . 4 

Thcy found it. Tllcy tcst-fired it. T 1"' c 

bullcts did not nlatcli thc Donna 

huria bullcts. 

. l'licrc was bad language in the 

squad room.And cvonc wastocomc. 

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No~umhrr,.,, 

killcr hacl nlistakcn Dcnaro, who had 

sl~ol~lder-length hair, for I wo~rtacl. 

I Saturday, Novcmbcr 27, tllc killer 

struck again. jmmn*c.Lotrlino, 18, 

and a iricnd, l&~~nqDiM;~ri, 17, 

wcrc sitting on ]oartnc's front porch 

whcn a ntan walked o and asked 

for directions. 'l'hcn 1 tc p~~llctl a 

gun fronl undcr his coat and ol>cnctl 

fire. 

Miss Lotniao was struck in tllc 

back of the 11ead and is now paralyzcd. 

Donna was woundcd in tlic 

ncck. Policc picked up thrcc 44. 

calibcr $llcll casings at thc sccnc. 

Two months wcnt by bcforc thc 

ncxt attack, and this timc thc killcr's 

aim wn deadly. Cl~ristincFrcund, a 

26-ycar-old sccrctary, was shot to 

dcatliat 12:30a.m., January 30,1977, 

as shc sat with hcr fiancC in a car 

parked in Forest Hills, (Juccns. (He 

war unliurt.) 'Sllcn, just half n block 

from thcrc-and'fivc wccks lstcr, on 

Mardl Bat about 7:jop.m.-Vir inla 

Voskcrichian, a rg-ycar-old Co f umbia 

University studcnt, was shot at 

closc rangc and killcd as slie walkcd 

on I)artn~oulh Strcct. 

Tbc juxtaposition of the two killings 

sccmcd too muclt to bc a co- 

incidence. Two days later, as fcar, 

~l~~~x~~~~~c~,~itll~noticcdat 

thc ripped thc Forcst 1-lills neighbor- '-' 

tinlc, was a virtual rcplay of tl~c food, Ncw York Mayor Abraham 

Lauria killing. At z:3oa.n1. on Octo- ncatnc and City Police Conlrnissionbcr 

23, C&r!.Qc?%, 20, and Me- cr Michael 1. Codd callcd a joint 

tilary...Kccnan, -- 21, wcrc sitting in new confcrcncc to annouricc tller 

pxkcd wron '160th Strcct in Flush- tl~c sarrrc .dq-caliber rcvolvcr ha 

ing, Quccns. Ilcnaro was shot in the killcd three young woracn and thc 

back of thc bead, but survivcd. Miss lonc gunman was srill at large. 

Kccnan was uninjurcd. Policc lntcr The oficials appcalccl for public 

tl~corizcd tliat in thc darkness the I~clp, arld mail and rclcphonc tips 

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began pouring in. llut lxforc tl~c 

could beclicckcduut tltc killerstruc l 

again, tlris time lcavittg a taunting 

note. I.lc lcft it ncar tllc 11odics of 

ValctltitlaSurialli,an t8.ycar-oldcollcgcstudcnt,and 

Alcxandcr Esau, 20, 

R tow-truck o ~crator's helper. The 

killcr l~nd wal \ cd up to the car ill 

wllicli tl~cy wcrc sitttog ant1 opcncd 

fire tl~rougll a closed window.. l'hat 

was at 3 a.m. on Suntlay, April t a 

few blocks froni wllcrc tlic $st 

victim had been slain. I' \ 

'rllrcc clays later, Cllicf of 1)ctcctivcs 

John Kccnan cstablislled a 

unified command under Dcputy Inspcctor 

Titnotlly Doyd, to courdinatc 

tllc scarch for tllc man Kccnan 

brightest and bcst, clcctcd for.lndubbcd 

"Son of Sa1n"-front a cryp- spcctor Dowd's task force. 

tic rcfurcncc in the killer's notc. TIICY answercd tllc tclcol~oncs~ 

and soitcd tips and lookcd'at the 

policc artists' skctcllcs of Sam, Thcy 

Born Jrrne I, 1953, he nrvrr knew drank too mucl~ colfcc and didn't get 

hu real parents. The chiM rum 17 cnougl~ slccp and tl~y 

felt tllc prcsnron~hsoldriltmadoptionpa 

rrriwrc sure build. Tllc tclcplloncs kept 

1151cd and he kcantc Davi f Richard ringing-four calls cvcry minute at 

Bcr&oruitz, son of 'Nar and I'ntrl times. 

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; .' \ ; At tltc bc innin of junc it began 

1 IIeii~ac rq ri~hn, kr.arldikf, andhe . to look goo!. A wqlcr from a Mancrid 

openly at hrrjirnrral. Bj! hr;plr hattan cullc~c had given tllcm a 

.chool Damif ruac having trorrble. tnamc, one of the students, who was a 

'There? al~i~aj~swrnrgrrj~ in class hat natural for Son of Sam. 

ewq~body thitt&s ,i rucird "rays one Thc .guy fitted tllc pllysical dc- 

Jnncr classmate at Colrrnrlris HI, scription. I-lc wns brilliant, articu- 

Schoolit, the Bronx. ';lndDawidruac latc, but also weird, a loner, vcry 

- intcnsc. Hcliad hccn arrcstcd several 

tinics for bank robbery, and convict- 

;HEY CAMF. PROM PRECINCTS across cd once; each casc involvcd tllc usc 

thc fivc boroughs, front the allcys, of a notc and a gun. I-lc took part in 

strcct corners and bars tltat wcrc class discussions of fatnotts murders, 

tllcir hunting grounds. Thcy wcrc sontctirncs lcading tltcn~. Yet wlrcn 

Ncw York City dctectivcs-tllc tl~c.qqkillingscan~cup,l~crctnaincd 

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~trangcly silent. ~x~erts;given hand. The stakeout m;n looked at each 

writing sam les, said he could have other. A detective walked up and 

written the i on of Sam note. Detec: ounded on the front door. After a 

tivcs du deeper. The man was ex- Pew minuter the door opened, and 

ert wit a all types of weapons. He the suspect stobd there blinking 

legan to look really hot. They put sleep from his eyes:The co stared at 

him under' full surveillance,^ The him, then turned and wal E ed away. 

inore they watched, the more certain That was the.bad night. All over 

they became. town, high-priorit suspects had 

Thenon a night toward theendof been under surveil !' ance-and every 

June, he lost his police tail and one was accounted for. The police 

vanished. And that'was the night of hadn't laid a glove on Son of Sam. 

the shooting near the Elephar disco. 

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THE VICT~MS were Ju_dyPlncido, 17,. 

and Sa~orcLu~o, 

20. They were 

shot as t ey sat i'na parked car in Bay- Bcrtorurk Jtirnily ruhrn Dam2 rum 

side, Queens, at 3:20 a.m. on Sun- groruing rip. '81it he war hyperactiue. 

day, June 16. Miss Placido wu hit in The (i& ruould complain he'd hi: ' 

the head, rhoulder and back of the thm w~hou~promcalion. 

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DURINO THE SHOOTINO the bank-rob- 

to one seen near the shootings-and that letter: 

was dressed like a man reen running "Hello from the gutters of N.Y.C. 

. . from the scene. which are filled f~ith dog manure, 

The detectives felt siik. Surveil- vomit, stale wine, urine, and blood. 

lance wos tightened. More men were Hello from the sewers of N.Y.C 

nddcd, staked out around the sus- which swallow up tllesc delicacie; 

pcct's house like guards on a prison when they are waslied awoy by the 

cvall, That's how it was the night of sweeper trucks. Hello from the 

July 31, when word came of another cracks in the sidewalks of N.Y.C. 

shooting. 

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cracks and fecd on !IIC tlricrl blood of 

tllc dead: 

"1)on't tltink bccnusc you l~avcn't 

llcard fro111 [IIIC] for n wllilc that I 

wcnt to slcrp. I a111 still bcrc. I.ikc a 

spirit roaming tile nigl~t. Thirsty, 

Ilungry, scldorn stopping to . rcst; 

anxious to plcasc Satn. 

"PS: J. ll., plcasc inform all dctcctivcs 

working tile cnsc that I wish 

tllcm tllc best of luck. 'Kccp 'cn~ 

digging, drivc on, think positivc, gct 

off your butts, knock on coflins, 

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TI~E ELUSIVF. SON OP SAM struck for 

tllc cigl!tl~ timc 011 July 31, slaying 

Stacy Morkowitz, 20, and wounding 

Robcrt Violantc, also 20, as tllcy sat 

in a car at,2:5o a.m. and watched 

a full moon illuminate Drooklyn's 

Gravcscnd Day. 

Tllc city's nngcr was most pcrsonally 

cxprcssed by Stacy's an uisltcd 

mothcr,NcysaMoskowitz,w 7 ~osaitl: 

'Xn animal like this 11ar to bec;~uglrt. 

I hq~c he suffers for tI1e rcst of his 

life. 

In all, 75 dctcctivcs and 225 uniformed 

co 3 workcd full-timc on tllc 

case; l~un f rcdr nlorc voluntccrcd to 

spcnd tl~cir off-duty llours llcl ing. 

NCW Yorkcrs ovcrwI~cImc 6 spccia1 

police tclcpl~onc lincs. Dozcns of 

tncn pl~oncd to say thcy wcrc tllc 

liuntcd Son of Sam, son~cti~ncs ask. 

ing to bc picked up at a spccific 

addrcss. Squad cars raccd to the sites, 

whcrc no onc waited. 

