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Regularly practicing empathy allows us to better understand each team member, particularly during stressful times. Understanding these emotions enables us to frame our goal-setting and accountability conversations effectively. After all, it is often not just what was discussed that motivates people but also how the message was conveyed and received. #empathy #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness #leadershipskills #selfleadership

EMPATHY!! It's not: Overpowering the conversation Ignoring their non-verbal cues Saying, "I know how you feel" Telling them to "toughen up" Assuming you understand Minimizing their problems Rushing the conversation Dismissing their feelings Trying to fix it for them Focusing on yourself Being indifferent Offering clichés Giving advice Interrupting A quick fix Judging Pity It is: Patience Listening Awareness Being curious Holding space Showing respect Offering comfort Asking to confirm Being truly present Sharing their silence Validating experiences Respecting boundaries Gently asking questions Reflecting emotions back Acknowledging their truth Being emotionally available Recognizing their perspective Develop and show empathy:- 1. Listen Actively Focus fully on the speaker without interrupting. 2. Reflect Feelings Say, "It sounds like you're feeling..." 3. Ask Open-Ended Questions Gently encourage them to share more. 4. Avoid Judgment Keep an open mind and heart. 5. Offer Support, Not Solutions Say, "How can I support you?" 6. Practice Patience Give them time to express themselves. Empathy is a journey, not a destination. ➟ It helps you build trust. ➟ It makes you a better leader. ➟ It deepens all of your relationships. ➟ It's a key to success in business and life. Practice empathy daily. Your life will be better for it.

The power of vulnerability, kindness, and empathy as business tools is often resisted because people see the success of individual leaders who are not role models for empathic or vulnerable leadership. These ego-driven leaders are highly visible simply because they are individuals. They can self-promote loudly in the public eye: "Look at me, look at what I've done, isn't this great". Although they are in the minority, they are easy to spot. Empathic leaders will usually be more effective in most normal working circumstances but do so in an almost completely anonymous way. They will be the ones who attribute their success to their team and will see their progress through a focus on others. The messages in this podcast are about building empathy wisely, and in a sustainable way. Those who understand and advocate empathy like Jamil Zaki, or vulnerability, like Brené Brown, emphasize that this is not about dropping core business principles but augmenting the working world with appropriate care and attention to create a happier and more productive culture for your team and company. Exceptional team leaders understand the role that empathy plays in creating high-performing teams and work on their empathy skills (which can be grown) to create better outcomes. Thanks to Sarah Hanson for drawing our attention to this podcast. #vulnerability #empathy #empathicleadership #colleactivealignment #highperformingteams #exceptionalteams Hanlie van Wyk Gloria Gong 宫瑞阳

Empathy is the most underrated skill. 34 ways to know if you. It's not: Overpowering the conversation Ignoring their non-verbal cues Saying, "I know how you feel" Telling them to "toughen up" Assuming you understand Minimizing their problems Rushing the conversation Dismissing their feelings Trying to fix it for them Focusing on yourself Being indifferent Offering clichés Giving advice Interrupting A quick fix Judging Pity It is: Patience Listening Awareness Being curious Holding space Showing respect Offering comfort Asking to confirm Being truly present Sharing their silence Validating experiences Respecting boundaries Gently asking questions Reflecting emotions back Acknowledging their truth Being emotionally available Recognizing their perspective How do you put all of this into action? 6 ways to develop and show empathy: 1. Listen Actively Focus fully on the speaker without interrupting. 2. Reflect Feelings Say, "It sounds like you're feeling..." 3. Ask Open-Ended Questions Gently encourage them to share more. 4. Avoid Judgment Keep an open mind and heart. 5. Offer Support, Not Solutions Say, "How can I support you?" 6. Practice Patience Give them time to express themselves. Empathy is a journey, not a destination. ➟ It helps you build trust. ➟ It makes you a better leader. ➟ It deepens all of your relationships. ➟ It's key to success in business and life. Practice empathy daily. Your life will be better for it. #life #advice #mentalhealthmatters #humanitymatters

30 days of Leadership Empathy (Personal):  Is empathy a strength or a weakness in the workplace?  Where have you seen it be helpful or hurtful?  Is empathy understood the same –across ethnic groups? Understanding how others are feeling and sharing your feelings is crucial in personal relationships. How can you become more empathetic in your personal interactions? Empathy is a cornerstone in personal relationships, serving as the foundation for understanding and connecting deeply with others. It involves recognizing and acknowledging the feelings of those around us and sharing and resonating with these emotions. This profound sense of understanding is vital for nurturing solid and meaningful connections with others. A few years back, I was introduced to active listening. I found that this requires humility and focus (especially for Type A folks who want to understand and get going.  This means- paying full attention to the other person, not just waiting for your turn to speak but genuinely focusing on their words, tone, and body language. It involves asking open-ended questions to encourage people to express themselves more fully and reflect on what they've heard to confirm their understanding. Something else I have found very helpful is to practice perspective-taking.  Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes, imagining their experiences, challenges, and emotions from their viewpoint. This exercise can foster a more profound sense of empathy as you understand their perspective, even if it differs significantly from yours. ESPECIALLY–since you know 1% of what is happening in your world of the person or people you are listening to. This is such a critical point of view to take.   I found understanding my own emotions and being self-aware crucial for developing empathy. Recognizing and understanding my feelings can help you better understand the emotions of others. This self-awareness enables you to empathize without losing yourself in the process. Vulnerability is also a vital tool in understanding and using empathy. Sharing your feelings and experiences can create a safe space for others to do the same. This mutual vulnerability can strengthen bonds and increase mutual understanding. And practicing non-judgment is vital. I approach interactions with an open mind, avoiding quick judgments or assumptions about the other person's feelings or experiences. This openness is essential for genuine empathy, allowing for a deeper, more meaningful connection in personal relationships. And deepens my understanding of my team. So as a leader –how are going to practice empathy today and this week?  Share here so people can gain a better understanding and examples of what they can do. #CISO #CEO #CIO #Leadership #Followership #Teamwork #Cybersecurity #Ownyourjourney

Empathy is not: Claiming, "I understand your feelings" Presuming you know their situation Instructing them to "be stronger" Overlooking body language Neglecting their emotions Hurrying the conversation Problem-solving for them Dominating the dialogue Downplaying their issues Focusing on your needs Resorting to platitudes Cutting them off A rapid solution Criticizing Sympathy Apathy Empathy is: Calm Attentive Inquisitive Consciousness Providing solace Full engagement Expressing regard Joining in their quiet Honoring their limits Creating a safe space Mirroring their feelings Verifying understanding Recognizing their reality Affirming their experiences Posing thoughtful inquiries Acknowledging their viewpoint How to apply this in practice? 6 methods to cultivate and demonstrate empathy: 1. Engage in Active Listening Full attention on the speaker. No interruptions. 2. Echo Emotions Reflect back, "It seems like you're experiencing..." 3. Pose Open Questions Encourage them to elaborate a little more. 4. Don't Judge Maintain an unbiased attitude and heart. 5. Provide Support, Not Just Fixes Say, "What can I do to help you?" 6. Embrace Patience Create the space they need to share their thoughts. Empathy is an ongoing process, not a one-time event. ➟ It deepens trust with others. ➟ It enhances your leadership abilities. ➟ It's essential for professional and personal success. Make empathy a daily practice. It will change your life, and the lives of others. what are your views