Many will go all the way 100 to show or prove their loyalty and this has given rise to the trend known as inheriting beef. Inheriting beef is guided by a commandment from some friendship code published God knows where which states that ”my friend’s enemy is my enemy.” So if your friend is not cool with a certain individual , you know what that means, you definitely can not be cool with that person also. I have seen this trend more popular among women, I mean as much as my fellow female comrades dislike hearing it, guy’s beefs are usually short lived while it’s for a lifetime for the ladies.

So I am supposed to dislike a certain individual on the grounds that they did wrong to someone I care about. It is a tricky and on other occasions messy situation and here is why. Firstly I would advise one to thoroughly investigate and get all the details of whatever scenario that led to the parties involved beefing up before choosing a side or making any other decision. This is because so many times , the one who inherits the beef can be left looking like a fool after realizing that they have been beefing with someone who is rather the wronged in the case. Then I move on to how sometimes the people close to us be it family or friends ,despite us being in good books with someone strain relationships by trying to shove the hate down our throats. What then happens to the one who decided to inherit a certain beef, when the two involved parties do decide to fix the rift . Again you are left looking like a fool.

I know that it’s a tricky situation and I am not trying to stop anyone from being the true ride or die typpa person to people close to them but do so at your own risk. On the other hand, say in a circle of friends, there are two who simply disagreed or wronged each other in a certain way as the one with no beef or pork with anyone you are prone to be in the middle of the drama. From experience you end up being made to feel like you have to chose which a side.

“Inheriting beef” doesn’t have to be deep. Why as a loyal friend would I have the intention to be friendly with people that have only bad things to say about my friends. We don’t have to be homies, & I won’t talk shit about you but I can’t smile w you shem I’m not fake https://t.co/4sTwFK3T26

— nasty (@NobsMathaba) November 3, 2019

I have been in this type of a scenario but for me it was not really supposed to be a hard situation as the two women involved were my friends but not each other’s friends. I ended up feeling like I was being asked to choose a side and this was not a pretty space as the tension just got unbearable. In the end I realized that my being friends with the other person really did not sit well with the alleged wrong party, who felt being friends with me while I still am friends with someone they considered conniving and a couple of other adjectives couldn’t sit well with them.

Efforts to fix the friendship were fruitless and every single thing I tried to do or say seemed to add fuel to the fire, so in the end I ended up not really choosing a side but told the other party that if loving me from a distance gave them peace then so be it. Maybe I was wrong and still don’t understand what it means to be friends or caring for someone but inheriting beefs is not my passion. Or maybe I have double standards over what enrages me or doesn’t when it’s done to someone close to me. So when dealing with friend’s enemies I think you probably have two choices, either bury the hatchet and play nice or just carry on . It might not be as simple but I think we really need to be careful of taking sides when it comes to conflicts between different parties we care about.

Do share in the comments section if you believe in inheriting beef or your experience with it.