'As the invcstigaiors laborcd futilely, 

policc patrols cruised parks 

and lovers' lancs, noting liccnsc 

lVI/O 'I'ERHORIZEIJ NElV IDRK 

nc~n~bcr.t of all cars sccn in sclcl~ areas 

aftcr ttiitlnigllt. I'olicc placctl man. 

ncquins in somc parkctl cars to simulate 

coulrlcs: tl~c usc of live decoys 

was considcrcd too dangerous. 

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It1 rg7t Ilarrid ntltitcd in the Arntjt 

The Ikrtagon ducribu hu rcruicr rrcord 

as "urry rorttitre. " Brtt dtrring 

1973, hti ymr in Korea, hh lrttrrl 

changed drastically. The &id toho had 

rrkncd hh narnc "Dotrghhoy Daur" 

rtu~?ched to "Master of ReabSjs " 

-d%wKd 

Who cottld explain theparado.r? CntainlynothhAnn~~ 

btrddiutoho hrard 

him brag abortt dropping acid attd 

poppittg pi/k yet upotue u hrl&re 

brandofchrirrianity thathadnoplace 

fir the common roldicrty pttrsttit~ of 

boozr, rrueanng and girt?. 

Some grotu and lmrn by ntili~aty 

r,.rr~ice. flawid Ber&otui?z went the 

other dircctio~. Ifh lrtlcn hon~r~rrm 

to hearort ofte~tir~rony to dedegmcratiott 

of a trottbled mind 

One fetter felt? of a conversation 

111ith Chnit: "One day nte and Jat~r 

tal&edya knotu, the rrrrtalrtory. Any-. 

hotc~ ruesot to ronrr btg thitt&ing. '.! 

'Xi long as f'vc~ttotun hit~t,"faid a 

jicnd, 'Yrr i had a con/iuion bcttr~mr 

fintasy and reality. 'LNW )it&- 

ON ~ULY '26, David Ilcrkowitz, now 

24 and an "average" mail clcrk, 

walkcd out of thc llronx post oflicc 

wbcrc Ilc'd bccn working, ncvcr to 

rcturn. Tl~c ncwspapcrr were full of 

talk of July 29. (Son of Sam, in his 

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Brcslin Ictter, ltad ltintcd he mi ht ignition key, and sudden1 tltc barstrike 

again on the nnnivcrsary of 'I tis rcls of three guns were I cvclcd at 

first murder.) Witl! a d r ~ net over him. 

Queens nnd tlte llronx an ! parts of "Police. Don't movcl" dctcctivcs 

Hrooklyn, tlrc golice wcrc ho )ing yelled. - 

thc killer woul blundcr into t 1 ,ern "Okay " David Hcrkowitz said 

bcforc he could Itit n ain. Hc didn't. qujcrl "~ou'vc got ~iic." And hc 

Hc waited until t P ~ next c night, smtlc~ -&W1!& 

found a holc in the survcillnncc, and 

shot Stacy Moskowitz nnd Robert THF. UYSTF.R~OUS "Snni" of the Ictters 

Violantc.Tltcpolicematcr~)lanhad appears to have becn a nci hbor, 

failcd. 

Sam Ca564, a frail, grizzlc 4' man. 

But something else had worked. m-dstz had sent tlircntcning let. 

As lnspcctor Dowd had bccn saying tcrs to Carr complainin nbout his 

all along, some sim le detail would dog's howling, and later s S lot the dog 

ti u the -44-kil P er. 'X parking in the Icg with a .q~cnlibcr gun. 

tic E ct, P ' a patrolman said Inter. "You "Sam told me what to do and I did 

can'tgct any more simple than that." it," Bcrkowitz told police. "I had my 

Tcn days after the killing, during orders." Who was Sam? Bcrkowitz 

a check of all cars ticketcd in the raid Sam was at thc moment his 

crime area that evening, co s found neighbor, but "really is a man who 

the car ncar an apartment ! ousc at lived 6000 ycnrs n o. 1 got the mcs- 

35 Pine Street 111 Yonkers, N.Y. . sa cs through 11,is 

Tltrou h a window, detective Ed ki P 

f og. Hc told me to 

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.~igo gknpscd the butt of a machine 

gun protruding [rom a gunny sack, BERKOWtn WAS TAKEN to a hospital 

and an envelope addrcsscd to policc for sychiatric examinations. But, 

and the prcss. . insi 6 cn admitted, it was bnlikcly he 

At the end there was tltc smile. would stand trial or go to jail. For 

Heading for what he apparently when this sick follower of weird 

thou ltt would be a ninth attack and commands be an talkin , dctcctivcs 

final ?I laze of glory-a machinc-gun found thcmsc 4 vcs nutn ! cd beyond *' 

rlaughtcr in a Long Island disco. hate and rage. Unlike the crowds 

thCqctc-he pickcd up a bag carrying that chanted for retribution outside 

the loaded .4 -caliber Bulldog re- thcstntion housc, the veterans of this 

volvcr, walkc 4 out of tlic portto- nigl~tmnrc scascd very quickly 

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that 

rnpltic litter and stneared graffiti of Son of Sam-who had st~ullcd out sir 

ffis filtlty apartment, descended rev- lives and scarred many othersen 

floorsin the elevator, atidgot into would leave them with only the fact 

the crcn~n.colorcd Ford Galaxy that of his awful, random madtiess. Atid 

held thcn~ncltincgun. He turned the the smile. 

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i Enrynne srrml lo I* sr.rrhlng lor ye.;. Thll 10 lhr .qulr.lml bl I l prr 

I I I I d , I o n I lm0 ndaptrr. nvrr age 11. IIr rndnl up 

Rroup ol people llnds It 411 ht81 wrlllng .Imul 10 01 lhnnn wlln applied 

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Impa,sll~lr la 1r.r. their hl.laglrnl lor Inlarm.llon clurln~ 1080 and IP7O. 

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At lhln tlm.. sevm mnl. In l~ln sludy 

were m1111 i&nagrri, 10 wrtr nvrr aie 

Slnre wrll lrlnrr Ale. 1IaI.y'. Imh 

40, md the rrmalndrr 1551 wrrr 

won puhlllhrd. howrver. bdnpllon be~wrcn IO and 40. ~lmosl all 1t.d lvrn 

mgmrlra and rrpl#lfnr# of hlrlh adoplrd Inlnnll. ?ha #o#l of 42 

wrllll~.ln have hnn ,wrlvlng ever. lo llnd 1h.h bla!n#lcll p.r*nll. 20 

Incrramln~ numbrra of rqunln lmm wanled Inlormallon nhulll thclr 

adnplm lor prmlaslan In in llalr herlln#e lor pnnn.1 reason., and two ' 

ndoptlon mnd blrlh rtwrds. 

n.nl.d ih- Inln.m.tlnn lor 1.I 

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Ranna* .lioi.;cr.; h~rth Trl~elloll~ dlsravrr,A lome very 

ctrlllle.lrs wllho~l a court order. rcvrallng I.ra .hut lhols whll had 

u ''%.Id rmrd" lawn In the remalnlnp 

ronlarld the Adnpllon llrg1s1ry. Two. 

1 11aIes ars lhr lubJrrl 01 much drbslc 

1hlrdn.l hl.grnupdld not llnd oul Ihry 

lhrscd~y~. and many .#mCY prrlonnrl wet. adopled unlll pall 11, drlplll the 

lert 1h.1 they were aclspld durlnp an 

w1II be.ccr,*lblr 10adoplen who have rr* whm srrl.1 unrkrrm @mcmur'red 

.doptln# parrnl, lo tell rhlldrm lhr 

! Qor .I1 Involved In ihc adnpllon Irulh. Thlrlv lemtned lho~ wrre 

1 procnl-adnplm. parenla who adapl adoptd from kurrn other lhin lhelr 

, and hlnloglc.l p.ren1. - opnlng tho I.mllln. Trlsellulls rommmll: 7hr 

! rt~otd. may hare a rrry dltrrt Impact penrr.1 reacllan la kina Iold by or 

! on lhrlr pnan.1 llvr.. Apmcln, rhlrh flndln# oul from oulrldr sourrn, 

. have Ir.dlll~n.lly ~~uarantrcd ~qml.11~ In adolrrrenrv nr #dull lllr. 

ronlldmllallly to .I1 parllrr, wlll be war mml palnlul and dl6ttnslnKl' 

i 1.4 wllh rhnllmgn In lhclr rl~hl la Ilr .Inn rzmrnlnn why the adupl- 

/ 

h(F6 hrlr 1nlorm.tlnn prlvale. No one rhost Ih.1 parllrullr llme In lhrlr llvn 

can, 01 rounr, prdlrt rllher lhr lo rmbark an lhdr nunln. The anlwrr. 

Immdlslr or lon#.lcrm re.rllonl lo lor nImo#t 111, &s some 'or1 01 

I 

unncallng rrrotdl, bul everyon. prrnon.1 crlsls. The .rnrrh ww 

1nvolv;d wonder. hnr channn wnuld ptwl~~llaled lot 40 pwple by lhr dralh 

~ll~l~lhelr llvn, their lamllln or their ol one or hnlh adoptlvr parrnl-. Eleven 

were mollr.lnl by ihc lmp#~dlnK hlrth 

%me anlrrr# la 1hr.e Unknown. ol a rhlld. whllc two rere mnllv.led by 

! .re pmvldd In lnoi rboul .dnpllon lmpndlng .dnpllons. Olhrr mlranl 

In Scolland. onr of Ihr lrw mvnlrlrr rere rrcml marr1.p". scp.rnllnnl and 

i wh.rc ,cmrd. ., .v.l.hl. lo .duplen dlvo,c.. . 

over ue 11. Slnrt 1010. Rrolllsh rrrordn As 10 the rcsulls, lor lnlhlhosr who 

havC.61~-n "opm." and John Trlsrllulls. sotqht Inln~m~llon and tho*= who 

urlrl wntkrr, unl#rlmk wanled crunlon. RO prrrrnl had 

11.dlu~r.r who Imhd .Ihdr porlllrr rracllon# ahnu1 lhrlr 

I&# and why. Ilr puhlllhd hls r%prrlmrrs, whllr 10 pcrrcnl wrrr 

allhsr di.~ppalnted or unrrrlnln .Lou1 

In ~lr~lghllorw.rd and 

jlp!I)fi. bmk. -In Se-rrh of Otlgln~." 

Rpqtl3nr bnd Kegan Pmul. London and 

k5102 1013.) 

: . Tr~~lloll~ found 1h.I 

lor lhe l&yr.A 

wh.1 they hsd done. 

Onr Inlrrr#llng chlplrr 11, lhr 

.ludy. ronl.lnlnp o~#g.lllons by .Olr 

ndep~e~s. Is 01 p.c~lr~I.t Inlerrsl. 

Whllr there wa* no mw.1 n,nlnllu# . 

on thr rxnct a ~ I r ddld .br~~ld lrirn 

nhout adopllnn, .I1 agtcrd 1111. 

~nlorm.tlnn nhnuld lx shaml. and thal 

adsplers .Ian had dallvtllr ldrrs 

abnut how lu refer in bc~lh lhrlr 

blologlral pmrrnl# as well .I tho 

Iamllln who .l

, 

,, A*.WIBI~,P~". t i . B , ,. . I ,., 

hahy 

: nlnp 1h.n ,lo, yrlrs -4- 

.no. ma rndnl ihr 1aur.ye.r 

,' itarch lai'hrr nrlur.1 pa,mnlo, mnd w.n~(,lo hdp 

!the, sdnplnm llndlhrln. , 

" On Frldey. Alleup. In, now martlcd and llvln# In 

:' ppild~nri &Ilh I dblld al her own, me1 lha wsmnn 

ah. had lmktd 106 .I1 uvrr lhr ilrls. . 

: ' PllOVlDLNCR-Klm ll$vpi adopltd .I m 

, I "I'm a pll. 01 m~nhm.llow. 110- can I desrrlhc 

. Ilra'All~up lild."Wa hum& c.rh olhrr rl~hl 

.way. 

;, Wr bbL'rrlM. MI ltltd>and tlld !he lmkcd j"01 1Ik1 

me. We IaIhM lor,houri." " 

.I '8 XlllufiIl pr~#ldtnlel lhr Rhd. lalnnd rhaplrrol 

#ha kdopleaLl1*nllonMov~m~nc Amm, a noup 

'. rhlrh'wrkn lo bHn# idoplcd chlldv:n toarlhsr 4th 

1h.b natural rmo. ',r,, * 

I". 

hd&ihi~~lellln#h~r:lory olhrt .doplrrt 

the iroup. 1l.r w.tch,,&~.n In IPf4. man 

all* ,ha had her own bhby:" 

,"."'.' , I wai ;6 lal;&e "Jht illh hhy-an you olbn 

in wllh I tmall biby-lmkln~ Inlo hl! .yea." #he 

-. cr.ld . 

1 ,, r?Allol hdden hasnmed Ithe. veqald mnn.11 

. - . war Ilk. ho kvldlril me .omtlhln# nboul my past. I 

i n.\l+cd he was,lh# only blmd mlallvtt,l'd ever mal. 

:h."I elatled havln~ Ulrm ncary dream*. 1 drrmm 

, Ih.1 thw. wan part I)( rn*'lh.l wu dead 1" rullln 

n d J w , r e l , , .. I . . 

' .i., 

.I > 

1 .. Albup'.;ld her *dapllv, Ismlly nupporlcd 1n.r 

?: , quurllo 1lnd.h-r natural parents. 'My ~dopllv~ 

'. 

. . . I molhcr ha, ktn ndly euprr; ,he .Id. "Bhr know* 

'' . ,h,n.l*,,.rb ... I,',, ..!',..' . 4 

., . lhnl shdo my real molher mnd 1h.1'6 no! #oln# lo 

~.~.. 

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5 i, 

AIISU~ALI~ hir'idbptlri ina1h.r rrmrmkrcd lha 

'natdnl malhrflo'm#ldon name from the ,doptlon 

1. 

'Cpkn. ~otalhu! the t.lltd .very prmn by 1h.l 

km0n 1he.irlrphan lmk 

;: '''lhbydioidmtbunl\ the tom*hrri lhry kllcvcd 

she llvcd, alopplng .I harln ad .nhba I{ ahyoob 

vlcq.~relu~cd la turn over Allsup's r.rotds. sayIn8 

.hl wwld vlolala tho n.lur.1 parmlo' prlvley. 

r The ralt wen1 to US Dlnlrlct Court In 1915. In 

&embr.I917.8 Be adopllon mtmry* .#reed oul 01 

w r t o relt#oe 011 nl All#up's rrrordo ixnpl Iw t b 

arlud nan(as '4 her partnu.. 1 a 1' .. . . 

ALMA 

SEA-

SECTION C 

Adoptees 3' 

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>.-. . _..-__C 

Search For Natural Parents 

Made Difficq For Good Reason 

" 

I~prln~rhlldrm. All the grnupn lnler~lrred wlld 

, they ~ouldlry~~~lvernnv~h Infnrm~llan 101aI. 

llly ihc adnptw. wllhoul dlrvlllnl ldrnlllylnl 

ny NORMAN OUEN IR. 

ral.11~~~ or allu~llan~ rhcrs the rlrcumllancn 

are kwwn by illpanles lorolvtd. 

Mmnynl lhaarhodomml b1ck11tLln Intor. 

An adwad rrmn lmklnc lor hlr mlurel (ur. 

m.lbn.ro imkln# rnlY lor deUllI on lhot n.1. 

oruinM~fnt~nllndtplrnlyoloblUrluln hll 

ralp~r~rns'mrdlcalbtk~mndt. 

Pfi. 

Such 8 requell ~#wlly tome* when ha .dv 

Malmrr utlheraon urpaa 

1. b;lna w lhlnk ah1 gtlllnl mnrrltd and 

P ~ Rauta V sr 11e. 11.i. .I WI~~III~~ 

norel. mu." more mdoplets Jan srrr h.rt 

brrn prnmpld to leek oul lnl~mallan m lhclr 

b ~ round*, h m d la many rarer lo rek wl 

mwlfn srlfilhelrn.tunlparm~. 

Rat I!. ward 1s m rasy. All bur lour rul~ 

Alebma Arlrm. Connecllcut and Knnw: 

, harr~~~~d-r~ord/~w~,~nde~~nln~h~(~~u~n 

&,ltnI.I amrlhln .I dm la .I in al'l~l 

nhrcnlk.lrran&dllllcu~ 

) Uslne* .',uallon 11 ilrnl1.r tolh.L In the mm. 

*lt~of& I. 

. 

R- 4 llcnrlcr In Ulc ~ hta Wl ha. .: 

adopt la^ are guarded by rn ~Vlcl mda sl rmll.: 

dmll.lll)r. 

Olnh crrllflnl" never hare ken pvbllr 

I nmd If ',Ins. 1.1. law glrn munlclpal 

&rkr lh .srrnlm lo delrrmfnl whether 

prwn nerklnl 1 blrth cartlllule ham I ktlU. 

m.t.,Clunl.rnll. 

Genrr.lly. (hat bllr down to 1 pem a bla 

1 dnlv*nrld agmt or atlomcy h lnl lh. avpn 

M. .IloRdwI.Clh~ record. 

Bol In the mar of .dqlrm, nndlnl UI. Mnh 

Cmllh.1 a 111. at the 1-1 lnrn hall n m n 

pllshel e.aclly mlhln;. 

Under vI.Ie sulutr. when chlld Is amid. 

: Lhe orI&l~I blrlh ~crtIlIc.1a 11 8sl w (ha IUI~ 

, hmmv d VlUl SULIUU where mmn sl (he 

NIY"~ MrCnlol pWnll .l.rr laced Nrnn 

d the adoptlnl parent*. pkee . 2ble 

Mrlhremab Ihs samson the mrcerllnratc. 

The wl In.1 ~ollflmle 1, (hen rc,Id and fb 

nevrcrt~Ac~lc~~n~urn~~oih~mun~r~p~c~rr~ 

a~!hophceol blrUl. 

Therrnllcr. Ihs orlslnal crr(l1lCalc of blnh ' 

and Ihe erldrma of .dopllm or Ie~IUmallon 

shall m bc rubjecl e ln~perllon sxcrpl vpon 

wder 01 i pmbaa rmrl or lh. apsrk mu*" 

(he SI.I.IUIUI,~. 

. A",- "".-. 

'sMnrl nl lhrm cams hork,~mklna qU*%ILml 

.lot11 irner.1 lnlnrmsllnn. ,.Id S&tb 

~ d k ~ W l o r C b l I & ~ I ~ 

1 UUlL 

-ydenra am. 1h.11nfwm.llm wasn'l nullnrly 

prorldcd. No. wt are lvln this lo adrlln# 

per~nts rr~~~n; rnnllo?lhe Bmc. 

"Soc1.I wwhrn ilraym had honlup mllovl 

rmlldcnll.llly In he nnmr at fr ln w rotrrc 

the ru~ura~ mo~ler~ ~drmn i.tg. '\nd bt~~e II 

mny lnlorm~llmras g1v.n lolhaadylllnlmuvlc 

eccqr tar#y r##lrl In nn unlorluNlh sllu. 

8Ilonh.dglrtn 1rlhlo.htallhycblld. 

'7 

Ihr prrl ynr, probably brcnus ol the " ms" 

phrmmmon. . , 

- lud t Nnrfrl wld ha .I8 lbwl IPlngvlrlrm a 

y !I. Andrr.8 llomek Olddclordgol mQren 

nqulrlnlrom rdmltesI.11 ycar..o .cIIa~llra 

Ingulrlcl from p.rrnll who were n(s1ln; rhll. 

dr~n(heyhad~lrrnup1ormdoptbn. 

Ah1 l.lW aWllons s ear *re ;r#nld In 

hlalw, but lha r.11 mllorbv ats sdop~ms by 

.. ... .. . (Scc rclnted etory on Pogo 7C) 

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MAYlI,lI1: 

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"Nor W@ 1°C 

. . mu.1 ~hrdmaot 

lhrm lhra#e#ofthc~IunIp1t. 

hlrlh. ~helreduullrml bat. a 

'xed. lhrlr Votk rxptrisncr and lyp of mrh. 

' .n pnlrular l.lmt# or abllllles, and an much 

lnlbmallon at ws nn ilv. concerning lhp rlr. 

NmrUnCeslhlt bm~~hl1hsnalur.l motherand 

lhn chlld up for adop 

Ila5"Ad.ml #.Id. 

.' Iakr w a dullla lo p l 

II. hdra's llamr, rhlch lncludeo realdrn1l.l 

Iaclln lorwired rnolhsrm. 8, wall .I rmnmrlln 

ard a&bpllm iervlcem, lollan a s1mll.r lorrnlf 

mralukln. 

" S h the early '10s re have ken ~lrln~ 

adopun parmll bsck~muld lnlormltlm (m 

: hUhlng) on the nn1ur.l pannl8 and lbl 

lnnu W 1.I11y (lhc adoplrs) " said 81~1~ 

In. 

i dlk~a~dnn.rm~ek allhe hldde~mdh~n, 

. hltlcr Lvcllla polnled ml lhlt rcgursu for In. 

, 1-tlm dun la medlcal ronccrna an ml BU. 

aurllr rnlld kuure d llmll~d Informmum 

. . ~n~bl~a~tNlUnlpmulnb*hmvrt~nd 

mads. 

. "w% "'a rlm 11re1 lhs mlur~l molher mh 

Wf,ln: lnlormallm .bout lhs m ~ l npar: 

n 

.. . mu no lh.1 lhrm'8 "less unknown en myt(orl 

M.bmtll~g~krInrlll~lald. 

. 

,*. p,t.,.. 

. , 

~a .U 1~qC.3, tor grnsn~ intwnutlm. 

! "~l~roms;'.nd:lra uall klndrofni. " 

.om mmeum-. jPLs mtdleSLdl, but 6.n 

dmdMld lhcY&wmnlloI~llolrslhelr 

~lml prtriu'M lhey we Uut a1 .a In." sha 

. 

. UU 

.. Gllkrl Domln~u~,dlrectwofSl. Andre',. o.lA 

Un mbkm c4 ripculion~ Is $ruler In )wnp 

"" 

. . ' Jud~tNnwfrl 

-@%er *encl@a md ludIiI il. Andre') ' 

rmldnldltull rllhamlmr unlmllhamdap 

~n p m t 1s tuty appr~sd &a sttu.llm. 

h e dUrrs Inlerrlcred mn'l Ulk lo. mlnor 

abM U.01 her b.rk:mYrd vnlrll lh~adopurr 

pmll .elu.lly pmenl. 

'7br older lhr *@In. lha morm ~n.lllrs I 

' lhW he Is lo vblovcr lhr rlrrumot.ncnofhl8 

MM pmu, SO ha It mt lmkln 18 much Wau 

uun nndlharn:'Domln~uc.sal!. 

' "d*)wn:cr adaptrs. II ha in in hls 1rrn.ris 

yran. I8 lar rnoraprrocru led wllh hlm#elfand 

m d hr sen*~~~vs lo~dw at lhs~hermldr~l 

' lhe &. And he Im Ilkrly 10 bs lhs me IoDLln, 

rWflully for hll parmu .I oppaed w Mlng, 

forllllmn.tlon. 

InKmnabceCwnl r.ldha.lm . 

UL- ~FI~I on r ~ ~ y~LMI~: 

n c tw 

i wmw. 

m l s mmc In, v. hr8 lo bs 

1 

i 

1, vm2:KLt s1r1.1 in~orm.~m .~auss 

Wr dm'l wan1 w uuir an irrum.tle rrprl. 

'. . ma fwlhemolhrr."~.w~l~.ld. 

'Ma1 chlldmn Ilven up by lholr d e n ara 

, IIle:1Umtr. Th.1 roman, prnbsbly .I *he #eta 

. oldtr. .Il marry and hnisa famlly. Shedam't 

' rmtwmcwskmkln onlhedmr.... 

"If pmms under 11 mmt In. I rqulrs an 

,dull rllh lham and lhrn I rspldn (Le rrpl.. 

Ih) and lry lo alllrllls lh~ anxlel Thrrs'a 

. na as adopted p@rm In lhls world ck dann't 

(mall bdlnr .I lome llma Ih.1 thy bn km 

rl&m b #omrons,"Narkl 0816. 'I have had 

lhlr exprlmta anm.lly. 1 hava an adopled 

thlld 11.8 ad W handled vm, very dallutr , 

1y.- 

ha Lh aduplea rrarhn idullhad. offlclal 

sllncem lha rnallrr cbnp#aomrrh~l. arllc. 

ul~rlybcuu~aof#l.lesululn~orrrnln~~hnhnl. 

Unct. 

"A dld hrn arl of rtdlak I# tho hrlr and 1% 

lllnult dlld 01 hll parenu rho lnlermatry 

ljlr *utulr rnd*. "Any 6u.h chlld, bwn .I d y 

llmr. b lhs hrlr ol hl8 mother. If lha fnlhrr 01. 

chlld t aw1 of vrdbck 8@ll hlrn or her lnw 

mrn lo Paso MC

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Maine sunday Telegram. May 21,1978 

Adoptees : 

hb famll or In uniting acknowledger before 

wmr unieoltha pracoornolorypubllc that he 

I. thrbthLI. wlh child Isthe hrlrnndlegltlmalo 

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but kcaure I goby the statula. 

"I ~UI thc rlotute don give ur roms discrellon 

for unurual clrcumsuncer, but If the IcglrlnWra 

mcar.1 lor w la open (the rrcordr) up lo lhe 

public, thcy wouldn't have parsed the rlolula." 

Nadeau sald. 

In each adopllon. Nmdemu cxplolned. the adop 

Uve paren!#, ar well as the nnlurnl psrcntm ere 

lald that tho Informadon ulll rematn conlldcn. 

UPI. 

.'1tcould goeither way. 1 feel Lnt(o be lnlr to 

everyone, you shouldga b lhntsulule. If several 

poplo come In and dey all glvc the anma 

remn for havlng Ule mords o ened, how can 

vou okay one ond not the o$rr~ ~sdesu 

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'Inouch Ulrv won't rlmoly ooen the rrcordr. 

several or ~lo;@ lntewlew;ds~~d they muld y 

(oun~over e mutual deslrela meet on Lbe pad 

1 

of 

Uls adootee nnd Ule natural parent. And they'll 

&,I foibothadoptecr and parenu. ' 

Cumberland Count Pmbale Judge Dana W. 

Chlldr sald."lf 1 can i;nd the adopllngparentr I 

wlll cnll them and tell Ulem an In ulq hnr k n 

mnde and ark If thcy xnnt Ule Joptd chlld la 

meet (the nntvml parenu). Not In all cases am 

the adopted chlldren nwm 

they were a& Led" 

Child1 mid, and the declrlon whether lo klPth!m 

.- ls"achaleccachndooUn~1amllY -. 

maker." 

~llbeniiomlngus~f siAndrc's raid he wern 

slmllor procedure when he geu lnqulrfer lm 

ado tee: 

wouid get In (ouch with the bldlwlcal &I. 

ants and would make the mnnection ll all mn 

scntsd." Domlngue Idld, adding lhsl mungbe 

Andre's hion lmm thomother. 

So, even If Domlnpelrled lo mnkothsmnnc- 

Ilan, he would have Illtlc more lo goon than Ihe 

Domlngue sald he hnr had ado tces lmm St. 

Andre's come back and u k that dey be natlfied 

Ir Ulclr parenu ever auk a mectlng, but he's 

never had rcqucau fmm both parties. 

But why the SK~CCY? ~h&ldn'l InforrnmUon 

about en adopted person be nvallable lo that 

penon? 

"Cenalnly them b grawlng pressure on the 

pul or wme vey vaml a&plaes lo have open 

mrdr."rald enlo 

"Rcnlly rmthi3%tr id htcnr me. 1 

thlnk the1 cemlnly a person rhoufdn't be precluded 

from maklng a search. but there should 

be dellnits safeguards bull1 In and to do that. I 

thlnk I1 Is incnmknt for ndopllon agenclu lo 

make themrelvr~ availfible la ulk lo (the 

searcher). 

"The reeling 1 get Ir that pmple (adopteo) 

rraned out innoccnily, but me1 wllh such oppo.1. 

tlon ond hortlllty that It b@cnme n cnunda lor 

them."Adnmr sald. 

"Ilhlnkln almost allcnrcr, thedeclrlon loglve 

Up the chlld was the mother's. Cenalnly rha 

mnde It wllh a lot of pain and re rct, but It allow. 

ed her to rlan over again an% have s second 

chonce. 

them may be times she grleva 

eve:'$,""% chlld. It's a rctlled larue In her 

hiugh the movement la open adoption 

mrdt natlonwlde Is gmwln olflclals Involved 

withndopllons ln~ni~emy 

fioyknow ofno 1-1 

orgnnltnllon lo old adopteer In scorch of the persons 

whognvathem birth. 

Netlonally. the most pmmlnent such gmup b 

pmbably thc Adopteel' Ubeny Movcmcnth~ 

clntlon. a New York.bnredorganlutlon wllh rep 

rcsenlotlvea in about hall the rlotca and seveml 

lorclgn counlrles. 

None of the offlec~ cnn be reached by telb 

phone and thero is not ona In mine. 

The oddrcsr or the nnllonnl headqunnerr Is 

ALMA. P.O. Ilax 154, Warhlngton LlridgeSL1Uon, 

New York. N.Y. 

Normon Olsen Is n former Telegrnm surf 

writer who now is exccuflvc dlreclor of he 

Maine Flshcrmcn's Cwpcr~flvc Assn. ,

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'HlREE OTHER AMPTE~ 

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TELL THEIR STORIES 

, In thept, adoptencurlous about their mth about thems~lr~e,: Hero are the "It tm the mast anr re lo us feeling to Mary Lou R.'m mother had died 

orlgln wfm consldered maladjusted and stodes of what throe of them have found know that I could trace my skills lo my following childMrlh, but Mary Lou 

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em0Uo~lly dlrturbed. Today a spate of about their past. Thne storlc. are mMhn - thb Hny, beauttlul woman managed to laate amusin, who was born 

wl~la~c studln tndlwtn that 

- 

it I, erp~dally appmplate now slnce thb b whom I had never known. It gave me a 

probably mom unusual for adopten 

the same day she was, and a half-brother 

no1 to Natlonal Adopp W+k - ar well ar -dmmPletenen."- 

ba interested in their bxkgmunds. Thanksgtvlng. . wlth whom &a ha^ become dose. Pnrt of 

1 

Bq K. echoes similar feellnga. :I her background, howfvm. I, 

''These ffndlntr reinfa the incmslng . Mll shrouded 

Glmd. S.. who found hn mothmaher spent , good prui d my adol-nce in mystery. Mary Lw har a ptece of il& 

demd d adopted dulb for to a four.yar rearch. says. "I had imagined 1oob-q at people's lac=, wng to aee 11 missing from her buttock, and a . 

their Mflh an Issue that ha my mother lo be everything bum Madame a n m looked like me." she says. "When . genaologlst has told hm thal it may mar& 

~ r f ~ a d one d the mast hrntcd 

.. 

Curle toadown.and.wt bum. IO nothing I fldymet my motk l war so W d . l , the spot whne a 

mr:~ovenln of the 70's. 

Nn war 

muld have shodced . me." Actually. lan m hug, and I came fmm M adopHve -, severed.,Mary Lou says, "I have a feeling . . 

Adopt- who have reardnd a am Glenda's mother, whom she located In Des lam* d people who don't louch other that &mewhem I have a Nn bmLPr. 

. ' 

-hlng say that who1 they nnd d m not Molnes, lava, ha 76year-old seamstress. peopl. It war so nlca to have someone . lMng or dead. And I won't stq, looklng . , 

matter. I1 blurt lmporlant that they find the . 

Glenda. who b a dothlng dnlgnm, says, who wanted to hug me beck." 

, until I llnd wt." 

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1. FAUlLVWECN.Y,~~?Sl7 .- 

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meiy does a'klller 'got the worldwide 

attfnuon that "Son of Barn" haa had When it 

happens, wo need to learn 03 much aswe can 

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cbout how ha came to kllL . By . Not M lng tho ldcnuty he 

man COII~~C~~ON 

he turned 

naturni world of mysterious 

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Adopted - Son Seeks.:- 

t 

'Records of 

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.,.*F"-- a&!utlrn lor ace& lo inl~allon ru w 

' ~onan),bumlncNnmlly onlhc m o l 

:.Edl. W. 013697 WYJI~IU 

Ave. 10 know lhs ~ m01 

s 

.;qtu~y thlr ur. pbp~dam advlvd tho Ildb ~ hlt 

' baould bra thc~lu. ur~tor pu~mwr).ruagU 

they m6ed up rt tho 

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Dule -. 

Unlven~ty -1 

:pnler 11 Durhuh . 

:.:.me Hulls wrm.lold Ihrrs thrl allsrde dlroram 

:he a lunlllal lendracy In wms l~dlvldwl. tba, 

tam IMIy medlul mrds would be of 

. 

~(ruan . 

ilr 

mrda on her* 01 

IrmUy, bulllull had nolhlnc In lhI%conruc(Loa. Ha 

dldn'ttvrn know lhe ldtnlluoor orlpllyof hu btoba. 

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?l.dth Us health 01 !ha llllle &I h a l iplart ~ ~ ha 

.&owled&edn@ed lorprlvm In a mrlurrr 

P uioptton, both pnntl undertoo! w st=; 

pm8 01 lha wcr 

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' NP man says adoptee s .should be mature':: when 

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'when an ado tee begins a &arch 

for hls natura parents, lhere are 

wme aUoru he should ask himself, 

3 : aceor& to adopleegearcher .6)pb 

3. . QpeUof North Platte. 

i? O'ikll savs hla &en Anna &rt&[y 

dois people to makh the 

statement, "Hem I am. I'm wilihg 

?. to makc contact with you if your will- 

? hg to make contact wlth me." 

?, . The North Platte pub\lcaUon, which 

A has ken htnunenhl ln at leaat 12 

. reunions, euables aeachen to make 

. t h d v a known without Infringing 

.? on Ux, rlvacy of either party. 

a8visa would.be searchen to be 

mature before they begin their 

4 wrcb. 

'I: '."I Ullnk you have to ask youmlf a 

&. whole bunch of quwUons regarding 

what arc you looklng for. U you're 

,j~,lookIng for another family, forget 

2' - *' @Dell says. 

*$:,?He advises the young adult to think 

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j Mcc before emburking an a search. . 

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: ."I'm not sure when I w u 18 or 21 

&at I could have handled a reunion 

dth my nalural pnrenb." O'Dell 

mys. "Can~pu emotionally hnndle 

U~lstypcof ng." 

In his work wlth his newsletter, 

O'W says he hns dlsmvered lhat females 

witally begin to get curious 

about sarchlng around the ages of 25 

(0835. For men. Its around the age3 of 

w. 

O'Dell flb lnlo those overages. 

"It really stnrted hugging me when 

1 wa, oboul 40 ycnrs old:' he snys. 

The idofit* says his &a,m for 

scarchlng h Ma natural curiaralty. . ' 

"The main Lhing h Lo get Infonna- 

Uon about them-physical characterlaUcs, 

behavlord patterns. what they 

did, what klnd of people they were." 

O'Dell is not Interested In a ''&by 

and lenry" rrunfon. ... 

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' . "lld ' w e cb d~scoss 8eoedob, ' 

family background, chnraclerlstla. 

To me they are important. I have 

thm childrcn and one grandchild. 

There are biological characteristics 

Ulat come from me Umt th& people 

have a rlght to know about." 

' For an adopk or blrth parent b e 

glnning a search, O'Dell ssys there 

are four baslc factors that help In the 

search - date of birth, placeof blrth, 

race and sex. 

O'Dell says hls own information 

about hteblrth molhu-a 17. ear+lP 

college student who becnme I!, volved 

wlth a callege profeuor- plus the in- 

formation an- hls birth 'certiflcale 

could make it e m for him to locate 

her. 

"I could no back In a week and flnd 

her," he sGs. But that approach Just 

might "tear things apart for her. I 

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lust can't do it." 

Inatcad, the searcher prefers to 

rernaln respectfully waiting, ho ing 

lhol one day hls mother, or one ofher 

rclnlives or friends, discoven his 

=arch and rnukw contact wlth him. 

O'Dell warns (bat a search for a 

blrth pnrcnt con be a traumatic expe- 

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A mother in ~aahlngtdn found her Her search was not onesided. "I really dldn't think my daughte~ 

daughter in Californln Uuaugh a Ne- , Her dau hkr DlMe became In ui- Uked me at all. I felt rwlly bad and 

braaka connection. sltlve at lfe age of 11. She md \er told myself to just leave it at that!, 

Mar amt Slder of White Salmon, adoptive parents made contact with However, her hope for a relation- 

&G*-fie~munion with her 1% . the adoptlon a ency wdvlng arlght to shlp wlth her daughter dldn't dle. 

year-old daughter Diane waa the rlvacy with & e Intention of contact-' Mother's Day cnme and went. -- . 

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"direct rwult" of her search ad in g her mother. Although Mrs. Slder "I kept thinlrlng, gn, she might 

ila Opm Arm Qwrlnly, a newslet- also inquired with the a ency, no call. l nalted end walted!' 

ter for adoptees and birth arents effort waa made to put $e two in The anxious mother attemped anubl~shed 

by olDsll. or Nprth touch with each other. 

other contact. She cnlled her daughter 

w. SIder,. who gave bl& at the ed. A searcher who aubts P ~ON same empty feelings. She told herself 

17, mys she had no eholce in the I? tracing their child or parent came to be patlent. -a : . :*,. ,s. 

a!option or her daughter. The dcci- across Sider's ad and Med the . . ' ' 

slon was her family*s.. ,:; mother end daughter. The two bnd a 

reunion liwt Aprll. . - . 

"Therewas an In my Happ endings always happen in 

life all years@ felry des.But not always hreal IEe. 

Whether she wri8 &Ive Or dead. That "It was kind of hard." Mn. Slder 

mid ~ ~ to be e filled." d Mrs. Sider malls. "She grew up in such a dlf. 

says of her feelings. ferent world Urn I'm fmm. 

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She rrcaUs that, at the Ume, no one 

her ulth the Idea that she .*I wt thonght &eld bog eafh other 

to his unknown mother . 

hatte. - Then laat March. the dr&e hap one day to talk but hung up with the .. . . _. . 

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dght able to kee her babE In- a d old onto eoch other. No word3 

stead, 'she says, was bad. wpuld be necessary and love would 

gered" to give up her child by justnow!. 

penomel at the malemlty home. Inatead, she says, the rmnlon was a 

"I'm sure I would hah Lent the delicate md sensltlve event. - .- - . . . -. --. 

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ehiid;~Itw& kmbly dlfndt Lbr me "It war a blg shak for her ... nl- yean, Mn. Sldcr says she qu, tns 

My highest regnrds, ., 

to slgn the a rs." she says. The though I've known that I've loved her the rl tnw of those who push for M 

Your Child . 

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wont part o g ving up her baby, she for years," Mrs. Slder says. She snys unw mother b glve up her chlld. 

/ilqdnted from Oprn Annr Quarterly) 

adds, waa not howlng where or how If she had to do It over, she would ap "If the people on the other end of , 

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pmach the reunion differently. 

$'flm1t-L6~ .-I werJr filrad 

her chlld was. this only hew what they do to those. J..--. -. 0- ,'r)Es; 

"It -. wn. .- Lno . . much .- -.. all -. st -. once." . -. LnvolVed!' 

wr at YOU. I just knew I'd Mer a vlsit to her daughter's home - 

8$ her and never stop loaklng. in Aprll, Mrs. Slder said she came ;:; 

There were so many emotions." home dmined. 

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doplea in the United States 

now number in the millions, 

and a recent spate ol publick 

ty about adoption has made 

many Americans feel more at home 

with the sub)ed. Still, plenty of parents 

- and the children who 

come who to ive wlth them -. mntlnue to 

experience pmbiems for which they 

lee1 unprepared. . .:. "..-..: . ~ i. ' 

Some live million Amerlaris arecurrently 

rqllr(ered as . hacln been 

adopted., acmrding to -re&! .rough 

estimata horn the; Government. 

Thou a& bn b no longer viewed 

with t f e cu r8' dty it used to amuw, for 

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tion, "Did f mme from your tummyl': 

Clare's sunnesred answer ir "You came 

lmm a mzher's tummy, but I didn't 

become your mother until ahenvard." 

Research has proven, she adds, that 

"it's not always what parents say that's 

mod Important In the early years but 

rather thc emotional environment ahd 

lone in which they sa It." 

. Aher a young chid. knows he's I 

adopted and is slruggling to undersand 

why, Its nor uncommon for him 

to &I agalnsl his ..adoptive parents. 

:'Most children, birth and adopted, at 

some point say they hate their parents 

and are goin to run away:' Clore explains 

~dds$urle Rynn, director of 

,the North Amcrkan Coundl on Adop 

table Children, "ll's very upsettin but 

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the people who adopt and (hechildren parentsmu not overreact. instea!, 

who are adopted there are sill man al what's maklng the: d~ild fca I. 

issues that need to be addred .:$.. ::~:- ........ 

"Eve. !he adoptlon'ls yean in the 

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maki the parent will be tmubled . 

with quarlons of hein# a p ,~arent l 0.;) .&apt tD mnke . 

or being able to love t c c lid, states . &e adopd &i[d feel 

Ellen Clore, director of the nurse pndk 

tionw "ID ram at tho University O! . 

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Virgi: "80 bqan studyin Ule mm -me ooergmteddve 

piex I...& of adopted chi k drcn and 

their parenis before she adopted a ...... 

child herself. She believes that Mlcr .. . . . . . . . . 

awareness about potential pltlails Uiually ihc child wnnl's reassurance. 

among people who are going to adopt 7hc parents can say, 'You ore my child, 

on kter prepare ihem,br lhe ex-. I am your parenl. M5 . . work . . out the 

perience ol parenthood .?.- . - . pmblm."! .........., .;: ,..: - .. ?. 

Like all new parents, Individuals . A% dddhood pmgresw, other 

ivho a& expalenceleelhgrofdreu hurdiw remaln for parents and child. 

and ins f qwq in ihelr new maternal In an elfort to make thc adopt& chlld 

and paternal mla, ar well ar hurdles feel wanted - qwciatly in a family 

more wrticular to lhelr situations. wl~crc U~erc are also birth children 

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~n; ol the most troubluome issuer some parznts CM bmme overpmtec 

for menls durln~ the child's early I live of the adopted lamily memhr. ib 11 

ear; is how and ihen to tdl the chiid lng XI will make him lee1 that much 

ie Is adopted andxherward, how to morc diltcrent, Clorc sap. .. 

wpc wlth his pnuibie feelingsol mnfw .: In the teen years, most parents lortily 

sion and annec "I tell oarents that lhcmseives aaalnsl lhc adopted child's 

bdore they ccn answer a )kun# child's 

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request lor 6nuae lnformatlon about 

queslons lhey mua mma to terms birth parents. Whilc Clore believes the 

with their own leelinas:' Clore says. child should be encouraged to wait un 

I "Do thw feel ............... threatk-ied bv kina 1 111 aher the acneral tur~%oil ol adoler II 

adoptive parents7 Do they feel lealous);; rrnce to lid his birth parents, witlldisaopmval 

or superiority toward the hoidln& lnlorn~atlon even bcfore this 

I hlrthinoth~r 

I and khcr7" 

alii5c czn ur~dcimir~e the longderm 

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at- advim not to wait until a adootive relalionahlo. "More than ever 11 

I child asks where he came from beiorc tl~e'~arents need io be honest With 

breakinn the news " ~rin~ up the word I tl~eir child and give It~lormalion Ii they 

I adootio~ so the child &.never re I know It: if they don't know, they must II 

nlehber not hearing it.!' she states say so. The pirent at thlr polnl Is leek 

"Before the a 015, nddrm IIIC /sue, lr~g very tt~renlened," siys Clo~e. "and 

bccaur n ch f" Id nds 

oarents - not .-. leachen . -~. or lricnds. Trust the child will leave are extremel~ slim. I: 

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murr be prrserved:' Kids wllo hear it that ndoptive parenu arc the tnie pzy. ' 

from --.- outsiden muid be devnrlatcd. 

chological parents." Rynn advi~ I 

In response lo n preschooler's quer I adoptive ~~rcntstoh"vcrysupportive 

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I RM,, tr ,kc rw,,,~rb,~O prlvue rci~~lorces the child's feeling th;\l he 

Ute ot Pam~s 

I&- tio~lul. -. I dot.lrit belot,> . v 1: 

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to hear it froin I needs lo bc reminded that thect~anca I

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Clear tonight, 40s. 

Sump tomorrow. 

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Vol. D. No. 109 Now York, Mondny, Octobor 31, 1077 Print 20nna s 

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Dullno tho pnsl clphl monlhr. I havo ro. orlglns. Somalimos no1 knowlnp cnn soom lcw. Thclr alnllr hnvc n~ncnlo~lcnl 

search for their parents I 

akllll: 

celvcd hundrcds 01 lcltars Itom odoplod- unb~nrnblc. As otlo loon snld: "I hnlo bolrnp llmy keep lllos bn ndoplocs nnd nntulol 

and nonndoplod-tondnrs In lcaponro lo. luld.l'm no1 old Chouoh lo know:' pnrcnla wllh.lho hopo ol mnlchlnp them. 

my nrllclo In SCvEIlTEEII. "My Scllch lo1 Why dld IhmY ulvc ma up? 

Wham do Illnd? 

My Rools" [Match, 1@77), oboul n taen.ogn IJ's hord lo ~tndc~alond haw n molhor 'hlnny ndoplccs nto nlrnld 01 whom Ihoy'II 

adoplao'~ s~nrch lo, hor nnlutol molncr, cou~dglvo up hor bnby. ollen, lhn kldr lhlnk llnd~or 01 bclng lulncd nwny by lhosc lhcy 

Whnl clruck mn most omul (here lcllen lhc,b wns aomallilng wrong wllh I11cm. A locolo. Dul lhcy usunlly llnd a vory nlco. 

40s how dosporololy ndoploos ncod to lrcrlucnl quosllon: "Wos I Illaglllmnlo?" atdlnnry wornnn wAo.ls mn~rlcd nnd hnr 0 

,ham lhofr lcollngs and how lsolalod lhoy !lost odoplcos' nnllllnl molhor~ aro hmlly 01 hcr own. I1 the malhor Ims no1 hld. 

lor1 whcn llnoy don'l. For although lhn mn. yotino. unmnrrlnd womcn who could no1 don lho cnrllcr blrlh, shn moy bo glad lo 

@rlly spoko lcndcrly aboul lhclr odoplba p~tvldn d homo lor tholt bnblcs, who, nltct hcnr lrom lho ndoplco. Bul iI alto hns kopl 

pnranls, mony ol lheso lama people woro a i!alnlul doclrlon. e~rnnged lor tho bnby 1111s bnlnlul'eoctql lo~horsoll, oho's likely lo 

alrold lo dlscuaa thoso leollngs wilh lhom. lo, o p~ncod Wllh 0 sullablo lamlly. hcillnle end lholt.orrango n prlvnla mccl. 

Soma hnrd.1o.nnswc.r quosllom woro to. ,..om@ 

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of Illo lollor wrltarr wcro lmmar. Ing. FCC molheo roluao lo moo1 lha adop. 

paoled In avcry lcllor, and lhcse arn tho llcp molhoro who hod roconlly olvcn up loo-only nbolrl.ono in n hundrcd. 

ono I'vo choson lo wrlln oboul hero. lhil I bnblos lor ndopllon. Thoy wrolo 01 tho Ulfon tho nnll rol mothor Is rcllrclnnt lo 

Who mrn I? 

n~lny, lhcy'd pono lhrounh bccnuso ol 111" rovoal \he nome~ol Iho lolhcr. And he may 

Evoryona nrks "Wlto Am I?",'-but pnr- lo:r lhcy loll lor lhnlr chlld. Moal hopcd bo nmblvolonl 2nbouI heallno lrom tho 

.lculnrfq locn.ngcrs, rlnco ndobamnco Is 

ndcplao. I!: ~2). 12r orsm?lc. lcrf a 

lha limo lor pulllnp lopclhcr an ldcntlly. 

linanclnl clnlm will bo mndo on him. 

And Ihls Is nn ospoclolly hard qwslfon 101 

Whnl heppnsnlhrrrbalon7 

odopled klds lo enswar, slncc lhoy ollcn 

Adoplccs whr:hnvo bc~n rounlted wilh 

know nolhlng oboul lholr bockground. ono or more p:+ronls soy lhlngs Pko: "I 

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Ono ndoploc wrolo: '.I cnn'l hslp won mqlher. Evon lholl~h I don'l know who slln leal bollor nbout mysoll." "I1 hns clwngcd 

dcrlnn. whon I meel somoono. If Ihls pornon Istot wllnt aho'n Ilks. I lovo her bncnuso my lllo!' "My mlrd Is now ol eaao." 

could bo my brolhcr or tlslor." lo. me aha's my only molhor." Olhets .I lhhk 1l'asnlp.lo nny lhol you llnd no1 

Even lhough ndoplcos ronlllc they oro wFled lo thank lhclr molhors lor givlno so much n pnranl ns you llnd yoursoll. 1 

tho sons nnd doughlorn 01 their adoplbe th~m o OtOnl lit0 wllh lholt ndopllvn wrontr. don'l know of nny odoplco who Is sorry aha 

,parcnls. I lhoy won1 lo, lhoy ahould bn nbln Hm do I baoln In warch7 has tearehod-no tnallcr whom she fonds. 

lo know who 1ho1r orlplnnl parents ara loo. k,ot mnny ronsons. Ira hnrd lo llguro ou~ Everyono need. lo know 1110 iru~h. How. 

Who #m they? Wl!nro lo slnrl loohlno. You cnn'l scnrch ovcr, bo pro~nrrd lor n locllng 01 loldown 

A lo1 ol ndoplces lhlnk oboul theft nnlurnl wllhoul a hnmo, whlch mas1 adoplous don'l nltcnmrd. Nnlurul pnrcnls nro lnvobcd in 

porcnls whcn lhoy look in lho mltror, won- hqo. Rocords or0 logolly sonlod in all bul lholr om 

llvci. They ollon lcol pullly nbool 

derlng whoso cycs lhoy hove, moss color Wo slolos-Alnbama nnd Knnsns-and tho ndoploc-?and ovon tho odoplivo par. 

01 hell, whoso noso, whoso body we. . ndopl~on opcnclos p~vo only dcscrlplions onls:And (ha odopten llnd~lhnl she has not 

PI Pnronls, no1 ldonl8lflng magically chsnpcd bul la sllll lhn satno 

Inlormollon. Many odop- pcrson wllh tho snmo problems, olthough 

'1 don't know any adoptee IIva paranls dcny havlnp tho iwnlon b lfikcly lo cnoblu hot lo don1 

101% lnlormnllon, nnd ndop wllh lhcm bcllcr. 

who's SOW she ~eatdwd- loon nro ofton nfrold IO nsk MOSI odoplnes do not loci thnl ihc 

no mafter he f i ~ 

!I'm htll nnywny. womnn lllcy lind Is lhclr molhcr, bul rnll~cr 

Whcn nn ndoplcc Is n vory np~clnl lrlcnd. They olso lccl closor 

olghloon, a110 cnn pallllnn to lholr ndoplivn pnrcnlo becnvso lhoy 

All klds nl onn limo or nnolhcr prclcnd lhc courl lor llcr lccorda In tho slnlo wt~ero know lhclo nro no moro scciols. 

that ihcy'to ndoplnd. Ihn! ~llcfr ten1 paronla her ndopllon wns mado llnal. I1 ilne ludo* 01 courso. :n,,l every ndoplac has lo 

RIO roynlly mho wlll suddonlf aDPcn1 nnd lcols iho hus SllnWn "flood cnII1o;' hc will ~cnrcll lor ho* nnltrrnl palnnts, but I ballavn 

clnlm Ihom. Oul tho ndoplen I3 nOl ImnOln- open hor lllo. This chnnncl cnn bo rrpon you hnvo tho tlghl lo know your origins 11 

Ing-aim rcnlly docs havo olhor pnrcnll. nivc-and docs nOl olwnys work. Tho bcsl yo11 wnnl lo. As on0 lccn wrolo: -1 nced my 

And thouoh sho mny drcnm lhry hnvo royol roula Is ll~rour~h on0 01 1110 mnny odoplco poll in ordcr to linlnh gtowlng up." 

blood. sho nlso worrloa lhal lhey may 1101 ccnrch oloups ntound 1110 counlry: ALMA ,r,k,n ,,,en,s ..r*,r. U

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~dirnr'i.ne!oq Collnan Dvdqcon werkod ot 0111,rvq 1111131,~trr. ~IIPI~II~R II;I~ s!~rr.*r-tI 

o n:cllS Irlrnrl cr~ll und o.* lor luIt ,l,mm9~ oun ro 0.1 r:tsct~~~c~td III~I pt!opl,! wt~111.1 It:! 

f 1 1 I 

P lllr ,rn,it,rn rich,,,, rlln I~II~.,,,~~ or~ltln., lrltlrr V,IIII~IH 10 111'1!1 111o II I ~nnvlnrcd 

CIX? 1Vkt-w IIV ~IV, 181 15, p11t1n# tt~y 

lrlr,,,l ll,rrw ,&, ,., nr,rl rrr,I 

011 noma,, do~o~ nnd plocn 1:ow b*on 1 1 1 9 I " " " 1 ' 1 I 

I .,r,ry nr ,r,rr I ,,,, chnn~ed 10 protad tlrn l>rlrocy ol lha *tit'v' nnl'lMy v'lL' l:"lllx ' "" l"lll'd 

wrth 1110 UII,!II 01 l~~l~~l~lu 

me ,lr~fronr: r,rtn~ler ol 11:o 

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toc:tl~r.r itre ~IVLIC. 

.. . IJvrs?tt~c~il In ilngbody. . . '. 

~-?rnc ll!tctl 0: 1~~x1 181 k111. l'l+l!: trm \:?.; 

."I1 LWl EI IJ I suddmli rol IL*. clcrd At 21. sho tlrld E nlorn ~r~oti~ro allllu~lo ber u:lclc. I tol~~. i:lm rlle Ir:~r~~crl I:!?! 

ldra 19 ro looklnn fur my wrutcl p?lcatl cbml llcr n:to!nil mlVler "I no lont.a 

lo CXPI:~I~I (I ~IIICC nlv rlscn wnrr born nnrlle a1 blrlh. Der molhcf 9 nornc on0 n her. ! . . . 

blnnrl lhey *err bath waaty auwns alld 5x1111 nwry lro~lr UI@ ndonuon nr,cncy '711en I lold her I'd bccn lcuk:~ri! 1.rr 

mnac ilely.nl A's III ~llhil I WL~ 

nl*v11~9 Prr~nd!nl: a PC~SIIIIRIIW sxelcn nna pnv?~ S?ICIC lor qullr o lonp. IL-. wr,:. :r.e 

' n lllllc clunlxy and dllo'l:cnrr'oMul 

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Inl o~xnl~llnn of hcr lietunl Darcnch v~no v;.a.s wry ltllfnrtnnl tn otr. I lcbl llcr 

Mhml ' ' ' 

SICDll;lnle hnd n EDO~ 

brzc of Illformnuon Ulnl I'd told qullc n 1"s llcl to c"l kcr 

"I'm 1101 rurc IY I trll inferlor, bul i frum vinlch lo w~rrk. . a. ... Iii~~slc w Inut 110br~ly WIIIII~ knovr c:tc r:.?l 

cemlnly lcll oul ol plarc" . . . . Tho nlmr rulxtnnllvc dnlrl on her -:Is1 rrnrnn why I a'nr. Ilyln): to !lad 1.11~ 

At eqr I4 cne dl!*n~crrrl n plcce 01 hlslnry r~!ll~tcd lo ner nlntht!rg Crnuler. r6!r?nn. 

plprr lltnt f~~rtncrro 

alrnntenlrncnL She mrw 11c nno vdur.fer~ r~111n urjlcul- "Flrlolly I lnld llcr lhnr my rzlrrr- a! 

h'lt nl 111c vrtlir llmr Prnvldr4 o SII~~III. turc nrnlrrr Irmn n Srrtull mldw~:;lrrn b1111t nad ~.CII i.llldn ,\tin Uclt.rzfir. 

an1 clue lo her prut. On 11 wn? n'ntlen: cnllcge and lricd lo find flu nllme on on There nns n aend slicnce lor u rntn!l!c

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I.. . OP.D ver* TIP,,^ I!(.. s,~L.I,. Ilrn*~ nln~ Icnln lhc ldenllly of lllclr 1121. n colllplcte sll:lnp.rr. 

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Columble Dally Trlbune, Colurnbla, Mo., 

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Dr. Waft Menninger 

In .~. rcsmnsc lo a recent column. I hnvc 

me~veJ n gmd mnny le~tcn lrom adop< 

cd chlldrc~+now ,grown up-wonderlng 

abul the search lor their mls. Samc 

samplcs: 

Ilenr Dr. hlcnnlngcr, I havc bccn read. 

Ing wllh much lnlercst your column on 

sdopllon. I also was odopled and not (old 

aboul II unlll lhcagr of 14, when Iwo oldcr 

drls "lipped me on." 

Snooping, I found my adopllon papers. 

h'ccdlcss lo my, I was vcry much mlxcd 

up nnd hurl. I know my rcal molher'i and 

Ialher's nnmcr but no more. 

I wrote lo ihc adopllon agency where I 

mas plnccd and a4cd lor lnlormnllon 01 

my pnmnls' blrlhploccs. But It dl*. 

morrgcd ony acllon on my porl and 

nauldn'l lcll mc anylhlng. They snld my 

mnlher ond lather were never morrled, 

and he dldn'l know ol her prcflancy. 

At Ilral, ol lhal young age. I was hlller, 

Ihlnklng,"II my molher dldn'l Ilkc me any 

more than lo give me sway, I dldn'l eve 

*on1 lo see hcr." As I grew older-l am 

41-1 rcollccd It was a dinrran back (hen 

loran unwcd blrl to gcl p6gnanl; and she ' 

had done what she had lo do. 

I do lhlnk lhal anyone who gave up a 

baby woultl lire In agony knowln~ lhnl 

wmcwhere In the world rhe had a chlld 

and grandchlldmn. II havc three boys.) 

Do you lhlnk I should leave well cnough 

alone? I wouldn't won1 lo cnusc any 

lroublc. Do you lhlnk my molhcr would 

wml lo hcnr from mc, provldlng I would 

be lucky +nough lo llnd her? Thank you. 

hfn. n1.o. 

Dear Dr. hlcnnlngcr, I'm lnlc!cstcd in 

wklng oul my oslursl nrolhcr and would 

Uke any lnlonnallon or sul(l(c~llons. I'm 

now B ycnm old, am co~lcnlcdly and 

comforpbly married and havc two small 

boys. 

hly pdrcnls havealways bccn lovlng and 

open ~lhout my bclng adopted and havc 

made me lccl speclnl because ol It. nu1 

I'vc always bccn curlous abul my nalural 

pnrenls' hnckgroundr. 

Inlllnlly, I'd slmply like lo mnke conlicl 

nilh my molhcr, perhaps lhrough n mlddlc 

person. If shc dccllncs lnlcresl In 

mcc1ln.q mc, lhnl will cnd my "scorch." I 

hoQe It won't hnppcn tho1 nay. ol course. 

I'vc rend nrllclcs hy Eda LcShnn nnd 

olhcrs, largely dlscounglng such 

scnrchcs lor nalurnl porcnls or chlldrcn. I ' 

don'l 'want lo Intrude an)uhcre I1 my 

nalurnl mother docsn'l lccl lncllncd to 

make conlncl. 

I've chcckcd wllh (he local counly courl 

house nnd have hcen told ihal Ihc records 

are sealed by stole low. Is lhcrc any way I 

con procccd? Thnnk you. C.S. 

One olhcr odoplee wrolc of her anger nl 

being denled ll~e up rlunily lo explore 

her rmts knusc o?n slole lnw whlch 

senled the rcmrds. Shc ranlcdlo know the 

Inlormollon lor lncdlcal 0s well ns person. 

nl reasons. She lndlcsled n wllllngness lo 

murk wllh the courl so llre blrtIrparcnl?r' 

ILlcstylc would not be harmed. 

Should rcllcnough be lell alone? Rene 

lions lo that qucsllon ore ccrtnln lo be 

mlxcd. Previously I haw shared nn lm. 

passloncd leltcr from a blrthparcnl. Llndn 

Shl Icy. win did won1 lo know nbout tlre 

chlrd shcgnvc nwny lor adopllon. 

llow should you proctxd. II you dccldcd 

lo do m? The seorch lor blrlhpnrcnls 

slrould be done wlllr cnre and tact, rllh 

respct lor the liosslblc rcluclnnce ol the 

blrlhpnrcnls to encounlcr you. 

If slymlcd. you may llnd suppurl and 

lurlher suggcsllons by conlocllng one 01 

lhc nnlinnnl orgnnlznllons ol blrllrpnrenls 

.and ndoplees. Two send out, mgulnrly. 

lnlormalional ' ncwslellers: . OrpllOn 

Voynge. Cedaredge, Colo. 8l4lJ Venn 

Pnlon.KII(Jonl; Concerned Unlled Birth. 

parents. Inc.. P.O. Boa 573. hllllor?. hlnss. 

01757 (Lee Cnmplxll, prcsldenll

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Ir mne 8% ndnpttd'wr iay In * 

Illinas nttl \Clscmlln .lono. lvr 

are a non.pt~l11 nrg.n~ullm s1111 ,. 

'.nlunlcrr unrkrrs 1\11 procrrds 

Itonl #he ~>rlce 01 1111s nlagatlne. 

Ilr trrltlnll~n ire and ihc adr 11 

lwl bark lnlu It* orpnniw)~ou lo 

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;iR:STIKACOODXOUC:1 '":is;;, i i;;ve to 

feel :&>c;c~. T;;cj. oon'i un. spocc;rn,-..,, 

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A 'SUCCCSS~U~ search 10: 'Ccrst;i,;d what it's ":tc to be. , . . . - ,.help. couragcd Heradoptive ltcr in hc: /atkcre.;- scax;~. wi21 the idoxtiijr my iife. I nccd. It's gircn I am mc 

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33-ycar.0 ldcnlit Y d. fi:$ GlasLonbur:; brought a 21 wron.: and person prqaant at the by wrong thc sto:y The a Cv;:;;.: h t her sutiishcd $~3?,,$ st a she aid. mc i ou$;-: scre ?ow ir'~$~ingto chaRsc 

woman Ute U~WC~CO~C ~CWS 

!i:y,: said alciy miss2clicd. 

:;I g:ccb. "~t's a natural 1 

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Ms. Trickctt. 

She also lcarncd Be was cu:i~:i?y ,vhcro you to want to know 

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"We both have lcrribic born of ]on! aifj;;. her 

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eyes," she said \~i:k a !ugh, molhcr had wl;jIc mz:-j;; ""I* ..V 

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rcfcrrini! to Lhci: us* of cYc- anothcr man in tkc ;:cd oly;ic rca!ly frustrating 

~~~SSCS. scrviccs. Ilcr molhcr ;xu? t:i:.; .3 ;c :old to 

The rcunion was ccicbm:- div,?rccd and rcn;cic2. 

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d:.$ '?mu 

ed \vith a cake :ha; SZJ~. MS. Trickctt oven!d:i;:.!c- !rt3 

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sltc sald. 

"Wclcomo Linda." cotcd hcr molhcr's lict ;.-;. ,LC;; .;.:.:; :,a sin- 

Ms.T:ickclts~id.":.;ynoLl- band and contac:

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